Marriage & Divorce - 28 September 2006

Ok this is the problem I've been with my boyfriend for over 4 years now and I'm starting to feel as if I want more out of this relationship, more that it doesn't seem he wants to give. What's strange is that he really wants kids right now but he's scared of marriage. I already talked to him about this. I told him that I felt it was time for more and that if he was not ready that it was ok but if he couldn't give me what I'm looking for then it's best we part ways. I know I might sound pushy but I think I've waited long enough, 4 years is a long time plus I feel I deserve more then what he's willing to give. The problem is that he won't listen to me, he doesn't want to do do what I'm asking him for and he doesn't stay away. I don't know what else to do, I broke up with him but he still comes around and he wants to stick around. What should I do?

2006-09-28 06:01:10 · 20 answers · asked by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2

My friend and her husband both work. He has a 40 hour a week stressful corporate job and makes $85,000 plus bonuses. She works four days a week, 32 hours in the medical field and makes $40,000. Her job is fairly stress freeThey do not have children, just a dog. They agreeded when they first got married that he would care for everything outside the home and she would care for everything inside the home. He has since hired a gardener to care for their lawn. She is stuck doing all of the house cleaning, cooking, laundrey, and caring for their dog. He thinks this is fair because she has one extra day off a week and contributes less to the home financially. But, she is beginning to feel overwhelmed by this. She has tried talking to him, but he stands his ground. My questions is not, what should she do. My question is, should she have to do all of the house work since she works less and contributes less?

2006-09-28 05:54:42 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

I had a buddy who I used to work with at another company, we were cool he was kind of feminine acting but he's not gay. He and I became good buddies for about 3 weeks and every now and again he'll shoot me and email just asking what’s going on or career wise. I must admit he and I only became friends because I was the only female where the both of us worked and we both were temps (for the govmt). I wanted to hang out with him because I enjoy his company and feel like he's a "girl pal" of mine, I am worried about asking my fiancé if it's okay if I hung out with him and my cousin together at the mall because I know in the first 2 months of our relationship (we only dated about 2 wks and I didn't take the relationship serious at first) I cheated and that he may not feel comfortable with me having any male friends but we have been together 3 years now and I haven't cheated nor have any intentions (which I do about 2) because he may not accept it. What should I do?

2006-09-28 05:48:25 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Men only go looking when there is a problem at home, not exciting, not as attractive not as adventurous in the sack or they just whine and complain all the time. Is it that hard to understand that guys do not want to hear that S H I T all the time and that they also want to do exciting stuff not the same old boring routine.

2006-09-28 05:48:10 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 24 years old and have been married 2 years recently i found out my husband was having sex with his boss. I was devestated because my husband and i had spent the last year trying for a baby and the first year of marriage really did not use protection. He had kept saying i was the problem and we had a lot of fights because he thought it was because off the miscarriage i had when i was18 with my first bf. He met me right after and helped me through it. We seperated for 2 months and i started the paper work and so did he for a divorce. While at the bowling ally i actually ran into my ex. bf my first love and the only other guy i dated befor my husband we had seen each other around before and talked. We went out and had some drinks talked about life he turned out to be married 6 months and they had major problems ext. I had sex with him one time thing and now i just found out i am 1 month 1/2 with his child possibly twins.

2006-09-28 05:45:28 · 38 answers · asked by Jessica C 1

I just turned 31, and my boyfriend said something about "dirth 30"?! what the...??

2006-09-28 05:43:49 · 20 answers · asked by Melissa P 1

to be in love with ur babys father or should the feeling stop once the babys there????

2006-09-28 05:42:48 · 19 answers · asked by Shawty Luv 1

I know of a woman who is so emasculating to her spouse and then openly calls her husband a wimp and humiliates him for taking her abuse. Do you think he should leave her and what damage do you think she's doing to her kids? They are boys.

2006-09-28 05:42:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just was curious if I am weird for not caring for "BJ's" . Doesn't really do anything for me at all but dont get me wrong, I do go down on my wife and enjoy doing it but don't care to receive it. Is this something weird? And no its got nothing to do with her cos I didnt care for it when in my previous relationships.

2006-09-28 05:41:42 · 14 answers · asked by Blk Angel 2

The only time my husband wants sex is at night! He doesn't even think about it until it is time for bed and it's not as often as I'd like (maybe 2-3 times a week)! I am so frustrated. I've told him many times that I want more sex, but it's like he doesn't hear me! On Sunday I wore a cute little dress w/ no underwear and he finally noticed late Sunday afternoon, and still made no attempt to have sex w/ me! I always tell him I want him and I need more sex, but nothing changes.
We have been together for 2 1/2 yrs. and just got married in June. It has been like this for a long while now What is going on????

2006-09-28 05:39:05 · 33 answers · asked by what 2

I am now getting re-married but I haven't told my ex-husband. Partly because I know that he harbors some hopes that we will be getting back together eventually. He has depressive states and he does handle things after a reasonable amount of time to work things out for himself mentally. But it has been a relatively short time since the divorce was finalized.

When should I tell him? My wedding is in two months.....

2006-09-28 05:36:49 · 16 answers · asked by goldenlifev 3

married for 2 yrs now and just figured out later on that he have depression{inheritage} which is he kept it secret until you two got married.

if you are in her shoe how do you feel and what do you want to do?? do you have the right to feel upsit or just forget it???

2006-09-28 05:32:42 · 26 answers · asked by confusegirl 1

give up up on the person you are willing to marry ? she showed me she cant be trusted , can did I do the right thing by letting her go ? will I find someone else ?

2006-09-28 05:31:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is love important for a marriage to last?Should you stay even when you've fallen out of love?
Does true love even exists?Should you be with the one who loves you or the one you love?

2006-09-28 05:27:54 · 33 answers · asked by ddko 2

2006-09-28 05:22:27 · 31 answers · asked by forbidnfruit_420 2

10 years ago, I got pregnant and married a man whom I thought I loved. Throughout our marriage, he went to bars on a daily basis and left me to raise our daughter. When he wasn't drinking at the bar, he would bring the beer home and drink there. A few years later, "celebrating" my new job, our youngest daughter was concieved. We bought a house, and I opened up a daycare to stay home with the kids. He still drank. When he would wake up in the morning, I was scared. His hangovers were terrible. I was accused one time of throwing out his shorts (when they were out in the garage, boxed up) He always controlled everything. When I even mentioned his alcololism, he would deny it. When I mentioned how depressed I was, he asked me if he was going to find "his" children drowned in the bathtub. My spirit and soul is gone. I have looked at an apartment and will move this weekend. My daughter is VERY upset with me. How can I re-assure her this is the BEST decision for all of us?

2006-09-28 05:21:59 · 27 answers · asked by Erin 2

MY HUSBAND LEFT ME ABOUT A WEEK AND A HALF AGO AND SAID HE WANTED A DIVORCE. HE STOPS BY TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER BUT THAT IS ABOUT IT. HOW DO YOU FIND WAYS TO RELAX AND FIND WAYS TO MOVE ON WITHOUT HURTING SO MUCH?

2006-09-28 05:20:50 · 9 answers · asked by SB 2

im getting married to the love of my life but after everything weve been trough we are really short on money so i was wondering does any of you know if i buy him a 100 something dollard titanium ring at JC penney is a good idea or is a titanium fake,( i dont want his finger to turn green LOL) please help so i can married the men of my dream. god bless.

2006-09-28 05:14:23 · 17 answers · asked by dont fuck with me 1

a live in boyfriend affect alimony if exwife and boyfriend are living in a house bouught bought by ex wife and husband??

2006-09-28 05:13:36 · 6 answers · asked by brianlr2000 2

if a man has 3 children with a woman and he tells you that he wants to wait until the youngest (being 9) is of age to get a divorce with her


would you stay with him?

2006-09-28 05:12:36 · 14 answers · asked by Missunderstood 1

Some years ago, our apartment building had a fire, the police were running up and down the halls screaming. We barely had enough time to grab the cat. It's the only time I've ever yelled at my wife. We both still have some post traumatic stress from it, can anyone relate? I never believed in that term until that event.

2006-09-28 05:12:33 · 15 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

I like afternoon on a Sat/Sunday best. Bedtime would be my second favorite. I'm not a morning fan (but I'm not a morning person). I understand some people love morning time, though.

2006-09-28 05:12:11 · 21 answers · asked by Poppies_rule 3

2006-09-28 05:10:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

All I get is peck!
I love it! I think it will set the mood! Married 12 years is this common. Ps I have good dental hygene!! I asked her about it and she avoids the question and Saids "I don't know why?!! But I don't I have accepted it but want to know what I might be able to do to chage her mind and get her more romantic.....A bj stopped as soon as we got married....

2006-09-28 05:09:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Are you guys really thinking of someone else while having sex with the woman you love? Like after looking at porn earlier in the day...are you picturing them while you are doing us? Please be honest, not mean...this is heartbreaking for me...

2006-09-28 05:08:09 · 7 answers · asked by justpeachy 1

2006-09-28 04:55:24 · 52 answers · asked by strawberry hill 1

We were together over 10 years, we had children. I confronted him and he admits to being gay. During marriage he tells me he was in love a few times - with men I knew and are also married - had an affair with at least one married guy for about 18 months. Had numerous one night stands. We divorced and he remarried a woman. He now tells our son that he had a bisexual experience and it was a "lapse of judgement and loss of control" and he says he is a bisexual. He seems to think that makes it "better". Don't care if he's gay - I would have supported his lifestyle if that's what he chose. But is he gay or is he bisexual?

2006-09-28 04:53:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-28 04:52:47 · 13 answers · asked by rdelgado34 1

i'm married with one 2 yrs old daughter. i'm 2 years married also. my problem is my wife. she has this attitude that i can't bear. everytime we have a little argument she can't help but end up shouting. which i find very scandalous. just this past few days we also had a little argument and i tried to avoid talking with her. what happened was she keeps on telling our helpers bad things about me. there are some secrets or matters that should be kept only by spouses.. so i decided to tell her frankly that my love for her has gone. since she don't seem to respect me anymore.. and i want a legal separation since there's no absolute divorce here in the philippines. do you think i have a valid reasons or requisites 4 legal separation?

2006-09-28 04:51:56 · 6 answers · asked by $$$ 1

Talk to me about this great obsession with porn. What is it exactly that allows you to look the love of your life in the eyes and tell you they are madly in love with you...only to be on the computer an hour later looking at porn? Is it really and truly something seperate from your partner? i mean, do you guys compare us to the porn stars..or wish that's what you had instead....give me any thoughts and input...thank you (do you still love us the same?)

2006-09-28 04:51:30 · 14 answers · asked by justpeachy 1