2006-09-28 04:55:24 · 52 answers · asked by strawberry hill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, once a cheater always a cheater, is not true in my case and I am sure many cases. I did cheat on the woman I loved before and I felt bad about it. I was foolish to risk such a great relationship. I didn't cheat after my one episode and that was years ago.
2006-09-28 10:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by JistheRealDeal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure most answers will probably be yes they will always cheat, but I tend to disagree. Everybody, and I do mean Everyone has at some point in their life done something wrong or have told someone a big fat lie. You have either asked for forgiveness or said to yourself "if I get out of this I promise to never do it again. So I say no, they won't always cheat because just like you were given a second chance, everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt.
2006-09-28 05:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't agree with that. I think people make mistakes in their life and most people learn from them. Some don't but most do. When you are the cheater and you feel remorse, guilt, regret, sadness for cheating, this consumes you to realize that you truly messed up. That you truly hurt someone you love. It enters your mind 24/7. It never lets up. Yeah, it's wrong being a cheater, but every deserves forgiveness, even if the relationship doesn't continue. But hey, I'm old school.......... :)
2006-09-28 07:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to be wrong but I don't think so. My brother in law cheated on his wife 10 years ago losing her and the kids .He was "madly" in love with the "other woman" who contaminated their marriage .He bought a house with the OW bla,bla ,bla ,he said he was sorry for cheating on his wife ,that he was wrong and now he is been sneaking around with a divorce neighbor for a while and lying to the woman he once cheated with on his exwife 10 years ago. Nice hah?.So he went back to his old habits once he got bore.So I guess, cheaters will cheat again .To me they lack the ability to work on a relationship in the "bad times"something that require maturity ,commintment and dedication and also it is a matter of values.A person with values knows and understant how disgusting and socialy wrong unfaithfulness is and the pain that cause to others.What ever happened of being honest and cut clean if something realy does not work .Also another thing cheaters are good at how well they seem to promise they won't cheat it again.
2006-09-28 06:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by jubileejoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's how I see it - If a person cheats and is forgiven they do not have to answer for their actions and in most cases have now learned that they can get away with it, especially with the person they cheated on. If the person cheats and because of that, the relationship ends, they have learned that they can not get away with it. So yes, if they promise never to do it again they are very likely to do it again with you. They may learn their lesson if you make them accountable for their actions and end the relationship. If that happens then the next person will benefit from your good sense. Unfortunately you have to go through the pain to allow others to be happy, but if it helps in the long run isn't it worth it? On the other hand if their are children involved then you should consider forgiving with the understanding that you can not trust this person in the future.
2006-09-28 05:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer to that is simply put once a CHEATER always a CHEATER. I do believe that them mean what they say when they promise to stop but sooner or later the promise gets foggy and a new challenge comes along. Sorry wish I had MORE POSITIVE ANSWER
2006-09-28 04:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some cheaters will only do it once and will learn their lesson as they feel bad about it and know that it hurt the person that they love but other cheaters will so it and get away with it so many times that when they get caught they will promise not to do it again but temptation will take over them and they defanitley will cheat again. if its real love nobody should ever cheat or feel the need to cheat.
2006-09-28 04:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some cheater change, but usually not if they are still with the same person they cheated on. Most change once they've moved into a different relationship.
2006-09-28 04:59:23 · answer #8 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheaters do change, they may not always cheat but they will always lust. you can not but your trust in man, only in GOD. man will fail you.. if the person made a promise not to cheat then you should take it one day at a time, because the cheater will tell you, no one is perfect.
2006-09-28 05:10:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my relationships with my hubby, friends, and friends of friends it seem to be very true that once a cheater always a cheater is true. I believe in giving benefit of the doubt still hoverer. My motto is when doing anything wrong once is a mistake and all humans make mistakes and can learn from them... but the second time is no mistake and out you go....
2006-09-28 05:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by looking for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋