Just was curious if I am weird for not caring for "BJ's" . Doesn't really do anything for me at all but dont get me wrong, I do go down on my wife and enjoy doing it but don't care to receive it. Is this something weird? And no its got nothing to do with her cos I didnt care for it when in my previous relationships.
2006-09-28 05:41:42 · 14 answers · asked by Blk Angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm thinking it's not being done right. I think any man that's enjoyed a good BJ craves them. I apologize to all you girls that have men that "don't care for them", but if you think about it, as much as you like to receive, have you ever had anyone down there while you are thinking about what you're going to wear to work tomorrow?? Just wishing you could kick him in the face and say I have things to do, GO AWAY!??
If you drink sour milk, (NO PUN INTENDED!) I'm sure it won't be what you're looking to wash that chocolate cake down with next time.
I see you're married, so I won't suggest you go pay for a good one :-)
My only other thought is that a man may see this as "slutty" behavior and not want to associate their wife with it.
2006-09-29 09:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not weird. You perhaps are more embarrassed about it than you let yourself know. Or your real enjoyment is in giving not receiving.
For you to really enjoy a BJ you have to give yourself permission to believe you deserve to be made love to. It is perhaps the only real way a woman can make love to you. There are multiple ways men can make love to their wife's but not so many otherwise.
The only way you could ever enjoy it is if you totally relax and believe that she really does want to do that for not only for you but for her enjoyment too. If you could come to that you may change your mind.
For some reason we men are programmed to believe making love is a one way street. She lays their and we make love to her.
I have that problem and am just fine with it that way but I think I have missed out in a lot of ways.
Bottom line is do what you feel comfortable with. But listen to her and if she would enjoy something you never have done give it a try. You may be very surprised.
The only thing weird in love making is if you want to bring pain or discomfort into it. Then you should back off and ask why.
2006-09-28 12:59:48 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that in my case if a woman isn't into it then I am not that excited about it. I have been with women that have great technique and are totally into it. It makes a world of difference.
By the way you just know what you like, nothing weird about that.
2006-09-28 12:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not All guys like it. I know a man who can do without it..
It is a personal choice. But just wondering if maybe you have never experienced a real good BJ, It is a person choice...
2006-09-28 12:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by just wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just haven't had a good one. No offense to your wife or the past relationships. Get the book, How to tickle his pickle. It will make things a lot better.
But on the other hand, I guess it is possible not to like it???
2006-09-28 12:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife goes down on me, But, I prefer the real thing.
2006-09-28 12:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way but I love to perform. Don't know why and it really doesn't matter. To each his own but I couldn't care either way.
2006-09-28 13:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by ready4it45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends said he doesn't care too much for receiving oral. Said it doesn't do much for him and he'd rather have the "main attraction" as he called it. So no, not wierd, just uncommon I guess.
2006-09-28 12:44:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband is just like you. Here is a ironic story. Before I got married, I never liked to give oral sex. Once I got married I was so attracted to my husband that I wanted to give him oral sex and he just refuses it. When he lets me he always likes it though. One guy even told me before I got married that I woud never get married if I didn't like giving BJ's. LOL that is the irony!
2006-09-28 13:47:52 · answer #9 · answered by jenlovely01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, me neither..every once in a while they're nice but I certainly don't crave them like a lot of other guys do. I like foreplay, giving oral, and just plain intercourse.
2006-09-28 12:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by Rivrav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋