MY HUSBAND LEFT ME ABOUT A WEEK AND A HALF AGO AND SAID HE WANTED A DIVORCE. HE STOPS BY TO SEE OUR DAUGHTER BUT THAT IS ABOUT IT. HOW DO YOU FIND WAYS TO RELAX AND FIND WAYS TO MOVE ON WITHOUT HURTING SO MUCH?
2006-09-28 05:20:50 · 9 answers · asked by SB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Theres no question about it, its one of the hardest things one will do. My mom and dad got divorced and she still loved him, she said she thought it would have been easier if he had died cause then she wouldnt have to see him all the time with other woman. But time heals a lot. You just have to pray about it and put your worries in Gods hands. You cant make someone love you if they don't. So if he isnt willing to work on it then you need to try to grasp the fact that it is over and life isnt going to be what you thought it was going to be. You have to make new plans and dreams for yourself and child. It gets better. I will pray for you! May God bless you!
2006-09-28 05:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only thing that really makes the pain seem a little duller. Working out or taking walks helped me a lot. But, honestly it's been 3 years for me and I still feel hurt at moments. Life isn't better now it's just different. Don't let him see you down and out keep your chin up when you see him and act indifferent to him. In other words don't let him realize how much your hurting. I promise you that as time goes on your hurting will get a little less intense. Sorry for your pain :(
btw..make sure your prepared for the worse, get a good lawyer and there are some divorce sites online that help you realize your not alone in this terrible time of your life.
Good luck!
2006-09-28 12:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by one_daytripper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am divorced, and now remarried, it was a mutual decision for my ex and I to divorce, even though we both wanted out it agreed on that it still wasnt pretty! We fortunately didnt have any children together, but seeming you have a daughter with him, make sure that when she is with the two of you that you dont do any yelling or arguing, just keep it about her, and if it ends up that you start a "heated discussion" one of you should leave until the tension settles. I am sorry to hear that you have to be going through this, but wasnt there some signs that this was coming? Just make sure that you have a few people that you can go to at any givin moment to lean on, family or friends. Just ask them to listen to you vent, if they have any suggestive advise that is fine, but make sure that no one leads you in a direction that you dont want to go, trust me it will all work out in the end. Like I said I am remarried now and I am so IN love with my husband, we have our moments but we get through everything together, and someday you will find that person for you too, just hang in there and stay single for a while, atleast a year, that is the best advise that anyone ever gave me!!
Good Luck
2006-09-28 13:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by dnmhbk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is just like a death. You walk around in a fog just going through the motions. It takes a long time to work through all the levels of hurt. It is even worse if kids are involved because their whole world as they knew it is now gone. Divorce spilts up the family unit and it will never be the same. Just know that others are going through it and seek support from family and friends. Give yourself as much time as you need to heal. The healing process is different for everyone. Good luck and know that God will hold you up even when you can't do it on your own....
2006-09-28 15:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by Betsy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now, it is so fresh that I bet you hurt every minute of the day. In time, this will get less, but you may always have a little of the hurt.
FInd new hobbies, make sure you keep going to Church, you are not alone.
Good luck to you@
2006-09-28 12:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is stay busy.
Maybe it would help if you left during his visits with your daughter.
Make that time your time to do things you enjoy or have to get done.The more your around him the more you are going to hurt.
The pain will lesson with time.There aren't many things you can do to take the pain away.It may help a little if you talk to someone about how you are feeling.Having someone to talk to weather it
be family or friends can really help.
2006-09-28 12:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by kandn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that.
The more things you have going on in your life, the easier it is to move on. If you dont have a job then get one. If you dont go out with friends then go. Get a hobby that you enjoy. Having things that occupy your time will help.
2006-09-28 12:24:31 · answer #7 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
seperation,, darn it was hard for me,, 19 years ago,, but you know it has been good,, i'm still friends with her and she with me,, our daughter is in college,, doing great,, my ex-wife has married three other times working on her next one,, and quess what all those guys know each other,, sometimes,, its better to just sit back and enjoy life,, i take care of my daughter of course and gets more expensive durning college,, lol stay looking if you must,, its all for the better,, i stayed hurting for about two months,,
2006-09-28 12:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by quitelovableman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a bar walk up to the hottest guy in the place and ask him if he wants to have sex.... he'll say yes and you'll have the best sex you've ever had and you'll move on.
2006-09-28 12:28:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rob B 69 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋