We were together over 10 years, we had children. I confronted him and he admits to being gay. During marriage he tells me he was in love a few times - with men I knew and are also married - had an affair with at least one married guy for about 18 months. Had numerous one night stands. We divorced and he remarried a woman. He now tells our son that he had a bisexual experience and it was a "lapse of judgement and loss of control" and he says he is a bisexual. He seems to think that makes it "better". Don't care if he's gay - I would have supported his lifestyle if that's what he chose. But is he gay or is he bisexual?
2006-09-28 04:53:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i agree he is gay and trying to hide the fact by marrying women. if he was bi then he would try it here and the but if he is having affairs and going to it so much its must be his preference he just doesn't want the world to know.... i would also be checked for STD's men have a higher risk of passing disease on and a lower risk of using protection.
2006-09-28 05:15:07 · answer #1 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're asking this because it might make you feel better about yourself and the loss of your marriage if you knew that there was just *no way* you could be what he needed and wanted....? After all, if he just wants a guy, you'd never be what he wanted no matter how hard you tried. But, perhaps, you will be exactly what someone else needs. Meanwhile, it's true, only he knows and only he could tell you. But you will have to feel attractive and worthy within yourself. He, and his responses (or not) can't do that for you anymore...
2016-03-26 21:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my guess is that he is really gay it is just that he seems to need to continue to hide it. Alot of times they marry women for a cover up but can't deny the neighbor is hot...Mabe he can't believe it to himself that he is fully gay. The longer he stays in the closet the more miserable he is gona be.
2006-09-28 05:02:39 · answer #3 · answered by Terry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say bisexual.. Although if he is still messing with men, marrying women may just be a disguise, and he may truly be gay.
2006-09-28 04:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by Justice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BISEXUAL - a person who likes or is attracted to both males and females. Someone who is bisexual might fall in love or choose to have sexual contact with males and females.
You do the math!
Good luck and take care!
2006-09-28 04:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've known of guys who would do homosexual acts only under certain circumstances (they're usually cuckolds or submissives).
This might be the case with your ex.
I really don't think that his sexual orientation matters (who but he can say if he is PRIMARILY attracted to men- the definition of homosexuality; or EQUALLY attracted to men and women- the definition of bisexuality). It's obvious that he's into "nonmainstream relationships".
2006-09-28 05:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think this man is gay and is still tryin to convience himself that he's bi. But just don't know how to go about totally comitting to the lifestyle that his body desires.....he is confused and trying to confuse everyone but it don't seem to be workin you know a woman intuintion is a hell of a thing your radar is right on the money. If you and he are friends sit him down and tell him he need to be honest with himself he's hurting no one but himself and denying himself to be comfortable with who he is
2006-09-28 05:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by mojajazmo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My divorced uncle is another bi-man. Women should avoid these weirdos like the plague if they want a happy family life.
2006-09-28 05:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The man is gay, and he is in denial about the whole thing. Reason he got married, so that he will feel "normal". He needs to except what he is before it eats him away.
2006-09-28 05:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by Brezzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's more than comfortable going either way, by any reasonable definition, that would mean that he is bi.
In all honesty, isn't (almost) everyone ? to one degree or another ? even as far as thoughts ? if you did a sliding scale, 0 being completely straight, 100 being completely gay, most of us are in single digits. your ex would be more like 50 or higher.
2006-09-28 05:16:44 · answer #10 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋