if a man has 3 children with a woman and he tells you that he wants to wait until the youngest (being 9) is of age to get a divorce with her
would you stay with him?
2006-09-28 05:12:36 · 14 answers · asked by Missunderstood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Nope, that is a crock. What the hell dif does the age of the children make if he is not even with the wife?
2006-09-28 05:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he's stringing you along. Please don't fall for it. He has three children with the first woman. So there is something there. He has, maybe some unmet needs going on, and that is where you come in. But really, if he wanted to be out of the relationship, he would just do it.
It has nothing to do with the kids. It is about him. And about his TRUE woman. You are the chick on the side. And keeping you a secret means you aren't the one who matters. Because make no mistake, the one who matters will be represented completely, not left back in the shadows to 'wait'..........
I don't know how you feel about yourself. But I grew up after a few bad relationships, and came to an appreciatation and respect for myself. After age 20, I decided that I would NEVER be a #2. I would be #1 or nothing at all. And since then, I have not been disappointed.
I filed for divorce a few months ago, it was overall a bad situation, HOWEVER........whatever he was doing (I don't know for sure...but I've heard rumors) I was always represented to the fullest, and I was the WIFE. No women came before me, period. And if there were any, the ones that lurked in the shadows, in secret didn't matter because he didn't think enough of them to leave me. And they didn't think enough of themselves to demand better.
You must look upon yourself as Queen Bee. And demand/command that respect and treatment of all you become involved with. Why should they think highly of you, if you don't set standards, and think highly of YOURSELF???? =)
2006-09-28 05:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not stay, and what exactly is the right age? The children are going to have emotional scars whether they are 4 or 14 yrs old. You might want to consider the possibility that he won't divorce her. Heard of the saying its cheaper to keep her?
2006-09-28 05:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand this question right and your are his "mistress" then, HA the joke is on you! You thought he was going to divorce her for you?? Don't hold your breath. His son will turn 9 then 10 then 11 and you will STILL be waiting for him to divorce. Don't break up someone else's marriage. Find yourself a single guy who you won't loose your self respect for.
2006-09-28 06:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the tell tale sign of "I want my cake and eat it too"
And what is going to happen when the kid turns 9 and he doesnt leave?
Thats why you dont get involved with married men in the first place ladies!
2006-09-28 05:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by jenn j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! LOTS OF GOOD THINGS CAN HAPPEN IN THAT LENGTH OF TIME.
Be thankful he wants to stay put and be a father to the children, giving them a home and both parents. So many men could care less.
2006-09-28 11:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him you are not with him now you are the side whore, and he is not going to leave her for you, he will however keep sleeping with you and lying to you as long as you let him
2006-09-28 05:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mr K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repeat after me, "I'm being a doormat." If you he can talk you into waiting for 10 years until his kids leave please do not buy any real estate in Florida.
2006-09-28 05:28:52 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby you dont that kinda s h i t you need better man dat can be with and only you love and respect you
2006-09-28 05:15:51 · answer #9 · answered by bonnie3bd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, WOULDN'T BE WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE. HAVE TOO MUCH RESPECT FOR MYSELF TO MESS WITH A MARRIED MAN.
2006-09-28 05:26:45 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋