I am now getting re-married but I haven't told my ex-husband. Partly because I know that he harbors some hopes that we will be getting back together eventually. He has depressive states and he does handle things after a reasonable amount of time to work things out for himself mentally. But it has been a relatively short time since the divorce was finalized.
When should I tell him? My wedding is in two months.....
2006-09-28 05:36:49 · 16 answers · asked by goldenlifev 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Although it may hurt him initially, its better to hear it from you rather someone else. Pragmatically, you are not at fault. In as much as he has been dealing with depression, you might be surprised at the results of him accepting your new found love. Just because you are re marring, doesn't equate to the end of your friendship with your ex-husband. There are many couples turned out to be best friends after the divorce. Good luck and congratulations on your new marriage!
2006-09-28 05:42:19 · answer #1 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him bcuz he could still believe he can get back in and try and your husband will put a halt to that. He will probably be more depressed hearing it from someone else rather than hearing it from you. I think you know he will be upset bcuz it is a short amount of time since the divorce. You may still be giving him hope by talking to him or bcuz some people work it out after short amounts of time. You have went and met someone and planned to marry them to. You make sure he does not pull a move and do anything to you. When you do tell him I hope it is over the phone and I hope he doesn't know where you live.
2006-09-28 05:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Uh, how about now?!? Actually, telling him as of yesterday would have been better.
It seems like all this friendship the two of you have been displaying since the divorce has not lead to the talk of you two living a life separate from each other.
Don't leave him waiting in the wings. He needs to find a place in his life where he can move on, just like you did. Since the two of you are such good friends, maybe you can help him to better understand how happy you are with your current situation. You never know, he could be waiting for you to come back (like you said) but at the same time, he could also be happy for you. Talk to him first and then worry about his good or bad reaction. Good luck!
2006-09-28 06:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Raya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mental state shouldn't be your problem. It's his weakness.
Are you sure there's no chance of getting back with him? Be sure before jumping into a marriage.
As for telling him, let him know now I guess, if he's still in your life at a steady thing.
But don't let his weaknesses bring you down. You can love him in a part of your heart, but not feel guilty.
2006-09-28 05:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him now. It will give him more time to get used to the idea . before the day of the marriage. The later you tell him, the harder it will be on him. And what if he hears it from someone first , before you ? Good Luck with your decision ... I know it isn't easy. :)
2006-09-28 05:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
on condition that you adult adult males have a 2 month previous baby at the same time, i'd reccommend attempting to peacefully co-exist at the same time, for the youngster's sake. you do not ought to love one yet another, only be well mannered and pleasant. possibly it really is what he's speaking about.
2016-11-25 00:41:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him now. Two months is very soon, he needs some time to come to grips with the whole situation.
2006-09-28 05:39:06 · answer #7 · answered by Lolli 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well you dont owe him any information regarding your life but if you keep in contact with him...Ya MUST tell him and you may as well do it now.
2006-09-28 05:40:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him soon. He is going to find out and the sooner the better.
2006-09-28 05:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
quickly tell him before he finds out and overreacts to the situation.
2006-09-28 05:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋