Marriage & Divorce - 18 September 2006

2006-09-18 11:48:29 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been together for a year and a half and living together for about a year.

2006-09-18 11:38:56 · 25 answers · asked by Anthony 2

I know men are visually stimulated creatures. I am smart enough to know that I am not the only naked woman my husband wants to see for the rest of his life. I always promised myself that I wouldn't make a big deal out of porn as long as it didn't affect his intimacy with me. I recently discovered that my husband has been looking at porn A LOT, even going so far as to create a "secret" email account used to create identities to dating websites. When confronted, he said that he felt like we just don't see each other anymore (we typically have sex once a week at the least), and didn't want to bother me to wake me up when he was "in the mood" (I get up at 4am for work). He also claimed that some of the sites he visited were out of curiousity; what this and that celebrity looked like naked. I am trying not to make a big deal about this but can't shake the feeling that he is thinking about anyone but me when we are making love, and am hurt by the secrecy of the email. Am I stupid?

2006-09-18 11:33:25 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband is gone now. I gave him 200%. Trying to show him he could trust me, that i loved him, that no one on earth was more desirable. He sucked the life out of me slowly. He pulled me away from my kids, my family, the things i loved, to convince me that without him i was nothing. i am an independant woman, and i think never forgetting that is the only thing that helped me keep a sane head on my shoulders. After a year of research, his projection of the bad in his life onto my shoulders, i discovered the disease of NPD.
My Question: Any of you faithful readers ever dealt with this? Did you give them your all, just to be knocked in the dirt? How do you make them deal with their sickness? Can you turn the tables and take their control from them? Can you make them realize that they lost the best love they ever could have had? What did you do in your own personal experience? I am in the grieving process, and it is hard. I want to know i can hold my head up someday.

2006-09-18 11:22:57 · 12 answers · asked by Elly 3

my parents got divorced when i was three but they still talk and get along. My dad got the kids and thinks thats the only thing he has better than her. Im a teenage girtl who needs to be with her mom. how do i tell my dad i want to live with my mom not him.

2006-09-18 11:22:18 · 22 answers · asked by tee 1

Im a mom and I know have to be responsible for that area of my life, but I have no energy and I cant let my man know or he use this against me in a fight...I dont know what to do.

2006-09-18 11:19:35 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

For my Brother..
My wife left we were having problems, i admitt at times i could of done things differently and listen to her a bit more, but she has done things to me as well. When i got home from work she left with our two year old girl and is staying with her family. She said that she wasnt happy for a while now and that she needs to be able to get freedom. See they dont have money for a car right now but she doesnt think thats the reason why we dont have one she thinks i want her to stay at home, but thats not true. She says she needs me to prove to her that i will listen to her when she needs things. I will do anything for her, but how can i show her that i will and never screw it up again. I need to prove this to her..please help me.

2006-09-18 11:18:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

myself and my husband dont share the same room...or bed or life for that matter

2006-09-18 11:18:02 · 7 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4

I stumbled into this mess. Lost my 35 year old wife, had a girl who is 20 years old fall hoplessly in love with me 2 years ago when she was 18. Unable to shake her, inspite of many attempts thinking it was for the best. She loves me so much it seems her heart would break should I leave her. She asked me to marry her. I can't shake this uneasy feeling, she is so young, and i feel there will be a lot of barriers to being able to settle down with her. Unsure what to do, have tried really, should I just accept this fate? Living my life with a 20 year old girl to the shock of my family and friends?

2006-09-18 11:17:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

It's been 3 months and my husband has made every excuse in the world not to work. Thing is we have been together for 10 years and he left me a few months back for another woman. When he moved out with her he had a job and paid rent and even paid for her personal things. He sent no money to me for the kids. Then he came back and we decided to get married. Since he's been back he has made no effort to get a job. I have set him up with interviews and he doesn't go or he just tells me he's depressed. I'm not sure what to think. We are intimate with eachother and he spends the majority of his time with me (when I'm not at work) or calling me. I'm not worried that he may be still seeing her but what could he be thinking? I just don't know what to do. I cannot support all of us on my income and we are drowning in debt now. Before he came back I had perfect credit money on the cards and in my bank now I'm all tapped out. I'm ready to give him an ultimatum.

2006-09-18 11:15:49 · 13 answers · asked by been there 2

have sex with another woman while he watches??? That is all my husband talks about..I have never been with another man, let alone another woman! Anyone elses husband ask this?? And men, why is this a turn on for you? I have asked my husband outside of the bedroom, thinking it was just talk, but he is serious and wants to start looking for someone!

2006-09-18 11:15:33 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1

i thought i did until i met someone who can't control his emotions, which is mainly anger... i find myself drawn into a certain state (which i'm not by nature, such as shouting and swearing) cause if i dont raise my voice his loudness will drown out my soft by nature voice...so we realized we're not made for each other, but he says, at least he's in touch with his emotions unlike other guys??

2006-09-18 11:07:04 · 23 answers · asked by Wisdom 4

ok im a 17 yr old girl and me and my husband got married like 2 months ago not very longs ago and he said he was goin to work and he wasnt dressed up in his work clothes he was in fancy clothes so i called his work to c if he was there and the guy that answered the phone said no he doesnt work today and i asked if my husband went in ther at all today like a few hours ago and he said yah he just left a hour ago so i asked do u know wher he went and he said yah to the construction site(its a bar) and my best friend works there and i called and i asked her if she saw him if she could keep a eye on him to see if he was a round any other girls and that bar u can u know be naked and stuff and she saw him naked w/ another girl layin down on the floor w/ her and they were doin u know what not usin condoms so the girl has to be pregnent by him but what hurts me is im alrdy 2 weeks pregnent and then he turns around and gets anothergrlpregnent idont wantadivorcei luv him 2 much.any suggestions?

2006-09-18 11:05:34 · 35 answers · asked by staryeyes96 2

He husband stole her money, left a note and took his clothes. She wants a divorce quick, cheap and legal. They don't have much money or possesions to worry about. She just wants him out of is life. Is there anywhere on the internet or anywhere else she could go to get information and start proceedings without a lawyer?

2006-09-18 11:05:25 · 12 answers · asked by Teri M 1

2006-09-18 11:04:30 · 2 answers · asked by Jack Jack 4

we have 4 kids and i love her so much but she says she never loved me...

2006-09-18 11:01:01 · 25 answers · asked by surge p 1

My man and I have been together since I was 16 and after we had our first son we got married and have ben for almost four years, well one night I went out with a friend and celebrated her birthday and I got home late. When I got home he lost his temper and well, broke my tail bone and if it wasn't for my friend he would have gotten away with it but she called the police and he ran. That night both of our children gotten taken away from me becuase the police were worried that he would come back and do it again. Well I have gotten my children back and we have been trying to work things out but he doesn't let me do anything without him. I cannot even go to my mother's house without him, when I talk to my friends on the phone he asks me who, what and why then gets mad when I talk too long. Not only that he doesn't want me to talk to the friend that called the police but she and I have been friends since before I knew him, I love him but I think it is just because of my kids, what should I?

2006-09-18 10:51:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

A mans role as a husband?

2006-09-18 10:46:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

he's been in and out of jail, in and out of rehab. i have raised my son ALONE for 3 1/2 years now (that includes pregnancy). I'm going to school full time and trying to keep things up and happy.

his father has given him nothing-- has not been there, no money, etc.

i have been trying to make it work-- two hour drives to see him in rehab, took my son to visit him in prison.

and finally, months ago, i decide to give up. i started seeing someone and i'm finally happy with how things in life are going. he keeps trying to contact me. he is horrible to me. he is a sociopath and i dont want him any where near my son because he is only going to hurt him.

i think i can only get a restraining order if he trys something......i dont know the rules exactly...

what can i do???????

i'm in california btw.

thanks!

2006-09-18 10:42:38 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am very confused on what i should do. I have been with my husband for eight years and we have three children. technically we are no longer married. but we have always been together. i put up with a lot from him. he is very abusive both physically and mentally. he also finds the need to have female friends online. he is very very involved with them. he is addicted to porn and has no concern for my feelings involving any of the above stated faults. he is threatening to leave me once he gets his tax return. unless i can accept all that he does and not complain or argue about it. which is next to impossible.
once he leaves then i will be alone. due to my religious beliefs i will never remarry or have any relationship. so should i just put up with all of this or resign myself to a live without a man?

by the by, i only just a few months ago got a job. so i have absolutely no money saved for when he does leave. any help or advice would be most appreciated.

2006-09-18 10:38:03 · 59 answers · asked by Andrea G 1

we got married so that I could get a permanent visa to be with my american husband in the US now he says he wants a no-fault divorce is there anything i can do outside of the US regarding this issue

2006-09-18 10:33:04 · 4 answers · asked by mallieboosnr 1

is anyone else married, or have you been married to someone on methadone? how is it working for you? do they fall asleep all the time? if you're not married to them, why did you get divorced?

2006-09-18 10:31:59 · 6 answers · asked by samborambo86 1

I know now that a man's number one basic need is respect so I gradually started by observing how other female even" girllfriends "did it,watched his response and followed suit.The thing is he keeps pushing me away and tells me to stop making such a big deal of it but then turns around and says that I do not give show him appreciation or respect.What gives?

2006-09-18 10:29:52 · 12 answers · asked by JUSEve 2

2006-09-18 10:29:25 · 17 answers · asked by allie 1

2006-09-18 10:26:27 · 12 answers · asked by blkboi 1

My wife threw out my favorite T-shirt. Should I forgive her? How can I, it was vintage, at least 15 years old. I'm devastated.

2006-09-18 10:25:52 · 22 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

Married for 15 years (happily - I thought). Husband has recently become very depressed and has treated me unfairly. He has had innappropriate relationships (non sexual) with two other women over the past 8 years. Though he swears their is nobody else, he's saying that he doesn't love me as he knows he should - and he doesn't know what to do about it . He's been very distant towards me lately and says he's struggling with "liking himself". He is seeing a councellor tomorrow. I just don't know if I'm being foolish for sticking around and being rejected or whether I'm doing the right thing and "hanging in there" for the sake of our marriage (we have no children).

2006-09-18 10:24:10 · 4 answers · asked by Canada 1

My best friend met this guy online, but even though she is very pretty and elegant, has a problem with her weight, he really liked her & said he loved her so much, she didn't really tell the guy about it, and the guy changed towards her after meeting, became distant, they still talk but not the same, she is heart-broken, what would you do?
I hate to see her like that. She has a lot going for her. (She hasn't been able to lose the weight)

2006-09-18 10:21:44 · 19 answers · asked by You are loved 5

My wife and I interviewed at the same company. She got the job and I didn't. She already has a great job and a chance to make supervisor at the current job. She will be making less money to begin with at the new job. She probably will not know about the supervisor's job before she has to give a notice. I know she thinks I am bitter, but I really think she should stay at the old job. How do I tell her this without making it a big issue?

2006-09-18 10:17:38 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i've married my husband in april this year, we are desperate to split up but i've just read on some website that i can only legally apply for divorce after ONE YEAR! is this true? i want to ensure my property, if i die, goes to my sister, i have a prenuptial in place protecting my possessions and he has his own...i have an op next week and i'm thinking of this more than ever...i'm SO worried!

2006-09-18 10:15:10 · 18 answers · asked by Wisdom 4