ok im a 17 yr old girl and me and my husband got married like 2 months ago not very longs ago and he said he was goin to work and he wasnt dressed up in his work clothes he was in fancy clothes so i called his work to c if he was there and the guy that answered the phone said no he doesnt work today and i asked if my husband went in ther at all today like a few hours ago and he said yah he just left a hour ago so i asked do u know wher he went and he said yah to the construction site(its a bar) and my best friend works there and i called and i asked her if she saw him if she could keep a eye on him to see if he was a round any other girls and that bar u can u know be naked and stuff and she saw him naked w/ another girl layin down on the floor w/ her and they were doin u know what not usin condoms so the girl has to be pregnent by him but what hurts me is im alrdy 2 weeks pregnent and then he turns around and gets anothergrlpregnent idont wantadivorcei luv him 2 much.any suggestions?
2006-09-18 11:05:34 · 35 answers · asked by staryeyes96 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
whack him in the pee-pee
2006-09-18 11:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not going to pull any punches or sugarcoat this answer, it may sound brutal but its really not, I am not judging, rather telling it like it is in my life experiences.
First of all having a revenge affair will accomplish nothing. The next thing is you can't stop him from cheating. An affair is not an accident, its a conscious decision, a choice, his choice. His actions show he is all about "me," his actions show he is selfish and not deserving of your love.
You married a man with little or no character and values. He is having unprotected sex with another woman, your first concern should be your health, and if you are pregnant, your babies health. STD's are rampant, and can cause you to have a miscarriage or worse, can cause birth defects in the child.
You say you don't want to divorce him, that is probably as bad a mistake as marrying him in the first place. I know reading those words hurt, but I think you will find them to be true. You said you were a 17 year old girl, not a 17 year old woman. You are not much more than a child yourself.
You have made a poor choice in a man for a husband, he will just as likely be a poor father.
If I was you I would move back home to your parents if they will have you and file for a divorce. If you are pregnant he will have to pay child support as well as may have to be responsible for half the prenatal expenses.
At 17 you may think you have found the love of your life, but in all honesty you have just started on what will probably be a life of pain and disappointment if you stay married to him.
2006-09-18 11:23:01 · answer #2 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you knew all to well what you were getting into when you married this guy. More than likely, you thought that you would be able to change him. Then you let other people into your business, by telling them (her) to keep an eye on your husband and you call his job to check to see if he'd went to work, by now he's the big joke at work, but you love him.
At 17yrs, you really don't know love, he did a GIT-R-DONE job on you. if you leave him, you still lose, because he's got that other girl. But you can leave, forget about him, go home to mah and pah and start over with you and your child.
Oh, finish school, get an education and be somebody or you will be the talk of the town
2006-09-18 11:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by WOODSAK 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look here. . . u dont need 2 bring a baby in that kind of situation. Think about what's best for your child. You are getting ready 2 be a MOTHER and u need 2 start thinking like one. Any man that will cheat on u ESPECIALLY IF HE'S YOUR HUSBAND. . will DOG u. He aint worth u stressing like this. U need someone who will be there with u and lay by u while u go through the trimesters of being preganant with HIS child. LET HIM GO HONEY no matter how much u love him. ya know what they say, ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER.
2006-09-18 11:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by Baby G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can never stop a man from cheating on you if that is what he wants to do. You have to accept his behavior and go on or get a divorce. I know from my 2 marriages that ended in divorce that a man that cheats will almost always keep cheating.
I think that you got married at too young an age to start with and that your husband is immature.
2006-09-18 11:14:43 · answer #5 · answered by Linda L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whoa. This story is all kinds of weird!
-a married 17 year old
-first he's "doesn't work today" then "he left an hour ago"
-your husband cheats on you where your best friend works
-your best firend works at a bar where people have sex out in the open
Where the hell do you live?!?!?!?
2006-09-18 11:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by groovychica1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Your parents let you get married? Give me a break. You can't stop a guy from cheating on you. Period. If he wants to, he will. You need to go on with your life without this guy. Pregnant or not... and if you're only 2 weeks pregnant, it can still be taken care of. BUT, if you'd rather keep the baby, that is your choice. You can still go on without this guy. Who wants to keep a guy who you KNOW is going to cheat over and over again...
Oh, and just because he had sex with this girl once without a condom, doesn't necessarily mean that he got her pregnant.
2006-09-18 11:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by mamafence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay - first of all what are you doing getting married at 17 years old? Second of all you should be concerned about school and learn how to use punctuation in your paragraph. I hope at least you will continue on in your education. He already cheated on you and as you stated, got another girl pregnant. Best advice is LEAVE HIM.
2006-09-18 12:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off I wouldn't be worried about the girl being pregnant but about what kind of diseases she might have. That place sounds very dirty and nasty! As for your husband I would leave the jerk because he IS downright nasty to be going to a place like that and are you sure that that was his only time? Who knows how many other girls he's had sex with. Your child and you should come first!
2006-09-18 11:14:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut off an apendage...
no not really. welcome to the beginning of your time in the real world.you were too young to get married. i'll bet you realise that now?well at least you didnt have to waste years of your life thinkin your lilman was something more. i'm a man 48 years old. i know those types of guys are abundant. i for one am different. i can do anything i want without lying. say hello to me now; cause it will be awhile before you talk to another like me. just hang in and concentrate on your kid. they are great! they are a true test of endurance. but you love em and they you.when my son was born. his mother began goin to werk and not comming home. so i do know. i worked with one arm and held him with the other a couple times.i never kept him from his ma and i never said a bad word about her. so she moved out of state. after she got out of jail . so did my little man. life goes on...
2006-09-18 11:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop a person from cheating, all the trying, begging, threatening, spying in the world will not stop someone from cheating if thats the kind of person they are. If you dont want a divorce, try to work it out, remember, it takes two. It's not a good sign after only two months of marriage. good luck
2006-09-18 11:14:09 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋