It's been 3 months and my husband has made every excuse in the world not to work. Thing is we have been together for 10 years and he left me a few months back for another woman. When he moved out with her he had a job and paid rent and even paid for her personal things. He sent no money to me for the kids. Then he came back and we decided to get married. Since he's been back he has made no effort to get a job. I have set him up with interviews and he doesn't go or he just tells me he's depressed. I'm not sure what to think. We are intimate with eachother and he spends the majority of his time with me (when I'm not at work) or calling me. I'm not worried that he may be still seeing her but what could he be thinking? I just don't know what to do. I cannot support all of us on my income and we are drowning in debt now. Before he came back I had perfect credit money on the cards and in my bank now I'm all tapped out. I'm ready to give him an ultimatum.
2006-09-18 11:15:49 · 13 answers · asked by been there 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first of all baby girl you messed up by letting him come back. You never let a man come back to you once he has left for another woman. Apparently he finds some type of comfort in you and know you will put up with anything to be with him and that is why he has your taking care of him. Leave his *** temporarily without a phone number to call. Ignore him he will be like a dog sitting at the damn door step waiting for you to open up and feed him. Sometimes you have to be strong and fight fire with fire
2006-09-18 12:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way you describe him, he sounds like a total loser... What are the redeeming qualities? Why did you even married him? I don't know what to say other than you made your bed etc. You can't make someone work if they don't want to. If for whatever reason he's worth keeping around, then you have to find a way to support your family. If not - dump him. But if you stay with him, I'm afraid you'll have to put up with and accept his dysfunctional ways.
2006-09-18 18:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give him an ultimatum. He's not even trying to provide for you and your family. He's depressed because he's not working and isn't holding his weight in the family. No one can make it on one income any more.
2006-09-18 18:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do u want him 4??
he gives u no emotional support
he doesnt provide 4 his family
how do u know he provided 4 this other woman and she didnt get same treatment and she didnt throw him out?
u dont need him u did better without him and as 4 sex u could wait till u met someone worthy of u GET RID B4 HE RUNS U INTO THE GROUND EMOTIONALLY AND FINANCIALLY
2006-09-18 18:28:31 · answer #4 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Terminate his membership to the I.W.W. Club (I Won't Work) by booting him out. Problematic people like this you can live without just fine.
2006-09-18 18:22:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick Him Out, You could Do Better
2006-09-18 18:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him dollar or two send him to him get candy , have your locks changed, don't let him return. He is a bum and a don't care about you or he'd get off lazy behind hit employment office.
2006-09-18 18:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a loser! Why would you take a loser like that back? Dump him, girl! You are better off w/out him! Good luck!
2006-09-18 18:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Pildi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt take it i have been a hard worker all my life and would not let my wife want for anything!thats what men are suposed to do right!
2006-09-18 18:31:11 · answer #9 · answered by eddie w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come to me I work and would play with you not your mind
2006-09-18 20:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Charles S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋