For my Brother..
My wife left we were having problems, i admitt at times i could of done things differently and listen to her a bit more, but she has done things to me as well. When i got home from work she left with our two year old girl and is staying with her family. She said that she wasnt happy for a while now and that she needs to be able to get freedom. See they dont have money for a car right now but she doesnt think thats the reason why we dont have one she thinks i want her to stay at home, but thats not true. She says she needs me to prove to her that i will listen to her when she needs things. I will do anything for her, but how can i show her that i will and never screw it up again. I need to prove this to her..please help me.
2006-09-18 11:18:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actions speak louder than words. You need to show her that you are willing to listen to her by doing it. She has told you that she would like her freedom from you. You need to give her the freedom that she craves. In the meantime, you need to work on yourself and your marriage. Are you able to go to couples counseling with a therapist to make your relationship stronger? Were you able to give her the necessary things that your family needed? Are you working? Have you told her that you don't mind her working rather than staying at home? Communication is the key to any relationship. Start asking yourself these questions to see what else you can do. Good luck! I hope you can work out your problems in your marriage.
2006-09-18 11:44:13 · answer #1 · answered by cee cee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a car and give it to her - she would then know you really aren't trying to keep her at home. There are ways around the car issue if you need to save to buy one. Calculate the cost of car purchase + registration + insurance + gas, divide that by 52 weeks. Now find what a cab would run for the trips your wife would like to make so she doesn't feel confined to the house. There will probably be a gap that you can continue to save.
At least show her you have given it some serious thought and are trying to make it work. Next work on that listening thing. Being the sole support doesn't make you the all knowing overseer. That will be harder to show, but try.
2006-09-18 11:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by justwondering 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doesnt matter what either of u did or said to eachother.let it go man!she is telling u what she is feeling.....listen! get her a car to give her some freedom to get out a little ...when she wants! get her &your daughter everything they need &some of what they want when u can.if u dont listen someone can &will come along that will listen.....get the picture.....trust my words on this one.
2006-09-18 13:23:08 · answer #3 · answered by ima.trurtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY HER A CAR IT DOESNT HAVE TO BE NEW JUST DEPENDABLE I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO BE HOME WITH NO WAY TO GO TOTHE STORE OR THE DR WE JUST COULD AFFORD ONE I UNDERSTOOD BUT IT DIDNT CHANGE HOW I FELT YOU NEED TO TALK TO HER AND B MORE UNDERSTANDING WHEN YOUR LEFT AT HOME W/ NO WAY TO GO ANY WHEERE YOU FILL LIKE YOU CANT BREATH NOW I HAVE A NICE VAN AND HARDLY GO ANY WHERE BUT AT LEAST I KNOW I CAN
2006-09-18 12:08:38 · answer #4 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk is cheap. she wants actions. If you say you are going to do something, do it.
Words could never "prove" anything anyways - no matter what you say.
2006-09-18 11:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by A Tiger in Athens 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to show her by your actions. Start now.
2006-09-18 11:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by following up on your promises
2006-09-18 11:22:29 · answer #7 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you won't cheat on her any more.
2006-09-18 11:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Rude dog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋