i thought i did until i met someone who can't control his emotions, which is mainly anger... i find myself drawn into a certain state (which i'm not by nature, such as shouting and swearing) cause if i dont raise my voice his loudness will drown out my soft by nature voice...so we realized we're not made for each other, but he says, at least he's in touch with his emotions unlike other guys??
2006-09-18 11:07:04 · 23 answers · asked by Wisdom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh the tantrums is definitely familiar!
2006-09-18 11:10:51 · update #1
Being in touch with your emotions inclued being able to control them, not having them control you. We all get angry sometimes, but it's dysfunctional for it to be the predominant emotion. One can be expressive without being "out of control".
My personal preference is for less-expressive people, since I myself tend to be very reserved.
2006-09-18 11:15:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like my guy to be emotional to an extent, but as for anger it is for me a no go area. I have experienced this in a man and it can change your own personality believe me if you are not careful.
If you have feelings for this guy explain to him how much you dislike his shows of anger and ask him why he does it. Often stress is the cause of anger and once a person admits they have an anger problem they ought to seek help and advice on how to resolve this particular problem.
What I would say is do not put up with his anger tantrums as you are heading for a life time of misery if you do. Speak slowly to him when he loses it and do not rise to the bait. You need to be more assertive as he taking advantage of your quite nature.
It is a choice you will have to make; Do you go or do your stay? My advice is go.
Best wishes
2006-09-18 21:22:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, he is emotional, but he is using the wrong one.. anger isnt something you should be doing much of... my girl likes that I am emotional, but I dont use anger much, i know how to cry and I hold her when I do, that is what she likes, that she helps me in those times and im not afriad to show her that I have feelings too, I help her when she needs me and she helps me when i need her... in my opinion the person you are with should be your best friend also, makes it alot better
it does sound like he just had an anger problem, you will probobly find that most of the guys that are in touch with their emotions havent had many girlfriends if at all, cuz they are the ones that get heartbroken and dont want to get heartbroken again... find someone like that and they will treat you like you deserve, just treat them the same and it will work out...
dont expect them to be emotional right away, it does take time, but I wish the best for you
2006-09-18 11:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by penguin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is great if you found someone that is emotional because it makes them understand your feelings when you are emotional. But I think if it is mainly anger... you should give it some thought. Life is to short to live with Mr. Grumpy so get out and find an outgoing friend till Mr. right comes along. K.
2006-09-18 11:15:17 · answer #4 · answered by veronica m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should break up with him. If you have to go out of character and raise your voice because his is too loud, that is a RED FLAG!!! And if he makes excuses saying that at least he's "in touch with his emotions" and sees nothing wrong with getting angry, that is another RED FLAG. Things like that usually never change, but rather get worse. Be careful, because you might find yourself in an abusive relationship down the road if you don't break up with him now.
2006-09-18 11:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by The New Mrs. Nguyen 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
being aggressive doesnt mean u r in touch with ur emotions it means u cant control them it takes a bigger man to keep his emotions in check and talk about things in an adult way -if he cant b a man only act like a boy then u r right 2 get rid b/c having 2 shout in order 2 b heard isnt right
2006-09-18 11:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by sarah71397 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
emotional guys are great to a point. As long as they have CONTROL of theur emotions. Uncontrolled emotions can lead to abuse or other bad things. Never let a mans emotions make you feel less as a person. If he is just mushy and lovey and sensitive...then he is fine. Never let an angry emotional basketcase get away with it!
2006-09-18 11:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by Angeleyes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's a big difference between a man who can show his vulnerabilities and a man who has anger management issues. I want my man to not be afraid to show his vulnerabilities when he feels vulnerable. I want him to feel safe showing that side of him to me, provided he has control over them.
Your husband may be "in touch" with his feelings, but he is letting them out destructively because he can't control his anger. He may need some anger management classes.
2006-09-18 11:11:33 · answer #8 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-18 11:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by B E R N I E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its nice that a guy shows some emotion when you expect him to, I also like it though when you can cry and they can be the strong one and help you.
2006-09-18 21:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by Vix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋