I know now that a man's number one basic need is respect so I gradually started by observing how other female even" girllfriends "did it,watched his response and followed suit.The thing is he keeps pushing me away and tells me to stop making such a big deal of it but then turns around and says that I do not give show him appreciation or respect.What gives?
2006-09-18 10:29:52 · 12 answers · asked by JUSEve 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He is confused and obviously making you crazy as well.
Ask him to spell out exactly what he wants from you.
2006-09-18 10:32:45 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound like you're investing a lot of emotions and time trying to find out how to please him. is he doing the same for you?
he's giving you mixed messages. this guy needs a stern talking to. ask *him* not us who dont know the full story, why he's giving you conflicting information. (you might not want to start by being confrontational and for example asking..."what kind of drugs are you on?" you might want to say that you need a bit of clarity, then proceed to give him examples that he can remember.
YOu're on the right track with mutual respect, however, another one is open communication. if that isnt in place, it can cause problems. if you can talk easily and be friends who respect and care for each other, then the chemical reactions and interactions are so much more enjoyable and satisfying. in relationships, there are lots to take into account, however, take things one day at a time, its a growing process, if he is attracted enough and caring enough to want to make it last, then, he ought to devote as much time and effort as you clearly are making, to keep the relationship going. oh, one last thing, space is important, no one likes to be smothered, if you have lots of free time, make yourself more "marketable" as a person with skills by taking up a hobby or learning a new skill, it wont harm you and can only make you more admirable. make sure though that you're not just being puppeted around his time only...there needs to be a basic compromise...take care.
2006-09-18 10:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have a guy that pushes away sometimes... It's normal. He does so when he needs some space or alone time...
I give it to him :) Because it helps us stay fresh and clear because HE needs it as an introverted person to be clear inside himself.
Your guy may feel you don't respect him if you get mad that he just needs some time to himself once in a while... it has nothing to do with you! Give it to him... happily! Say, Ok darlin... lets catch up in a few days... enjoy yourself...
That is what works for me.. and I also get to be alone... which is great! I love it.
2006-09-18 10:39:23 · answer #3 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
extremely of the two. I do the numerous pushing often times while i'm afraid to get too close and don't want to get harm. and often times i'm getting pushed away, for god in user-friendly terms is familiar with what reason.
2016-10-15 03:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by mcfee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't crowd or push im when he is thinking. Do not offer him advice on how to sort out a problem, and praise him for everything he does. Do not complain of he does not do a proffessional job of the decorating or anything else for that matter. Men need alone time. Understand that, just as women expect men to understand that they will be a moody cantankarous ***** for a few days a month.
2006-09-18 10:36:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl, it sounds like your in love.
Here is to you to dedicate to him: its impossible to love you
if you don‘t, let me know, what your feeling
its impossible, for me to give you what you need
if your always, hold it from me
I don’t know what hurt you
I just, I wanna make it right
Cuz boy I’m sick and tired of tryin to read your mind
This is not a circus
don’t ya play me for a clown
how long can emotions keep on going up and down
2006-09-18 10:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Photographer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mans number need is sex and love. I don't know what book you have been reading.
Give a man choice of respect or getting sex. 99 times out of 100 sex will win.
2006-09-18 10:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Mit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try this,sit down with him and ask him what he wants and needs.It's called communication and if the 2 of you can't do that you are doomed to fail.He doesn't sound that interested in you if he is annoyed by you.The relationship should be comfortable for both individuals and it doesn't sound comfortable to me.
2006-09-18 10:36:03 · answer #8 · answered by Tom S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"A man's number one need is respect"? I thought it was sex. Does he have fantasies involving gangsters? Criminals are usually the ones who talk about "respect" and all that crap. Sounds like he'd rather be with male company - talking about how he has treated you like sh*t.
2006-09-18 10:35:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"RESPECT EARNS RESPECT"
If you think thats a man's number one basic instinct then whats a womans?
i thought if he got respect then you deserve it back!
so if he's pushing u away ask ur self why?
is it because he dont respect you?
it takes two to tango!
in other words, he dont deserve ur time if he cant give u his time..
2006-09-18 10:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by polly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋