have sex with another woman while he watches??? That is all my husband talks about..I have never been with another man, let alone another woman! Anyone elses husband ask this?? And men, why is this a turn on for you? I have asked my husband outside of the bedroom, thinking it was just talk, but he is serious and wants to start looking for someone!
2006-09-18 11:15:33 · 12 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very unhealthy marriage that will end very quickly. he's so consumed with involving you in his FANTASIES that he doesn't know the difference between that and reality. Mine is like this and he's an addict. I had no choice as a christian, as a mother to his child and as a strong woman. I cannot and will not put up with it and neither should you! Stand your ground and tell him that you are putting your foot down and you WILL NOT BE INVOLVED IN HIS FANTASIES! If he respects your judgements then it's worth saving. If he brushes it off, then pack your things up and move on! Looks like he's not the one for you anyway.
2006-09-18 11:35:47 · answer #1 · answered by babycakes2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I've never had anyone talk about it seriously. I think it's a common fantasy, but not that many people actually act out on it. If you're not comfortable with it, tell your husband to shut up and never bring it up again.
2006-09-18 19:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband has never asked that from me, and we have agreed that any sex outside the marriage is cheating and inappropriate. I have done the threesomes with a guy I dated before I met my hubby. The threesomes were really hot, but I wouldn't do it in a marriage.
2006-09-19 00:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a common fantasy for many men. I can't explain it, but it is an amazing turn on.
Contrary to other posters, there is nothing wrong with him, he doesn't need counseling, and he's not a sicko.
If you don't want to do it. Don't.
If he can't accept that. That's his problem.
If you love him and are willing to give it a try. Just set ground rules.
I'll keep my fingers crossed ... for him!! ;-)
2006-09-18 20:37:38 · answer #4 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with him??? He seems 2 be very selfish and not care about your feelings at all..U need 2 reconsider your marriage to him...ask him y he is so insistent on u being with someone else besides him...seems like he should of fulfilled that fantasy BEFORE he married you..Maybe you might need to seek some kind of help...If he loves you then he would consider how you felt and leave it alone....If not LEAVE HIM!!!
2006-09-18 19:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by buttapecan19702 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a year ago this month I was with another woman and my guy for a 3sum. It was hot and got us into alot more. Take your time. You have to want it for you, not him. That's the best advice I can give.
2006-09-18 18:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to go to counseling. Sounds like he is hooked on pronography. That would be a big turn off to me too and if I were you, I would refuse and tell him that he had better get help. It actually is very perverted.
2006-09-18 18:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by kitty K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be spending too much time on his fantasy instead of talking to his wife. And you obviously don't have good communication skills either. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel.
2006-09-18 19:04:59 · answer #8 · answered by Michael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly a fantasy for a lot of couples but if you're uncomfortable with it then there is a problem.
2006-09-18 19:46:58 · answer #9 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but how can he love you and ask you to do such a thing? I hope you don't have any children and can leave him immediately. He is a pig. You're too good for him. Please don't let him talk you into this, you'll never forgive yourself. I feel so sorry for you.
2006-09-18 18:20:43 · answer #10 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋