Marriage & Divorce - 14 September 2006

I just got married about 4 months ago and my husband seems to not want to have sex as much.. how do i get him in the mood?

2006-09-14 16:08:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

with twice and know he wants to be involved with this child and that i have no problem with but he doesnt want to tell the child that i am in the picture yet. he wants to wait and see how she takes it. but he wants to spend time with the mom and daughter for a while to get the girl used to him. my husband has always wanted another child and i cant give him one. my question is should i fear that he may decide to be with the mom so that they can raise thir child together. we have not had the best relationship but now i am really afraid that now that e may have someone to go he may leave me for good and i very much love him with all my heart and soul. but is it worth the fight for him if he decides to try and make a run with the mom. i am his fourth wife and we are both n our early thirties. any help you guys can give me would be greatly helpful thanks

2006-09-14 16:07:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-09-14 16:07:03 · 3 answers · asked by guyslovehot 1

I have a strong, fit, lean body all over. I'm only a 34B, but so What!?!?!?!?

2006-09-14 16:05:34 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm married, he's married is it possible were both not happy in that dept.

2006-09-14 16:03:41 · 19 answers · asked by Toni A 1

My husband is a cab driver and he does alot of flirting with the attractive females he picks up. He tells me that there is nothing physical going on and I trust him but the flirting still pisses me off.

2006-09-14 16:01:58 · 12 answers · asked by mrskyesha 2

2006-09-14 15:54:36 · 28 answers · asked by smiley 1

or Xs?

2006-09-14 15:50:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

cars house bank accounts

2006-09-14 15:47:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

HE MAKES ALMOST 5g"S A MONTH AND HE HAS 5 KIDS THAT HE PAYS CHILD SUPPORT. I SAW WHAT COMES OUT. AND ITS A **** LOAD BUT I CHECK HIS ACCT AND ITS NEGATIVE AFTER I PULL IT OUT FOR THE BILLS. I ASKED TO VIEW HIS ACCT BUT HE'S STALLING ON GIVING IT TO ME BY SAYING HE DOESN'T KNOW HIS ONLINE PIN. I SAID, CALL THE BANK AND HE SAYS, HE CAN'T GET A OUTSIDE LINE OUT EACH TIME I ASK HIM. I JUST WANT TO SAFEGUARD MYSELF FROM BEING IN SHOCK EACH TIME I GO TO THE ATM TO PAY DA RENT AND ITS NOT ENUFF 4 DA RENT OR NEGATIVE. I ASKED HIM IF WE CAN'T KEEP UP WITH THE BILLS HERE HOW CAN WE PURCHASE OUR WEDDING RINGS, HE SAID WE'LL GO TO THE JP AND WORRY ABOUT IT THEN. SO I'M ASKING FOR ADVICE SHOULD I MARRY HIM STILL OR MOVE ON. I'M CURRENTLY A STUDENT IN SCHOOL AND HE KNEW I DIDN'T HAVE A JOB HOWEVER, I RECEIVE A LITTLE INCOME BUT ITS NOT ENUFF TO PAY THE BILLS WHEN THE ACCT IS ALWAYS SHORT. WHAT WOULD YOU DO. I LOVE HIM AND I STRESS EACH 1ST AND 15TH THINKING DAMN WE GONNA BE PUT OUT AND HE'S AWAY.

2006-09-14 15:47:23 · 15 answers · asked by KeKe M 1

Anyone have a simliar situation.what came of it? Honestly i find my wife more a friend than a lover (as she has no sexual spark). This other one she's a spark and her husband is the same all the time (when they do it, which is rarely), and i feel we're both wanting more sexually for our lives and its not coming from home. She's catholic and has that guilt that goes along with it. But she still gives off that vibe. I'm so tempted. What would yo do?

2006-09-14 15:46:54 · 19 answers · asked by TipsyMcStagger 1

We use to fight like crazy but I imagine most newly wed couples do. Our marriage use to be so hot and cold. We would have frequent fights, sometimes really big fights but when we didn't fight were so unbelieveably amazing together. It made it all well worth the bad times. It's been a little more than a year and a half of being married now and the arguments are really starting to die down. We're learning from eachother and have a better idea of where eachother is coming from. He left for Iraq Saturday and I came across his yahoo answers account yesterday. I thought it was the coolest with me being so disconnected from his life while he's in Iraq. There were some questions that made me laugh like I do when I'm with him. It made me feel closer to him.

Then yesterday I came across alot of mean questions about me on his yahoo answers account. Some of his stories on here about me are so distorted that I know he did it intentionally. The question that hurt the most was about a miscarriage we had. He said that I was more light about the baby part of the situation which is true. We were less than 2 months pregnant when it happened and I didn't feel a connection. It never felt like a real baby inside of me and it's just easier for me to not think about the person he or she would have grown up to become.

Then he quotes me to have said "get over it and stop being a baby" about the miscarriage and asks everyone if he's being a baby or if his wife is just "crazy". That's a horrible thing to say and I never said it. I do admit I've said some pretty mean things to him in the past like I want a divorce when I'm emotional (not just when I'm pregnant) but he's done similar things. We both have things to work on.

But why would he create such a big lie about something so long ago?

and then he chose a girl that pretty much said he's too good for me to be his best answer.

You can check his questions to see his side of the story but if you care, this is what really happened:

I've never said "you're a big baby and get over it". I'm pretty hurt he said that. During the first miscarriage my doctor was concerned that I had a tubal pregnancy or something else severely wrong with me. They said that I might have to have surgery. Ben looked really sad but he was only sad about the baby. I tried so hard to cheer him up while I was also sad about the baby and worried about my health. At that time we knew that the baby wasn't going to happen but did not yet know about my well being. He was so stuck on the baby and never once showed his concern for me. Instead he got angry at me for not being sad enough about the baby. Why would you try to make someone that is already so sad in that type of situation even more sad? I was going through a hard enough time as it was. Husbands are suppose to be supportive and make situations like that easier to deal with but he made it worse. When I brought up his lack of concern for me it would turn into a big argument because he was mad at me for not being sad enough about the baby. I was in tears but he didn't care because I "didn't care enough about the baby". I just have a different view on it. I try not to think of the person he/she would have grown up to become because it makes me sad. I figure god has a plan and I'd rather think of it as a really bad period because that's what I would have thought if I hadn't had a positive pregnancy test. You (everyone who wrote mean comments about me or thinks so little of me) can't tell me the baby has or hasn't a soul. That depends on your beliefs and you can't push your beliefs on people who don't want them. I don't know what I believe in. I go back and forth but it's just easier for me to think miscarriages are for a reason, that we would have otherwise had a very misfortunate baby and if I'm wrong I don't have to be sad while I'm on earth and I'll see him in heaven.

I'm looking for constructive feedback so don't trash on my hubby! There are so many good things about him you don't know about.

2006-09-14 15:45:36 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

without medication...

2006-09-14 15:41:39 · 14 answers · asked by sweet_n_krazykaz 2

Tired of dead relaionships where it appears that you are the only one trying to keep it alive...you are reaching your limit and you don't like it! Anyone understand?

2006-09-14 15:38:51 · 12 answers · asked by Chilly Willy 2

2006-09-14 15:37:33 · 23 answers · asked by nextelfan25 4

2006-09-14 15:28:35 · 17 answers · asked by Mr Goodbar 2

I've always handled the finances. Now we need to join our accounts, even though the balances are "off balance"?

2006-09-14 15:27:20 · 9 answers · asked by RscuRngr 1

It's been four years since I've been pregnant. I was adamant about not wanting another child. However, a little over a month ago I started wanting another child as badly as I did with my other children. I had to talk my husband into it. He was a little weary about it. Which I don't blame him.

But now that he has agreed I want to have sex/sex with him. We have sex regularly but quite a bit it ends up being oral sex.

The other night I want to have real sex, it had been about six day since we had done that. He asked me, "What since you decided that you wanted another baby, that's all you're going to do?"

It hurt my feelings so I told him nevermind. I could wait till another time. To his credit, we did have sex the next night. But I thought that that coment was a little harsh.

What do you think?

2006-09-14 15:27:11 · 14 answers · asked by tabberlynn 2

Do you know when you meet someone that there is something different, something special in them. When you kiss them good night and feel like your whole life just changed with a kiss, is it real? Have you ever experienced this. I am 40 something and this is different.

2006-09-14 15:24:56 · 10 answers · asked by rikv77 3

2006-09-14 15:20:35 · 8 answers · asked by fedup 1

My husband has a hang up of keeping "score" on who does what in our marriage. I think this isn't right and that it really does more harm than good. Why can't he be glad for the things I do as a wife without the score card out on who does "more"? This is really hurting our marriage and really pisses me off.

2006-09-14 15:16:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter is 7 and she has an Autism Spectrum Disorder. She is the light of my life. I've gone to extraordinary lengths to provide her with 4 years of intensive early intervention and she is doing really well. She's gone from very low functioning to very high functioning. My ex (her father) was abusive to me (physically, mentally and actually raped me once when we were not together). My daughter did not witness any of the abuse, but the dynamic in the home was not stable when he was around. I've been on my own for 4 years now and we are really happy. He has promised to be consistant with child support agreement we have (through the atty. general in Texas), but has never been able to sustain his end of the deal. He has no job and an underage girlfriend. I finally made the decision to cut him out of our lives for good this last year when he became violent on a visit.He's been emailing that I am evil for not allowing visitation currently. I want to make the best choice. help?

2006-09-14 15:14:38 · 11 answers · asked by psychmajor 1

it just seems like lately all we have is regualr sex
like no more of that sex were you cuddle and talk after. all we have is meaningless sex
i still love him though but i dont feel nothing more.
does every couple go through this?
how do you fix it?

2006-09-14 14:57:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

For 17 years my wife has been one way with me; reserved, generally quiet, not what I'd call bubbly. I knew she could be more effervescent with others, and I thought it came from being a bit ill at ease. But she was being herself with me. Now I'm not so sure. It's possible that the anti-depressants she has taken since cancer surgery 3 years ago are kicking in and she is feeling better about herself. Or she has finally, after all this time, gotten comfortable enough with me that she feels she can be her true self--bubbly. Or she is having an affair and is really ill at ease with me now, and hides it behind a facade of talkativeness, which was not her way before. Either way, I'm a bit baffled. What do you think?

2006-09-14 14:52:07 · 29 answers · asked by Nightwriter21 4

2006-09-14 14:51:37 · 68 answers · asked by guyslovehot 1

2006-09-14 14:45:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been left with her sons no kids of my own i dont know how to treat them

2006-09-14 14:22:29 · 37 answers · asked by lil_ray_o_sunshine 1

i have been living with my girlfriend for about two years. i have a 10 year old son who has also lived with us. he absolutely adores her, and i know once she is gone he will miss her. however, she drives me crazy. i have asked her to leave several times. she has actually left twice. the first time she left she left when her baby sister was in town and tried to weasel her way back when baby sister left. i was stupid and let her. the second time, i kicked her out in an ugly fight and when she called her granny, i told granny that GF had to leave. at that time GF wasn't working for 3 months or bringing anything to the table. i had to pawn my deceased mom's necklace (my mom passed in jan. 06) it really hurt and i was fed up. again, i stupidly let her back. only to find myself feeling like i hate her again. i cannot trust her, she has lied over and over again. she has stolen from me - money. i asked her to leave and she says she will not. what should i do?

2006-09-14 14:13:11 · 15 answers · asked by mss_candy 1

just a simple night with my wife of 13 years. guys-moves that have worked. girls-stuff that works or impresses you. thanks!!!

2006-09-14 14:11:53 · 6 answers · asked by mongo862001 5

2006-09-14 13:51:50 · 22 answers · asked by fedup 1