It's been four years since I've been pregnant. I was adamant about not wanting another child. However, a little over a month ago I started wanting another child as badly as I did with my other children. I had to talk my husband into it. He was a little weary about it. Which I don't blame him.
But now that he has agreed I want to have sex/sex with him. We have sex regularly but quite a bit it ends up being oral sex.
The other night I want to have real sex, it had been about six day since we had done that. He asked me, "What since you decided that you wanted another baby, that's all you're going to do?"
It hurt my feelings so I told him nevermind. I could wait till another time. To his credit, we did have sex the next night. But I thought that that coment was a little harsh.
What do you think?
2006-09-14 15:27:11 · 14 answers · asked by tabberlynn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that was a little insensitive on his part but maybe
he does feel like you only want him for the baby
you should tell him you do not want him to feel this way and assure him you just wanted to have sex
ask him if he really wants another baby or if he is trying to appease you
you may not hear what you want but you do not want him to feel like he was pressured into something he really just does not want to do
2006-09-14 15:34:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's feeling pressured and used, and that there's a bit of truth in that. You're using him like the herd bull. Us guys rarely mind getting it on, but yes, we do like variety. And yes, we do like to be appreciated as something more than a sperm bank.
That said, I think the two of you need to get a sitter for the kid(s) you already have, and take a long weekend off somewhere and relax. Talk this thing over rationally and calmly. He may still be harboring doubts about another child. You seem to be obsessing somewhat on the idea. You both have valid points. If the weekend does not resolve the issue, counselling may be in order to help you, in particular, to understand exactly why this intense urge, and for him to be, shall we say, a touch more sensitive to your needs. In fact, you both need to be more sensitive to each other's feelings. Hon, I've been there: another kid is not going to "complete" you...and it wouldn't kill him.
2006-09-14 22:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are all a bit crass, sounds like you're very sensitive, but it also sounds like he is being manipulative to try and get "oral sex" if I understand you right. Most married men are pretty thrilled to get any sex, especially the real deal. But I would get the "****" straightened out before committing to another baby.
2006-09-14 22:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by POPPY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be to hurt it sound to me he is just afraid of the change in lifestill that comes with a baby. Hes worried about the sex life and the life yall have in general slowing down. Its true with a baby there is less going out and less alone time for a while. Just talk to him and work out and assure him life will not slow down as much as Im sure he thinks it will.
2006-09-14 23:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by mcncln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was a little harsh. Maybe, although he agreed to another child, he might be feeling resentful about it. Perhaps, you could approach him and ask him, if you feel that would be appropriate. But gosh, he sounds like a good egg to me who wants to make you happy. Sounds like you've got yourself a great guy! I'd let the comment go were it said to me. But I would want to know if his heart is in having another child since it's such a big, joint effort
2006-09-14 22:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should really reconsider having a second child it sounds like your husband is not really into it and is it really worth your marrige. as far as the sex men love oral sex. i think you are having more oral sex because you can't get pregnant that way
2006-09-14 22:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by mrstea0116 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your man sounds selfish! I think when men have sex they r only thinking of just that - not the fact that it would lead to pregnancy.
You would know more than anyone if he doesn't really want another child.
2006-09-14 22:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by hiedistump 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes stress can make a person tired and weary and oftentimes they are impatient, sarcastic & inconsiderate. But that doesn't mean he does not love doing it anymore. Just be considerate and understand first the situation or circumstances before you react.
2006-09-14 22:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by japsie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that was mean of him to say...he shouldnt say that to you...having a child takes the time to have sex...and what guy doesnt want sex when ever...he should be happy u wanna have sex with him all the time...wow
2006-09-14 22:32:36 · answer #9 · answered by cutie7191 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my guy wanted more oral than vaginal I would be ticked. Who is using who here? You spoiled him in having it "his way". Now you are more or less stuck with it the way he wants it, otherwise it does seem like you are using him for stud service.
2006-09-14 22:47:02 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋