it just seems like lately all we have is regualr sex
like no more of that sex were you cuddle and talk after. all we have is meaningless sex
i still love him though but i dont feel nothing more.
does every couple go through this?
how do you fix it?
2006-09-14 14:57:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Join the club. Going through it myself. I want more out of our sex life but the desire isn't there. I just don't feel anything either. I wish I knew how to fix it. I've heard all of the basics but my wife just doesn't take the interest to fix it like I do. If you figure it out let me know.
2006-09-14 15:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by RedC. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ****! my husband and i have the same problem. If you don't take the initiative and make it special it won't be. Wear something "inspiring" and do something out of the ordinary. After work on a Friday take him away for a surprise weekend at a swanky hotel just for a change of scenery. A lot of times all it takes is some time away to relax - take a bubble bath together, massage each other and have a nice long deep sleep in each others arms.....i guarantee either some time during that night or early the next morning there will be some love being made baby girl. Don't stress....plan!!
2006-09-14 15:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thankfully, this is a phase. All couples go through it. Try to shake things up a bit with massage, candles or some soft porn.
When my husband and i go through these spells, we try to take a weekend off together. We rent a hotel room, see a show, have a nice dinner, relax and focus only on each other.
Also, we bought a hot tub. This may not be in your budget, but the investment has paid off like you wouldn't believe in the bedroom!
2006-09-14 15:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a lot of couples go thru this. I think that it is habbit and routine.
I don't want to upset you, but that may be what it is.
Try making yourself feel sexy before bed and romance him.
Maybe getting out of your routine will help.
Try having sex on the living room couch. Or get a sitter if you have kids and meet him at an out of the way motel.
Then there's always the idea of role playing. Go to a costume shop and get something that he might like.
2006-09-14 15:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by tabberlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is like a long journey. On this journey, you will; meet pot holes, hills, dark places, narrow and dirty streets, and plenty of other things that are not welcomed. The one thing that will always be there is the journey. Marriage is the same thing. There will be good times and bad times but the one thing that is constant is the marriage. treat it well and no matter what, it will come again. Have sex with him mu dear. The good times will comeback sometimes
2006-09-14 15:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were in your position i would make my bed room look like it was made for sex...bedrooms looks have alot to do with loss of sex interest for both and not just one...you could always greet him at the door with just an apron on...or shoes... or nothing...what ever you are into...make it special...if all the things you try arent working then i would try talk to him about it ask him whats happening and that you dont think your sex life with him feels the same way as it used to like hes not into you any more, if those dont work try to talk to him more about how his day went and i know that if you show him how interested you are in him he may take it to heart
2006-09-14 15:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by mytedominatrix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a sex holiday, quit having intercourse for a while. just engage in intimate touch, and whispering sexy words to each other, etc, etc, take it to the limit but don't go there. Then after the holiday is over, may be a week or two, then go at it again.
2006-09-14 15:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called the aging marriage. happens to everyone. Whats there really to talk about anymore ? you know everything about each other and you've probably already talked about your day at dinner. I think that's just what happens. I'm sure that if you ask him to he'll cuddle with you afterwards.
2006-09-14 15:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by joy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really have to what to change,, happiness is not freely given you have to earn it,, sex is the fun part of being married,, sort of like the cherry on top of the cake or so,, be friends seems like you two are only together for the kids,,
2006-09-14 15:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by quitelovableman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest doing some sexy things,take a bubble bath together,strip for him he will love it.Sometimes we just get into daily routine of life and we just need to do some little things to liven sex up.
2006-09-14 15:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by nanny2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋