2006-09-14 15:28:35 · 17 answers · asked by Mr Goodbar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry I know you aren't going to like it but in order for a man to gain full custody of a child then he must more or less PROVE the mother to be unfit. You will have to have documented proof from teachers, friends, doctors etc that she does not have the best interest of the child at heart or that she has put them in danger. If the children are over the age of 12 then the judge will listen to where they want to live. It isn't as important who can be in a bigger house or buy better clothes but who can provide the best emotional support. If you can't prove a case to get sole custody then I would strongly suggest fighting for joint custody which is easier to get. Glad to hear a man out there actually wants his kids.
2006-09-14 15:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Back in 1973 I was in a divorce and I wanted custody. Basically I snatched the kid. We had a hearing to determine temporary custody. I won't go into all the gory details, but I had the kid with my parents in a nice stable situation, so I got temporary custody. Then I dragged out the divorce until she got bored.
If I had it to do over I wouldn't. After he grew up and moved out of the house he became more and more like his biological mother. All my blood sweat and tears were wasted. I spent 20 years of my life raising him, and he doesn't appreciate it, and he's turned out just like he would have had his mother raised him, except that he graduated from college and learned to play musical instruments and to do so many things I taught him, but he doesn't do anything with any of it anyway.
Good luck.
2006-09-14 15:54:11 · answer #2 · answered by joeallensmith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your soon to be ex a bad mother? need more information. I can offer this. Winning custody of your children and keeping them from their mother the children will lose, unless thier mother is a bad mother. Sharing children after divorce is a great thing for the children. In my opionion the 2 of you should meet in neutual ground when it comes to the children. They should be the most important thing in this. You are adults and you learn to deal well. they are children and they are about to be threw in to a mass of fighting and fussing and they will think that the 2 of you hate one another. Again you both are role models for them and what they see will stay with them forever.
2006-09-14 15:37:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she is a unfit mother, be prepared for a long and nasty fight in the court room. Where the only people who win is the lawyers. It would be better (for the kids) to work out an agreement where you and the mother share custody equally. However, you and your Ex-wife would have to stay friendly (if not friends) with each other.
2006-09-14 15:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need details first. What if you're a scary, creepy dad and that's why she's divorcing you? Or maybe you love your children, but the custody thing is REALLY about "getting her back."
Talk to your lawyer. What kind of dingus asks for legal advice on this kind of web site? Particularly about something as serious as child custody? This question is either B.S., or you don't deserve to have your kids because you're too stupid.
2006-09-14 15:32:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If they won't give you full custody ask for shared/joint custody with equal rights. Tell the judge you are will to live close to her so your children will have access to both households at will. Heck move next door or across the street. Make sure to add .. if she moves away.. you get full custody.
2006-09-14 15:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest tip for winning your children, is to do right by them. Think of what is best for them above all else, not what is best for you. The whole point of having children is to help them become productive adults. As long as the choices you make are in their best interest without lies or deception you will win them, for life when they are adults and still want to spend time with you. Money is never an issue to fight over.
2006-09-14 15:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by tiger30 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not much to say exept that the only way to win is to prove her as a unfit mother. It can't be a dumb reason like shes mean or yells alot. It has to be big like she beats the kids, does drugs, or puts the kids in a bad enviroment like if she moves in with someone who is a drug addict. Oh and forget about the money issue it won't matter how much she has or makes. If she doesn't make alot of money all they will do is make you pay more in child support.
2006-09-14 15:55:13 · answer #8 · answered by mcncln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no tips just do the right thing by the kids dont do it for revenge pray about it and it will all work out if shes not a bad mother just do joint custody it will affect and hurt the kids in the long wrong always think of the babies first
2006-09-14 15:31:45 · answer #9 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a steady job that (1) shows you earn enough to support the kids; and (2) has a schedule that allows you to take care of your kids - like taking them to school, picking them up, helping with homework, etc.; Also good to have good support system - if you have close family members who help to take care of the kids when you are not available. Do you own a home? That would help to show that living arrangements are stable.
What kind of job does the wife have? If she travels a lot and has to leave the kids with nannies, but you have a stable job that allows you to take care fo kids, that would be in your favor. Does the wife have a place to live, with room for the kids? Does she visit them often, take them to school, give them their baths, make dinner, etc?
2006-09-15 03:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋