i have been living with my girlfriend for about two years. i have a 10 year old son who has also lived with us. he absolutely adores her, and i know once she is gone he will miss her. however, she drives me crazy. i have asked her to leave several times. she has actually left twice. the first time she left she left when her baby sister was in town and tried to weasel her way back when baby sister left. i was stupid and let her. the second time, i kicked her out in an ugly fight and when she called her granny, i told granny that GF had to leave. at that time GF wasn't working for 3 months or bringing anything to the table. i had to pawn my deceased mom's necklace (my mom passed in jan. 06) it really hurt and i was fed up. again, i stupidly let her back. only to find myself feeling like i hate her again. i cannot trust her, she has lied over and over again. she has stolen from me - money. i asked her to leave and she says she will not. what should i do?
2006-09-14 14:13:11 · 15 answers · asked by mss_candy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When relationships are volatile like the one you are describing they will never get better. The scenerio will just repeat itself over and over and over. Been there before. If you rent, best thing to do is find a new place for you to move along with your son. Let her now that you have given the landlord notice and she has to find a new place to live. If you own the place, give her one week to find other accommodations or in the alternative she will find her belongings at storage facility which if you really want her out, you will pay for the storage site for about a month. Change the locks. It may seem harsh but in the long run, you will be doing her a favour. It will force her to smarten up. Besides, your son doesn't need to grow up seeing what relationships are not supposed be like?
2006-09-14 14:23:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she's out of the house pack up all of her stuff and have it waiting for her outside. Then, when she comes home, tell her that she is no longer welcome and if she refuses to leave peacefully then call the cops. It's her own problem if she doesn't have money to afford a place to live. Just tell her the truth, that you're sick of the games and the lying and laziness. And once she is gone change the locks and do not allow her back in, no matter what she promises you. Liars and cheaters cannot change on their own.
2006-09-14 14:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by danikatspecial 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the bi tch out on her a s s. Or you could drive her into leaving. For example... by some rice krispies. When you are sitting down to eat them listen close to the popping, then argue the cereal. After you get riled up toss the bowl and all to the floor. When she says something about picking them up, say no, that you are watching them suffer. Stuff like that. Eventually she wont be able to take anymore.
2006-09-14 14:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pack her bags for her. Let her know you are serious this time and she must go. If she has no where to stay give her 30 days (legal amount of time) to find another place and then on the 30th day put her stuff outside (not in the rain but on a porch or covered in plastic bags). Change the locks or steal your keys back from her.
2006-09-14 14:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sponges off you and steals from you? Good grief man, she is using you. Kick her out. Seriously, and just steel yourself against allowing her back. Tell your son that you like her, but she isn't a very good friend to you. At 10 years old, he will understand about not being friends with someone who doesn't know how to share nicely.
You are being a doormat. Stop that.
Practice your NO speech if you have to, so you can recite it when she wants back.
2006-09-14 15:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police or tell her that you will this time if she doesn't leave (maybe do this during a fight or something, like after you bring up that you want her to leave). When my bf did that to me during a fight, it worked and I hated him for it. But sometimes desperate situations call for desperate measures.
2006-09-14 14:25:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's name is on the lease? If you are the only one listed then she has to leave when you tell her to go. Be prepared and make out a list of everything in the apartment that is yours and everything that is hers. Then make a list of what you bought together. Let your land lord know what you are going to do.and get his help if needed when you try to get her to move out. He may be able to evict her if she is not on the lease.
2006-09-14 14:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOUNDS LIKE SHES A USER AND IF SHE HAS NO MAIL OR ANY PERSONALS LIKE FURNITURE THERE YOU CAN CALL THE POLICE AND HAVE HER REMOVED SHES DOING SOMETHING ELSE BESIDES NO JOB NO MONEY TELL HER EITHER SHE MOVE OR SHE WILL HAVE TO PAY THE BILLS CAUSE YOURE FED UP HOWEVER YOU DO IT GET HER OUT OF THERE FAST
2006-09-14 14:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Judy D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks and DON'T give her a key. And find yourself a nice Jewish boy to settle down with.
2006-09-14 14:18:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to be direct with her and tell her that your relationship is not working, you have tried everything possible but you feel that it should not go anyfurther and you need to end it now.
2006-09-14 14:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋