What do you do when you are married for less than a year and are unhappy?

Answer 1

quit while you are ahead

Answer 2

What do you mean.... unhappy?

Is there something specific that you could work on? Talk it over with your partner and get it resolved! See a marriage counselor if necessary, but don't just let it die.

Do you think that good marriages just happen? If so, you are mistaken. Everybody has rough spots to work through in the early years of marriage. That person you thought was so wonderful, often surprises you with quirks you didn't know they had. The things that you thought were cute and funny can become annoying and troublesome. That's all part of the growing process.

Let me tell you something else: NOBODY can make you happy. You have to decide whether or not you are a happy person, and then just be that way. No matter who you are with, or where you go, it will be that way.

Do yourself a favor. Shake it off. Just LOSE this "I'm not happy" attitude ASAP. So life isn't a bed of roses, like all the wedding books make it sound. Deal with it. Welcome to the real world.

Walk into that real world as a team, doing things together as much as possible. Don't let other interests and friends come between you. And most of all, don't think your partner is there to do your bidding. Each person in the marriage has to give 100%. Some days, one of you may be down, and the other has to take up the slack.

Don't be unhappy. That's the way to solve that problem.

Been there. Done that.

Answer 3

Welcome to reality. Marriage is a full-time job, and love is something you grow into over time - a LOT of time. You're just now realizing that "and they lived happily ever after" is a fairy tale, not reality. Hey: your man's got warts! Aw, jeez! Well hon, YOU gots your ugly side too. Son of a gun, imagine that - you're both HUMAN. He ain't no Prince Charming and you ain't the Princess in the story about the Princess and the Pea. Dawg!

Your experience is why, when I was an associate pastor many moons ago, I absolutely refused to marry any couple who had not undergone AT LEAST twelve weeks of pre-marital counselling with a state-certified individual. It rarely failed to open eyes, and over half the young couples decided to wait after undergoing that counselling - most of them waited at least two years.

But it's a bit too late for that now, isn't it? Here's my suggestion: get thee to a marriage counsellor tomorrow. You need to recognize that you have an obligation to work on whatever's troubling you about your marriage - that includes your spouse - 'cause you made a commitment when you two put those wedding bands on - and perhaps, to grow up a bit. Because child, marriage is HARD WORK!!! It always has been and always WILL be! You CAN make it a marriage reminescent of heaven. It won't happen all by itsself. Good luck, kids. Write us again in a year and let us know how it worked out.

Answer 4

Look into yourself why you are unhappy. Have you fallen out of love or you and your partner got bored with each other. There are so many reasons why we are happy and unhappy. We should list down all the positive and the negative and check if the scale is not balance anymore then better think again or give it another chance.

Answer 5

getting married changes things it just does there is a lot of give and take there is a lot of adjustment i remember the 1st yr we were married i loved my husband and there was part of our marriage that i loved but being alone so much while he was at work was just so deppressing i spend a many of days cring then i decided that i needed to ask God to help me be more understanding so i asked then i realized he was gone so much cause he was tring to make aa living 4 the 2 of us and we talked and worked on spending more time togeather even if we had to take that time and go buy groc and go get a sandwitch some where dont do any thing harsh the 1st yr is always hard there is a lot of change and change isnt easy good luck

Answer 6

Well the first thing I need to know is what is it about your marriage that makes you unhappy. Are you discontented with your mate for money reasons, sex or a bad attitude. I suggest you write down all the reasons you feel unhappy about. Set down with your mate, and with out being hostile towards one another. explain how he or she is affecting your life. Try working out your differences together. after all it takes two mules to pull a wagon and marriage is no different good luck to you

Answer 7

Talk it out with your spouse. Go see a counseller together. You were happy before and after you married. You just probably lost the spark somewhere, but you fix it if you can find the problem. Communication is the best option here at the moment.

Answer 8

First, you have to know what made you unhappy. Was it your marriage or was it your spouse the root of your unhappiness? In every situation, there is always a cause and effect. Try to resolve the issues behind its cause, then you don't have to worry.

Answer 9

Give marriage counseling a try. If your partner does not want to go then go alone. Reassess your life and think about what the problems are in the relationship. If it is not fixable after making some effort, then it is best to go your separate ways.

Answer 10

Try to work it out,people give up to quick without tying anything that could help and save there marriage,think back and remember what made you fall in love with each other in the fist place and rebuild your marriage from there.

Answer 11

Man up, marriage is for life. You need to communicate, get on common ground and grow together. Don't bring kids into this world until you fix this. Good luck.