2006-09-14 14:45:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
time and only time will tell. relationships are lived ONE DAY AT A TIME! You cannot make 45 years when it has not been 45 years!!
2006-09-14 14:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the most important part of a marriage, or any relationship, is communication. That doesn't just mean that if you need the salt, say "please pass the salt" You have to talk about everything. Don't spend you marriage complaining to each other, but if something is on your mind, say it before it builds up inside you and you explode over something silly. Most people fight about a few little things: money, sex, and chores. For the most part it all boils down to that. If you communicate regularly and frequently about those few things, you can solve most of your problems before they ever start. Be flexible and compromise when necessary - no one person should get their way every time. Take time for each other - even if it's a twenty minute candle-lit bubble bath once a month, spending quality time together without life's stresses can really make a difference. And remember, you are together because you love each other - that should be a joy in your life, not one of your chores. Marriages take work from both sides so that they can work. Good luck!
2006-09-14 22:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a committment. It's not based on feelings, so if you said your vows with sincerity and love, just stay close to one another and never stop trying. There will be good times, bad times and everything in between, but 45 years is not impossible. Many of my relatives have remained married over 50 years. Trust God, trust each other and watch what happens.
2006-09-14 21:55:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of good answers. I agree with Bethany. People are always saying they fell out of love then they divorce but it is not about feeling hot for someone cuz at 70 that is probably not going to happen. It is about chosing a life partner, being committed, working hard (both parties) to keep it going, sacrifice, shared values and goals. Most importantly, God needs to lead the marriage.
2006-09-14 22:03:32 · answer #4 · answered by silentstorm025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty of Sex. Whenever one of you wants it , the other one one gives it.
Also, always compromise ALWAYS. Try never to just say no to anything always be willing to give a little in order to get a little.
As the man always understand not to sweat the little things
( thats in our nature- women cant do that)
but always make her undertsand you are giving up something
So that when YOU want something , she will be willing to give.
Undertsand whos job is who's
She is the social director, where we are going when, why,
I want to be on a "need to know" basis
Dont tell me about a wedding we are going to in Dec
just tell me when its time to geet in the shower.
I have a tone more but I dont think YAHOO is big enough
( married very happily for 15 yrs)
hope this helps
2006-09-14 21:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by onion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship. You've got to be best friends. And what my husband and I have recently learned to do: leave each other alone. If she wants to take a class or go on vacation with her girlfriends, fine. If you want to go out in the garage and smoke a cigar or down in the family room to watch a game with the guys, fine. Because all that romance is going to calm down eventually, and what will hold you together is your friendship.
2006-09-14 22:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by Untitled 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love , Patience, Forgiveness, Understanding, Fun!
2006-09-14 21:48:07 · answer #7 · answered by T agent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty - at all times
Cherish - the time together; that you have it and can build on it
Respect - regardless of choices
Love - no matter what.....good/bad
Concern - even when you do not "feel" like it; that the other persons' feelings matter as much as your own
Remember there are two families involved not just your own
Care - at all times
2006-09-14 21:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep at it and Don't listen to what other "freinds" say along the years!
Marriage isn't microwaveable and neither should Divorce be!!
WORK at your Marriage! Nothing is split second, or even fast!
2006-09-14 21:56:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about respect. Respecting each other publicly and privately, showing affection freely and having an absolute commitment to makng the relationship work.
2006-09-14 21:48:13 · answer #10 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋