For 17 years my wife has been one way with me; reserved, generally quiet, not what I'd call bubbly. I knew she could be more effervescent with others, and I thought it came from being a bit ill at ease. But she was being herself with me. Now I'm not so sure. It's possible that the anti-depressants she has taken since cancer surgery 3 years ago are kicking in and she is feeling better about herself. Or she has finally, after all this time, gotten comfortable enough with me that she feels she can be her true self--bubbly. Or she is having an affair and is really ill at ease with me now, and hides it behind a facade of talkativeness, which was not her way before. Either way, I'm a bit baffled. What do you think?
2006-09-14 14:52:07 · 29 answers · asked by Nightwriter21 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should be happy your wife is bubbly. I would consider it a very good thing. Maybe she has changed her outlook on llife, or maybe she's under the effect of the antidepressants. My guess is that the whole experience with cancer has made her a better person. Being so close to death makes us reevaluate what it means to be alive, and very often, the person that emerges is far kinder, more gentle and more loving than the person before. I almost died once and I know now, many years later, that it was probably the best thing that ever happened to me.
Perhaps that which doesn't kill us doesn't necessarily make us stronger, but it does make us better people. You should be very grateful your wife pulled through because you now get to enjoy the company of a woman you wish you could have married.
Good luck and my best wishes. As for the thought about cheating, dismiss it as fast as you can. Take your blessing for what it is, and believe me, you are in for a world of love :)
2006-09-14 15:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't assume cheating-maybe she is getting noticed by other men-and feels good about it! Has she made positive changes in her appearance-that can do a lot for the ego. That boost of self-esteem can go along way. I speak from experience! Also a run with cancer changes you , maybe she has discovered what other people wait there entire life to do or in her case say-like the song says "live like you were dying"!!!!! more power to her-and don't worry about the pills, from a biological sense they can alter a personality, but that is usually based on when they are taken-not a side affect of discontinuance. But do take that up w/ your doc. In the mean-time enjoy her-and thank your lucky stars your together.
2006-09-14 22:27:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there can be alot of reasons she changed her mood or beliefs or attitude and that doesnt necassarily mean shes having some kind of affair . it could just mean some one said some thing to her about how quite or down she is and she decided that was not the way she wanted to be or she just thought about how fortunate she is to be alive after having cancer. it could be alot of things, you shouldnt read something bad into it. if youve never had reason not to trust her before ,then why start now enjoy her being bubbly for a while or until its gone maybe thats the way shes gonna be from now on...
2006-09-14 23:08:39 · answer #3 · answered by moe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why question it?
She is happy. I mean she just went through recovering from cancer and maybe has a different perspective o life. A co-worker of mine was like this and then she had bone cancer, thought she was going to die. So she vowed ot be happy everyday she is so talkative and all over the place(wouldnt have it any other way).
I say enjoy it all while you can and just be bubbly together. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-09-14 21:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by lalala 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of the others may be right unfortunately. My wife's behavior changed sexually. Much more frequent and a willingness to do things she was reluctant to before.
Ya turns out she was cheating. She said she figured that if I was happy with the sex she would feel less guilty.
Good Luck... Hope same not happening to you....
2006-09-14 22:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
man it's amazing how you can live with someone and really not know them.....dude pay attention to your wife! Do you talk to her about how she's feeling - notice a change in her - ask her about it! Maybe she's worked to be in a better place emotionally and you're finally seeing her best self. Rejoice with her, why when something good happens do we automatically think something wrong is going on?
Don't let your thinking run away with you - talk to your wife!!!!
2006-09-14 21:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh. You're telling me that you've been married for 17 years and you're too much of a pu$$y to ask her why the sudden change. ASK HER FOR CHRIST SAKE!!! Who knows what happened. Maybe she suddenly realized that she's lucky to be alive after her cancer surgery. Whatever the reason is, you need to find out why. The only way you're going to find out is to ASK HER !!!!!!
2006-09-14 22:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by vik 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
enjoy what si available now and forget about the unseen. Ths may be that last moment of happiness for her so go ahead and make the best of it . for get the questions and and the guesses. All that you said may be true or lie.Whatever the situation, enjoy what you have
2006-09-14 22:23:48 · answer #8 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is just having more fun if u r with friends that can happen or maybe she just realized how lucky she was and just wants to be herself bubby that is good though..... have some fun go out on a night on the town like old times or something like that c a movie maybe she just wants to have more fun and she is being that way showing that i can do it
2006-09-14 21:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it does not sound like she is having an affair. If she has cancer, maybe she just discovered the joy in life and is so happy to be with you that she feels that she has to express it.
2006-09-14 22:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋