2006-09-14 14:51:37 · 68 answers · asked by guyslovehot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What??? Dont mess your kids up if you know she is cheating get away from her then move on kids pick up on alot more then you know... Then when they get older they think its the right thing to do
2006-09-14 14:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by rapid57702 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is wrong and its very wrong, i hope you 2 can work it out but dont do what shes doing it will only make things worse. and the kids will be hurt in it too. they need at least one decent parent that they can trust. and if you want to you can be that parent. maybe there is a problem with your wife you dont know about maybe she lacking in some way some thing you have missed . i dont know but i would think that it would be important for you 2 to talk and see if that would help you to decide weather or not to stay togather or split up. but both of you cheating or even one of you cheating will never work in the long run.
2006-09-14 16:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, are you sure that she is cheating on you?
Is she just trying to get your attention, make you jealous? Yes, I know...a stupid game to play but sometimes we do it anyways.
I wonder, would you be cheating as revenge or because there is someone that you really are attracted to...in other words, would you cheat on your wife if she did not ever cheat on you?
Nevermind about the kids. That sounds cold but you can't stay together for their sake. This is not about them.
Some people can get over affairs, forgive and move on as a couple. You know yourself better than I do. You have to ask yourself what your intent is, what future you want with or without your wife. You also have to be careful if you do decide to have the affair...some women are nuts (let's not forget Fatal Attraction) and will not be satisfied with a temporary, sexual fling.
Overall, only you can decide for yourself. Be warned that it can lead to divorce. On the other hand, it can help you get a divorce, too.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-14 15:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Amy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd have to say, two wrongs don't make a right. Yes, you would be wrong to cheat on your wife even though she's cheating on you. If you had what used to be known as a open marriage it would be acceptable, if not truly right to do. I think you need to talk to your wife, and possibly both of you should talk to a counselor. They can only help you help yourselves, but it is better than hurting your two children, which could happen. Think it over.
2006-09-14 14:58:02 · answer #4 · answered by Nightwriter21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Two wrongs don't make a right. Get some counseling for the both of you. If she continues to disrespect you and your marriage then think about going your seperate ways. But, whatever you do, don't give her ammunition for a divorce hearing.
She is a woman, even though she is doing wrong you are still the loser when you walk into the divorce court by default so don't
help the other side.
2006-09-14 15:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs will never make a right is too trite of an answer but it is the one best answer.
You could go for it but why?
If you cheat with someone you could never marry her because she already has proven she cheats.
I suggest facing the reality of the situation and either accept it or get a divorce. Stay on the high road and don't become like your wife. Your honesty now will get you better visitation rights
2006-09-14 14:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by mnterryd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The word 'cheating' is synonymous with deceit. This tit for tat attitude is not what you should be teaching your children. What is more is that it seems this isn't in line with your personal values, otherwise, you wouldn't be stopping to ask.
How about, rather than showing your kids that you will allow your values to crumble if you are under stress, you show them how to retain your values when you need to hold onto them the most.
Speak to your wife about her cheating. Decide if you can go to marriage counseling, or come up with some other plan to restore your marriage. If that isn't possible, then decide how to proceed (divorce, separation, open marriage, whatever)
In any case, your children deserve a better role model than someone who allows his emotions and other people's actions to determine his values.
i wish your family well.
2006-09-14 15:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs never make a right.
If you know for a fact she is cheating, talk to her about it. Let her know that the behavior will not be tolerated in a marriage. She must make a choice. If she decides to stay, then you should get counseling as it will be extremely hard for you to trust her again and rightfully so.
If the trust is irrevocably broken, if she chooses to continue her affair, then your marriage is no marriage at all and your children deserve to be brought up as a family - and sometimes one parent is better than two, when one of those sets no good example of what an adult is supposed to be like in a marriage.
Do you want your children growing up to believe that this is how a marriage is supposed to be? I sure wouldn't. Be the better person - for them, if not for yourself.
2006-09-14 14:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yea don t cheat. cheating is the symptom not the problem. talk fix your issues or end it . be the bigger person show your kids how to end a relationship like an adult not how to be vengeful. give them the chance to have a healthier view of relationships then that of 2 people cheating and fighting. and don't make her out to be the bad guy . what she did is wrong but the kids don't need to see that. good luck
2006-09-14 14:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by TR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES
It is always wrong to cheat. If she cheated and you want to sleep with someone else. Divorce her. The law, society, and God has said that vows are important and should not be disrespected because either he can't keep his pecker in his pants and/or she can't keep it out of hers.
Cheating is not the answer.
Decide it you can trust her after this. Figure out if you can forgive her or even if you want to. Then go from there.
You can stay married and work through it.
You can get sepparated and consider working through it.
You can get a divorce and be worked through it.
2006-09-14 15:08:11 · answer #10 · answered by tabberlynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cheating on your wife to get back at her for cheating on you? Get a grip. You two just need to sit down and talk. If that doesn't work, get a divorce. If you can't work it out like adults, maybe you should both split up. I know it'll hurt your kids, but....
2006-09-14 14:55:22 · answer #11 · answered by darkhunterfan65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋