Marriage & Divorce - 18 August 2006

2006-08-18 03:36:35 · 24 answers · asked by Angela 7

We have been married for 18 years with 4 kids ranging from 15 to 4. Most of our marriage has been plauged with problems in the bedroom although you wouldn't be able to tell it by the number of kids we have. Just lucky I guess. Anyway when the sex is there it is terific it is just that my wife's interest runs about once maybe twice a month if we arew lucky. I want us to make more time for ourselves and purposely carve out more time for us. My wife finds it hard to focus with all the chaos around us and wants everything in its place. The problem is that it will never be perfect and that is what she appears to be waiting for. Cheating and Divorce are not the answer so if those are your only suggestions keep them to yourself.

To me it is a matter of priorities. If she really valued our relationship she would find the time and energy to spend with me (sexually that is). Why is sex so hard for her and what can we do to find the spice more frequently?

2006-08-18 03:36:22 · 17 answers · asked by RC 1

I am in the process of dealing with the end of my ten year marriage. My husband had an affair with a co-worker and he is planning on moving in with her soon. I know my relationship is over but I am the type of person who needs to understand things in order to move on. I have two questions - how can a woman (or man) have an affair with a married man (or woman), who happens to be their boss after they met their wife and child. What is the attraction? He is a lying cheating pig.

Also, when both the ex and the other woman says "we never meant to hurt you" - what do you do with that statement. They had an affair - they lied, deceived and cheated. What other outcome could there be?

2006-08-18 03:33:47 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-18 03:33:21 · 7 answers · asked by N/A 3

Is there anyone out there who is happily married? Is so, what are some of the things you do to make you marriage work?

2006-08-18 03:32:01 · 18 answers · asked by missjessie 1

In my case ive been with my fiancee for 3 yrs we have a 2 yr old together.. Any suggestions....

2006-08-18 03:25:47 · 25 answers · asked by jlilmama420 2

says they listen but they don't,,,,,and all they do is say thier sorry,,,,and the story repeats and repeats...those people that got spouses , any ideas?....no sarcasm please!!

2006-08-18 03:20:57 · 25 answers · asked by guess 5

why do men think it is the wife's job to make out the bills plus take care of the house and also take care of the baby. i mean heck the man help make the mess and helps add more bills they also put the baby in you they should help to, what do you think i should tell my husband?

2006-08-18 03:19:19 · 22 answers · asked by Kelley S 1

for marrige

2006-08-18 03:14:00 · 8 answers · asked by ashok k123 1

I have all the papers filed except for 1 financial affidavit that he needs to fill out. He has promised for 3 weeks to do it. He feels it's not anyone's business how much he make (which is not much trust me) why are men such assholes. Divorce me. I want to remarry

2006-08-18 03:13:10 · 18 answers · asked by Raineybaby 4

I know that this is not going to work out. My job is to manage my own anger, which is not very much. But it's not my job to manage his. I just wanted maybe a 3rd party to just let me know an opinion

2006-08-18 03:12:03 · 6 answers · asked by candlemia 3

I know this is kind of long, but please read and give me advice. But please don’t say DIVORCE!
When I married my husband I had my own checking account. I put him on it, and this was the worst thing I could have done. He over drafted the account, or just spent $300-400 more a month than he was writing down in the register. So I made him go to the bank and remove himself. I got a letter yesterday saying that my account was over drafted by about $500.00. I said "There is no way. I never do this." I checked the 25 hr. bank line and found out it was due to about 7-8 ATM withdrawals. I freaked, cause I don't use ATM's usually and when I do, it is the one owned by my bank. I reported a stolen card and when the bank called me back last night, the woman said the withdrawals were off of my husbands ATM card. I told her that he is not on my account. After researching, I discovered that when his debit card expired at the end of July, he started using the ATM card that he had when he was on my account. He says that the woman at the bank when he got his own account, assured him that this ATM card was now connected to his account and would access those funds. He said that he didn’t use it before because he either had cash or the debit card. My brother feels that it is also the banks fault because, when he took himself off my account and opened his own, the bank should have looked up any cards attached to that joint account and deactivated any that were no in my possession, since I stayed on the account and he didn’t. I cant help but be very upset with my husband, cause he has burned me before over money and I really thought that making him get his own account would solve the problem. Any advice? I have already screamed and yelled and made my husband feel like scum for withdrawing all that money, when he didn’t even have enough in his own account to cover it, the bank would have had to use his overdraft protection. Please HELP!

2006-08-18 03:08:49 · 56 answers · asked by LittleMermaid 5

we will have been married 8 years in september, i want something, really special.

It can be anything, but i would love to give him something really different and imaginative.
Any ideas would really be appreciated!

2006-08-18 03:04:03 · 14 answers · asked by BRICK 3

i am dating a woman who i believe is a compatible partner but lately i have asked her to bring me out of the shadows and not to hide our relationship from her family and work ( we work in the same firm). i understand her wish for discrecion but it is becoming in the way of our happiness. we are both divorcees and both single parents so there is much common ground but she is scared of the things we talk about. buying a house, more children, the full 9 yards ect.........
my patience is wearing thin. what to do?

2006-08-18 03:02:00 · 12 answers · asked by viikos 2

2006-08-18 02:57:48 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-18 02:57:44 · 26 answers · asked by lovely 1

My newlywed husband had a history of a gambling problem. We've been together for 6 years total. Hes been working at a casino for 6 years too. My electric went out & all the bills i found hidden (and yellow-past due) under the couch. hes been keeping them from me. I give him $1000 a month in bills. if he hasnt been paying all of our bills, hes been gambling (. I confronted him about it & hes like,"There must have been some mistake." Obviously, hes lieing. He wont admit it. i cant get him to admit it no matter WHAT I say. He says hes gonna give me all his $ now so i can take over the bills. The bills were always a little past due, but never has been shut off. (electric,cable,phone..) I payed them all. Shouldnt i be mad? I havent spoken to him in 3 days.

2006-08-18 02:55:11 · 17 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

I'm 19 years old and still a virgin. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years and have waited to have sex. We both want whats best for our relationship and we know that sex isnt the most important thing. The main reasons I have waited was because I have seen sex ruin a lot of couples relationships, especially when they're young and its all new. I'm worried that if we have sex it will make atleast one of us curious about other people especially since we will have no experience with anyone else. i'm starting to feel like ok we've waited 3 years, our relationship obviously isnt just physical why are we still wating? I feel like im ready to have sex but i am definitely willing to wait if i think it would ruin our relationship. a lot of adults tell me that we probably wont last bc we've never been with anyone else so i feel like the longer i wait to have sex the longer i have before he might start getting curious. please help

2006-08-18 02:53:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

arguments i have had with my wife she has punched me in the chest hard. it sort of stung a bit. how bad is this? i just sort of let it go. the other day when we were having an argument she came at me and i think if i didnt draw back she would have tried to hit me again. i'm not at all fearing my own safety because at least with her bare hands she could never hurt me. i am at least twice as physically strong as her. however, it is very hurtful to me that she did this. is this considered assault in this case ? could she go to jail for this? i know if the situation were reversed and i did it at the very least i would be in divorce court and at the worse case facing jail time. how serious a thing is this? is it only a serious thing when a husband is the one who assaults since he is much stronger? what should i have said to her ?

2006-08-18 02:50:53 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

What's your definition? In the sense of not being a woman.

2006-08-18 02:50:39 · 5 answers · asked by BonAqua Identity 3

I give mine a 9/10, after 5 years

2006-08-18 02:49:23 · 24 answers · asked by SSP24 1

2006-08-18 02:42:30 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I like compassion and an open emotional nature, but men that turn everything into a huge life or death ordeal drive me crazy..am I the only one? (i.e. Men who would rather postulate on how WRONGED and HURT they were than get down to business and try to work through it.)

2006-08-18 02:40:53 · 27 answers · asked by Kitten 4

i'm happily married but still have dreams about an ex, is this normal.

2006-08-18 02:36:24 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you know that wiccans use manipulation as a practice?

2006-08-18 02:34:11 · 3 answers · asked by roadrunner_gt 2

I have been married for 5 years and have two wonderful kids, and a great job in denver. All thats missing is the picket fence. Problem is, is that i am in a marraige with no soul. Id say we are closer to roomates then lovers. She says that its all my fault and that i dont do this, i dont do that and everytime we "talk" about things, she turn into angry girl where im always to blame. Sex seams to be the one major problem in the relationship. And i do "want" her. But when she wants, all she has to do is say boo and she gets what she wants. Has such a dominant personality that she should have "its my way or the highway" written on her chest. But when i want, i have to jump through so many hoops, its far from worth it. Over the last few months she has thrown the bid D word my way several times. I feel more lonely now then ever before. As if my only purpose in life is to get a paycheck, hand it over, help with the kids. Repeat. I stay for the kids. But how long can one do that and live?

2006-08-18 02:28:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

im realy upset because i dont live with my dad and i only ever see him once evry term. he hjas just let me down sayyin i cant see him and because he lives in wales i hardley eva c him!!! i can't stop crying but im glad because all this mornin i have been cryin coz i didnt want to go but now im upset because i cant go!!!! i need help to stop crying any idears

2006-08-18 02:18:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

i want to know the marriage counselor nearby mumbai or thane, kalyan,dombivali help me plz.

2006-08-18 02:10:59 · 7 answers · asked by radha k 1

My best friend told me last night that marriage has 3 rings,

1. Engagement Ring

2. Wedding Ring

3. SUFFERING

Is this true?????

2006-08-18 02:08:35 · 24 answers · asked by Karen 6

My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and we have a two year old little boy together. We have lived with one another for 3 1/2 of those years. I am ready to be married, but I am not too sure about him. We talk about it sometimes. But he makes comments all the time that he doesn't know if he ever wants to get married. But, he is definately not ready now. Here is where the question comes in.....I love him, I want to marry him & I want more kids. Do I tell him within the next year or so that he either marries me or leaves me? Or is it wrong to ask that? Do i settle for being a "baby ma'ma" or do I do what I know I deserve and ask to become a wife? I need advice....thank you!

2006-08-18 02:03:14 · 10 answers · asked by blueyegurl0283 2