is it normal to dream about an ex 5 years on?

Question

i'm happily married but still have dreams about an ex, is this normal.

Answer 1

Yes, I have the same - I think it's a telepathic thing, he may be thinking about you at the same time and trying to communicate with you through your dreams.

I dated one of my ex's for almost 2 years. He wanted to get married, I didn't. We broke up...and his dad was diagnosed that week with pancreatic cancer. I told my family when he passes away, I must go to the funeral home. I loved his dad! Great man. Well, 6 months later he died and the day before he passed, I had a dream that my ex and I were working in the same building and we came out of our offices and faced each other - said nothing but just stared. We hadn't talked for the entire 6 months at that point. My ex was thoroughly moved by me and my family coming to pay our respects. I will never forget that dream.

Sometimes, I think it's all about closure - if the relationship didn't exactly have any...you get the dreams.

Best wishes

Answer 2

I dont think dreams are 'normal' in the first place & when we sleep we have all sorts of weird things come into our heads that so often dont make any sense whatsoever in relation to normal waking thoughts. I still have dreams of things that happened maybe 25 years ago & beyond, so as long as you are not 'intentionally' making yourself dream of your ex or to conjure up thoughts that might lead you to do something that you might regret in normal awake time then there should be no problem .............sweet dreams

Answer 3

It's quite normal. Having a fantasy over the things that never happen is human nature. You will always wonder "what if, not only on relationships, but also with trips, jobs and decisions that you didn't take.

My ex-b has been obsessed with me for 15 years! He still emails and calls and says that he has never forgot about me and regrets that he let me go... I find it cute, flatering and harmless, since I have no interest whatsoever to pursue this; besides, it's a great ego boost.

Good luck

Answer 4

Dreams are just underlying thoughts rushing to the surface they arent anything to worry about. Sometimes its nothing to do with the person you dreamt about.

I had a dream about a girl I was best friends with in primary school when I was about 8. I kept having this same dream and then I realised it was nothing to do with this girl it was just me worrying about growing up and moving on with my life and it reminded me of a time when I was young and carefree.

I'm sure your dream has nothing to do with this ex, maybe its just a reminder of something else that was happening around that time

Answer 5

I think it is normal. I will give you a good example. I have been out of high school for 25 years now. My senior year of high school I was involved with a boy I thought I was in love with. He broke up with me just before my graduation with no explaination. I tried to date boys all summer but it was not working. I kept thinking about him. I met what turned out to be my husband in late summer. I got pregnant, we got married. I had dreams of my high school sweetheart for years. It quit after many years. 20 years later I move back to the town I grew up in. By then I had divorced. I had found my high school sweetheart on the Internet. He was going to be in town one weekend so we met up for a drink at a local bar. (Starting to sound like a country music song now) We were having a very interesting conversation and talking about old times. I was getting much needed closure that I didn't get 20 years before when I was a kid. (We had been e-mailing back and fourth for a couple of years before meeting) Right in the middle of talking he all of the sudden says that I should probably go home and check on my son. We had only been there for 45 minutes. I told him that he was fine and even went as far as calling him on my cell phone. He was insistant so I went home. He called and wrote to see if he could see me again when he came into town. I didn't like the things that I heard from him so I just ignored him after I got the closure I needed.

Answer 6

Why of course it's ok to dream about your ex, i still do after 9 yrs !! but not every nite only now & then, still get a stomach churning butterfly feeling when i awake & find that she's not there only an empty space.

Answer 7

Took fifteen years to stop thinking about one particularly disastrous ex, despite being married. Sounds like you still have issues. A standard counselling technique is to write a letter to him (NOT to be posted) saying what you weren't able to say. Some people find it very satisfying to burn the letter afterwards
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Sometimes the ex comes to stand for other issues in your life, like romance, lost chances and so on, because he or she has become divorced from their original context.

As for me, I made my ex the villain for every bit of writing I did that needed one. That did the trick and was fun too.

Never piss off a writer.

Answer 8

I reckon it's normal because it reflects that u still have your ex on your mind so 2 dream abt him/her is bound to happen remember he/she had been a part of your life at some point so don't dwell too much on those dreams.

Answer 9

YES I dream about my first love all the time but I know I would not want to be reunited him. Its just a lovely memory of a happy time in my life. To get back together would only shatter the daydream enjoy your life and your memories your not hurting anyone and your certainly not cheating on your spouse...happy dreaming my friend

Answer 10

Yes, after all, that is part of your life. Your mind is like a big hard drive, sometimes it goes back to recycle bin and retrieve the file and to see what it is. They may be deleted, but somehow you can get it back.

I won't worry if I were you as long as you don't over dream about it.