In my case ive been with my fiancee for 3 yrs we have a 2 yr old together.. Any suggestions....
2006-08-18 03:25:47 · 25 answers · asked by jlilmama420 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You two are the only ones who can really answer that question. Unfortunately, you haven’t given enough information for people to get a proper understanding of your relationship.
You said that you and your fiance have been together for 3 years… Does ‘being with him’ mean you live together?… How long have you actually been engaged for?… Why did you get engaged? (I would suspect that you got engaged because you wanted to get married!)… Is there anything stopping you from getting married?… Do you love each other?… or is it a relationship of convenience?… Did you mean to get pregnant?
I would suggest that the right time for you to get married would have been at least two years ago… before the baby was born!
Basically, I think what it comes down to is the fact that you should get married when you both feel you are ready to get married. That time may never come! In the meantime, do the right thing by each other, and love that beautiful baby of yours!!!
2006-08-18 03:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am 22 years old. Have been with my baby's father for 3 years. Have a 2 year old together. We are not married but do hope to one day. You are pretty much married anyway when you live together and have a child together. But marrying is a responsibility. You have to know u mean it!
2006-08-18 03:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by wondergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your fiancee are the only ones that can make that decision. Marriage is a commitment by two people to share their lives together so until both are ready then it is not the right time.
2006-08-18 03:31:05 · answer #3 · answered by middle aged and love it 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does thing not feel right to you, i mean dont you feel like he's the one for you? You have a child and sometimes you cant base marriage on that but if you guys have been together for three years and there's a child and its still going then i think you should consider it. Unless your very young and dont think that marriage is the right thing for you now. Dont be affraid of heartbreak it happens but it also helps you to learn. Do whatever you do with God in the midst and you'll do just fine.
2006-08-18 03:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by VANILLA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll know if it's the right time to marry if you both are emotionally and financially prepared...In your case, I think three years of togetherness is more than enough to gauge your relationship...at least you've known each other fully well...and you're feelings are now stable to endure a long lasting life commitment. Goodluck!!!
2006-08-18 03:35:34 · answer #5 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that he doesn't want to take that final step to commit, but doesn't want to leave you either. There is really no security in marriage anyway. If marriage is a deal breaker, then move out, get a child support order, and tell him you need more.
2006-08-18 03:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only when the two of you are ready.Could be in 3 days,3 months,3 years.Don't until your ready.Moving to soon could lead to a break up.
2006-08-18 03:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF you want a big wedding (completely unnecessary) you have to save some money. If you go the j.p. I say when you both agree is a good time.
2006-08-18 03:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by ticklefoot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i should think that you would/should have already been married. to give yourself, your fiance and your child a sense of stability and to do the right thing, get married asap. doesn't need to be a royal-type wedding, just you folks committing to each other, legally and otherwise.
2006-08-18 03:33:10 · answer #9 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are 65
2006-08-18 04:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋