men in general?

Question

why do men think it is the wife's job to make out the bills plus take care of the house and also take care of the baby. i mean heck the man help make the mess and helps add more bills they also put the baby in you they should help to, what do you think i should tell my husband?

Answer 1

It sounds to me as if you are doing more than your fair share. I would sit down and make out a list of things that you want him to do to help you out. Then sit down with him and discuss the list. Once both of you agree on the list then stick to it. If he is unwilling to help out around the house then start doing only your laundry, cook your dinner etc until he gets the point. A relationship is suppose to be both people contributing not one sided.

Answer 2

My cousin came up with the all time best answer for this problem.

STOP PAYING THE BILLS!

I know that sounds harsh, but i bet you're stuck paying them because he either cant remember to, or he doesnt want to, or he'd rather spend his money else where.

Well, stop doing it for him. If you want your man to step up to the plate and function like a man and not like a boy, then you have to stop doing things for him.

Anyway, my cousin solved this problem the best way ive ever seen. She told her husband that he needed to pay the bills, she had other things to do, like feed the babies. She told him ONCE when some thing was due, and that was it.

He'd go out with friends, or off to work, or out some where, and he didnt pay those bills.

You can bet the first time he came home and there was no electricity and he couldnt watch his tv, and the time he came home and the house was cold and she and the babies were in bed to stay warm, and there was no room for him, or there was no food and he had to hold the crying babies, you can BET he remembered to pay the bills, and you better believe he found a way to pay them right then and there.

So long as you keep doing things for him, it doesnt effect him directly, and he doesnt have a reason to care. But when you stop doing it all, and his life gets uncomfortable, then he HAS to do something, or live with the discomfort.

its too bad there arent enough fathers raising men these days, cause we're all married to these momma boys.

Answer 3

If you're a stay-at-home Mom, then I'm sure he expects you to do these necessary chores, like paying the bills, etc, while he's out earning the money your family is living on.
He should help out in the evenings, and especially on the weekends.
If you're both working, he needs to split the chores with you. Maybe alternate the chores once per week so it doesn't become tedious.
When my wife was staying at home, raising out daughter, she'd do the daily chores during the week. On the weekends, I'd make the meals and clean the kitchen & wash the dishes.
A good relationship is all about compromising with your respective spouses.
I'd even go shopping with her because it gave us more time together. We'd stop off at a coffee shop on the way; she learned to bribe me with espresso - not from Starbuck's, either.

Answer 4

My husband and I have 4 children- He makes sure our bills get paid, helps around the house, and always helps with the duties of our children..... even when he has been at work all day he is happy to help. Everything is 50/50 in a marriage and as soon as your husband figures that out - the better off your relationship will be. I feel soorry for you- seriously- don't let any man take you for granted- not even for a second!!!

Answer 5

Tell your husband this is a marriage not a employment position. You want help in bills, house and children raising. Say it nice don't do it mad.

I help clean, I pay the bills and love helping with our children. Sure she cleans the house more but I do the outside work plus car maintenance. We share and some times I need to help more but am to busy with my work. We talk about those time and have come to agreements. Pay check coming in has priority and if I am working more hours then she takes on more at home. If I work less hours at work then I pickup more duties at home.
The one thing that does not decrease is the taking care of our children. They don't suffer because of extra hours of working I still do as much as possible in helping in this area. One because I love my wife and two I love our children.

Answer 6

Do you work outside of the home? If you don't your job is to take care of the home. There are many single mothers/women who would love to trade places with you. Sometimes in a marriage you pick and choose your battles. This one sounds petty and not worth it. If you are working outside of the home to, then he should help pitch in with the baby and cleaning up after himself. It takes a long time for men to grow up, usually around 30 they start acting civilized.

Answer 7

Just ask him for help-it is a two way street. Not all men are like this and maybe if he or the two of you could meet a couple who share responsibilities. He needs to realize that it takes two, besides he should be aware of how much work and stress it does create if only one does all of this. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I dun think they listen. I believe in action speaks louder than words. Don't pay the bills. Leave the chores undone. Leave the kids with him for a few hours and he will realise that he will only be given help if he has done his share!

Answer 9

Men have so many other things to do that women have no clue....its always I do this and I do that but people like you never take the time to appreciate what they do...in some cases the women would never do the things a guy does..give it a break.

Answer 10

If your husband has a job, he's also busting his butt, earning money for you and your child! So quit whining.

My husband and I don't care who writes the checks for the bills or pays them online, so long as it's done.

If your husband works you should THANK him, IMO.