is it any more acceptable for a wife to hit her husband than for a husband to hit his wife? in two different?

Question

arguments i have had with my wife she has punched me in the chest hard. it sort of stung a bit. how bad is this? i just sort of let it go. the other day when we were having an argument she came at me and i think if i didnt draw back she would have tried to hit me again. i'm not at all fearing my own safety because at least with her bare hands she could never hurt me. i am at least twice as physically strong as her. however, it is very hurtful to me that she did this. is this considered assault in this case ? could she go to jail for this? i know if the situation were reversed and i did it at the very least i would be in divorce court and at the worse case facing jail time. how serious a thing is this? is it only a serious thing when a husband is the one who assaults since he is much stronger? what should i have said to her ?

regarding comment by sassy old broad-
what an unbelievable double standard
would you ever say to a woman that was hit by a man that she said something to provoke it.
you have to be kidding me.

Answer 1

To Sassy OLD Broad: Go PISS up a rope!

In the last decade, we have heard Nothing but crying from women that they are just as strong and just as capable as any man but yet we have also seen "special" legislation promoted by women's groups/PACs enacted into law by the state giving "special protection" to women who are battered. There IS a double standard out there because it is assumed that men are Never the victims and therefore require No "special" protection.

In my opinion, if ANYONE launches an attack against your person, you have the Right to defend yourself regardless of his or her sex. I am pleased to see that most of the ladies posting an answer to your question support the fact that a woman that hits is in the wrong but I Don't buy into their Political Correctness BULLS--T that you should express your "feelings" and beg for her understanding!

The next time she tries to hit you, let her. Then Knock her sorry A-ss and call the cops. Since she already Thinks she's a man, treat her as one! It would be best if there are witnesses to support you or if she leaves marks or draws blood from you because you might get some a-ssclown cop who still believes in chivalry And the double standard!

I will Never hit a woman..........First! But if I get hit by a woman, all bets are off!

YOU, need to realize that the days where men lay their jackets over a mud puddle so the chick can walk past without getting her feet dirty are OVER! The women of today want to be treated as equals so give them what they want! You'd stomp a male bully wouldn't you?

Answer 2

I agree with you John T. That is a hell of a double standard for someone to ask that question. If the tables were turned, you wouldn't hear the question being asked. You wouldn't see that question posted. All you would see is criticism, judgment, and negative comments. While most people here agree that abuse is abuse, whether it is done by either side, there are still some the feed the double standard. I believe that NO ONE has a good reason to cheat or harm anyone. However, the double standard is so powered because you typically see the man on the 'convict end.' When a woman does these things, there has to be a good reason she did it. Are you serious? Why can't she be convicted in the same manner as a man? And you want to scream and bicker about equal rights? How hypocritical is that?


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Answer 3

Well it's not right for a man to hit a woman or vice-verse. Yes that is an assault and she could go to jail. The only reason it weem so bad for a man to hit a woman is because a man is so much more physically stronger then a woman. A woman can work out most of her life and still not be as strong as a man that never works out. Just tell her how you feel, if that dont work then threaten to call the police on her, but dont really do it. Next time she hits you tell her you are tired of her abuse and pick up your cell phone and pretend to call the police.

Answer 4

No way should a woman hit a man. Nor a man hit a woman. If I was you I would tell her if she EVER strikes you in any way you are going to leave. I understand what you are saying it doesn't really hurt physically but the mentally part of it is very hurtful. If you do nothing about it it is only going to get worse. Let her know you are serious about leaving for good if it continues. Good luck.

Answer 5

It is a equal offense spousal abuse works both ways but before the physical abuse starts try this, You know when things Begin getting heated up ask her to sit down with you and stop for a minute both of you take a deep breath and promise to each other you will not yell and the both of you try to keep that promise , it will not be easy to do but as best as you are both able remember that when the yelling starts no one hears a thing!

When the anger starts building over the issues again, and it will, you need to be the man and as calmly as possibly ask again to your self's not to yell and if nothing can still be resolved and the anger continues to raise, realize it and take a " TIME OUT " this is very important! tell her comely this is what you are doing you need no less then 15 minutes take them and walk around the block but if you say 15 minutes make it just that if you say 30 minutes then be back in 30 minutes don't just walk out Trust me it works, what happens if you just walk out especially in anger your partner builds mis-trust, and when you get back things will have escalated because there was no temporary closer and that is where the return timing is so important when you do as you say you are doing this helps to build the trust in the relationship if your marriage is worth trying for start with this little bit it can help!
Good luck

Answer 6

It could be very serious. It depends on the arresting police and then the judge. Some officials do look at it differenty and let it go if its a women. Some however do not and she shouldn't be hitting you. She thought it was ok because you let it go. Good that you drew back and didn't let her do it again. Hope neither of you have to file charges on one or the other. Good luck and tell her its time for her to stop doing that.

Answer 7

I can understand what your going through. From a person whom has been in this situation, I would have to say that it is very wrong. Abuse is abuse no matter who does it. If what she has done is really bothering you....I think you need to sit her down and have a heart to heart talk. Explain to her how you felt and mentioned to her that she wouldn't like it if you did that to her. Coming from a woman's point of view...your wife has some build in anger that she has a hard time expressing. I had the same problem and I had to go seek professional help in order to save my relationship. I had some major anger problems that I kept bottle up inside until I just burst. If you really love your wife...please advise her to go get help. If she refuses and continues to be violate with you....you have to be strong and love her from afar. Hope my insight helps you just a little.

Answer 8

it does not matter man or woman doing the hitting, it is still wrong.... no you may think this is a lil weired, but i have always said that if a woman hits you first you should be allowed to hit her back, (i am a woman BTW) I mean if you are letting a woman get away with hitting you then in the short future she is going to be walking all over you. I'm not telling you to beat the sh*t out of her, don't think that... but something needs to be done. I would hope that if i was in in that situation, me hitting my man when i got mad he would smack me or something to let me know that i have went to far.

sometimes when a person is mad they don't realize what they are doing, until its too late. a smack on the shoulder or something like that, not enough to hurt them, just to let them know that what they done was UN- called for...

but that's just what i think.

Answer 9

It is just as wrong for a woman to hit as it is a man, but if you hit her you will be the one in trouble, you don't want to put yourself down to her level, so do not hit her, Leave her if you must, tell her you want put up with her violence, she can't be a very bright person to do that, it will probably get worse , don't do anything to bring this behavior on,I hope there is no Children in this marriage.
I wish you the best,

Answer 10

She has no business hitting you, it sounds like she's got issues. Maybe she was abused or her mom was abused by her dad or vice versa, and thats the only way she knows. I'm not making excuses for her.. my cousin's girl used to slap him, until one day he got so fed up he slapped her so hard she slid across the floor like she was break dancing... ahhaha.. it was hilarious. anyway, let her know u are not her punching bag, and how would she feel if you punched her in the chest, she won't like it would she.. tell her if it happens again then u guys will have to go to therapy. she needs a real punching bag, maybe that will help. What if u guys have kids, will she beat them, especially if its a boy???