Marriage & Divorce - 14 August 2006

I am miserable with my husband. We very rarely get along-or even try. Niether one of us loves the other. I can see us getting divorced as soon as the kids are old enough. He's lazy, won't work, is abusive,(physically & emotionally). Everything about him makes me unhappy. For some reason, I can't get enough nerve to leave him. I am completely miserable, yet I am still here. Why? It's not for financial reasons, I support us. I have ample opportunity to leave-but I can't make my mind up. Counseling won't work-been there done that. According to him, he is the smartest person in the world and knows everything about everything. Basically my question is-if he is such a jerk and I am so miserable-why can't I make my mind up to leave?

2006-08-14 23:56:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-14 23:54:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-14 23:40:31 · 10 answers · asked by Gringa_uno 5

It was recently discovered that I had an emotional affair. I mean, I was talking to another women on the Internet and phone. We would text message each other all times of the morning while my wife was asleep. Recently, my wife found out about it, she really does not want to have anything to do with me. She told me that I destroyed the trust in our marriage. She also told me that I have put energy into this other woman. My wife now thinks that this could have happened before without her knowing it. I have told her that I am sorry, but she will not let it go. Am I wrong to think that my wife is overreacting. I have tried to tell her that we only talked about basketball, life, and other issues. My wife refuses to believe me. She basically told me that who talks about such things at 4 in the morning. It has been 4 months since the discovery of 2000 phone calls and text messages. Is it over for us? Is she overreacting?

2006-08-14 23:36:38 · 28 answers · asked by Maurice M 1

My husband is a freelance graphic designer, but he has never been very successful. He graduated at age 29, and has since done many small projects, but he has not been able to find a permanent job in this field, or establish a steady income. He is 32 now. He has a big dream now of starting his own design firm and has spent every day for the past 3 months building a website. But he has no capital, no business experience, no contacts and we are both loaded with debts. I basically support the both of us on my salary, and I won't take the chance of having kids in this financial situation, despite the fact that we both really want kids. I dont have that much time left. I try to encourage him to look for jobs, but I end up being the one doing the job search, and he only applys to the jobs with half-baked resumes. He basically makes no effort, and its clear he wants to be a freelancer, even if he makes no money. What can I do? I dont want to be the breadwinner forever.

2006-08-14 23:25:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I always hang what needs hanging,and fold and put the rest
away. But I do not iron them, until I am going to wear them out
in public. My hubby thinks most house holds iron them as soon as they come out of the dryer. I know they dont ! lets put it up for a vote!

2006-08-14 23:20:21 · 11 answers · asked by Lilac_lady 1

he is always looking at other women and has even admitted to looking at his sons girlfriends butt it hurts me very badly and i do tell him about it i love him but this is driving me crazy he gets online at his work place now so i cant track him

2006-08-14 23:13:09 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-14 22:55:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

she will not ready to stay with me. i donot like that she stay with her parents. she fight with my parent. and we are the parents of two children. she and her parent say they put dorrey case to me. last 9 months she is staying in her village.she came for delvery at my house and again go to her house.

2006-08-14 22:52:02 · 11 answers · asked by reach_high_offer 1

2006-08-14 22:40:26 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

If yes, do you place blame on yourself or your partner - or are you both at blame? I mean, what happened?

2006-08-14 22:40:10 · 10 answers · asked by cat lady 5

2006-08-14 22:32:30 · 9 answers · asked by frisky 1

2006-08-14 22:25:26 · 25 answers · asked by frisky 1

We were married 30 years. He has been seeing other women...younger women. He's changed so much. And I know I'm a fool to still love him. But for 30 years...he's been my life. I go over to our house everyday. Sometimes we'll even go to dinner together.But, usually have a disagreement by the end of the nite. I need to move on... It's so hard.

2006-08-14 22:19:15 · 8 answers · asked by sonny 2

Well, falling in love is always beautiful.And more beautiful is the moment when the one you love asks you to marry. Most men pamper their girls and put their heart in front. Others put their heart and say what all they desire in a relationship. I have question what if a man tells you he loves you, and wants to marry you. And after the marriage his total loyalty will be with you but if incase he has some intimate encounter or one night stand with some one which he is not desiring but intuitive of, you should not take it in negative spirits.For, he has always loved you, you and only you. He will take care that he never hurts you for you are the only woman he loves. And this might just happen and he is saying it so that you are prepared and understand the situation. He repeats I don’t want this to happen & I will always see to avoid this but if any such situation hovers me for long I might fail to stop it. 8 out of 10 times he will not do this but 2 times he might fail.

2006-08-14 22:11:25 · 7 answers · asked by Aster 1

2006-08-14 22:04:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Don't make this dirty, ok? Please? I'm just curious :
Eyes? Legs? Lips? Hair? Boobs? Hands? Rear? Arms? Teeth?
My best assets are my legs,
but my hubby would say the 5th thing I mentioned.
My husband's best assets are his hands. I love them!

2006-08-14 22:03:31 · 9 answers · asked by Mary* 5

I met someone online here and I am not to sure of how much I should trust this person. Have you ever experienced this and how would you handle it?

Sometimes I feel like he is honest and other times I feel like he is using different accounts to play games with me.

2006-08-14 21:53:50 · 16 answers · asked by Broken heart ♥ 1

2006-08-14 21:36:39 · 10 answers · asked by Omar 1

Would you love a guy or could you, if, when you were out on the town and he noticed another guy looking at your legs or something and it turned him on? And would you could you marry such a person?

2006-08-14 21:28:18 · 13 answers · asked by aguyinthewoods 4

my wife left me in May this year every one says get over it I just dont seem able to , she had been having an affair with another man since feb . Somedays i think I cant go on others i scrape by why has she done this to me I was good to her i know i was?

2006-08-14 21:22:19 · 10 answers · asked by paul r 1

Im married with two kids, husband doesnt love me forever.thats why i falling with love with this guy. He promised me he will lookafter my kids. me2 love him very much. if i leave him he will kill himself. we had sex several times. i need to go with him. we decided to go abroad.

2006-08-14 21:06:55 · 15 answers · asked by anudil 1

i think after 30 what about you

2006-08-14 21:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

It seems every other question is a WOMAN asking what she should do if she is married but loves someone else. What is wrong with women. No wonder the sanctity of marriage has been destroyed by sIuts.

I am so glad I am not married.

2006-08-14 21:03:38 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I am trying to be intimate with my husband and oral is involved I on occasion want to swallow because he really likes it. However, it really hurts my stomach and causes me to have digestive problems. Is there any way to prevent this or relieve this? I know I don't have to swallow, but I do like to suprise him sometimes.

2006-08-14 21:03:16 · 14 answers · asked by Leslie K 3

I wish, some one would have told me not to take take marriage vows so seriously. I took it seriuosly and could never get out of the marriage relatioship and set my self free.

2006-08-14 20:59:52 · 14 answers · asked by mann54 2

Should I leave the guy Iam with he is 38 with 4 kids oldest 16years old youngest 11years old. He is not living with the kids mother he has the kids with him. But he is not divorce and still has lots of problems with the kids mother. I am 29 years old and single never been married or had kids I have a good job that pays good. I was a sunday school teacher. Had my incounter with Jesus but i backslided and commited adultery with him. Now I am trying to decide what should i do. Should i leave or stay. He said he was safe and the more I talk or get to bea around him I see that he is not what he said he was. Everytime we are together he want to have sex he admitts he is weak.He tells me to wait for him that he will get divorce so he can marry me.He wants to be friends with a future. He is so different than me the only thing that makes me stay with him is that he is real good looking. And that I beleive him and I fell in love with him I do care and love him but i know that i am getting hurt.

2006-08-14 20:42:42 · 11 answers · asked by Pretty girl 1

What do you think women look for in a potential husband/partner?

2006-08-14 20:27:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, if you were in a relationship and you and your man were together a year or so and you knew he had an exgirlfriend that he really liked before and you CANNOT stand this woman. and you think she may have broke up with him and then she starts texting him and inviting him to partys a year later out of no where and says to him i thought youwerent supposed to talk to me b/c of your girlfriend....then you find out that she is coming to your mans college in the fall out of all the colleges in your state she comes to this one where your man is attending... And your man still wants to be friend with her and you have very strong feelings about this woman (DISLIKE/Hatred) how would you feel??????? would it bother you if she was talking to him & your man wouldnt tell you right away because he doesnt want you to be mad????

2006-08-14 20:20:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am getting married in April. There are things I do not expect my fiancee to be interested in simply because I enjoy them but it does not seem to be vice versa. I support a lot of what he does and participate in a great deal of his interests, but there are just some things I am not interested in like British comedy, or going to Arkansas, or sitting in 100 degree heat when he has a gig to play outdoors. As I said, I support at least 90% of his interests and dreams and desires, but that 10% left over is for things I am interested in like pursuing a doctorate, teaching online classes, taking dance classes.
How do you wives deal with sharing your husbands interests? Men, how much of your wifes' attention do you require with regard to your interests?

2006-08-14 20:18:03 · 7 answers · asked by femmenoire@sbcglobal.net 4