Marriage & Divorce - 14 August 2006

2006-08-14 10:28:37 · 41 answers · asked by ? 4

My friend said that we shouldn't talk anymore because of my situation. Me and my husband have been seperated for almost a year. My husband found out I had a friend (relationship started after the seperation) and did some very "not-so-nice" things. During our relationship (5 months)my friend has told me he loves me. He's always known about my seperation. After the "not-so-nice" things my husband did, my friend has pulled away. He stated he's not the one to lead someone on. I don't understand. We've admitted to loving each other. I'm hurting so bad, but I told him I understood, but why didn't I fight for him? Should I try to rekindle the relationship after the divorce is final?

By the way, my husband said he did those things because he was willing to "fight" for me.

Please help. I've never been in-love before I met my friend (a long story). It's wonderful, but it hurts so bad!

2006-08-14 10:28:15 · 7 answers · asked by Oohay L 1

2006-08-14 10:25:59 · 18 answers · asked by perlznpassion 2

My wife's car trunk lock is messed up, I figure WD 40 should do the trick. Do you do all the "man" jobs around the house, or are household jobs non gender specific?

2006-08-14 10:23:45 · 46 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

To all the Women who can help?
We are going to be starting our own Roofing buisness.My Husband is having a hard time deciding on a few matters that i feel are very important.I need the womens advice .What attracts a womens eye when it come to advertisment.I know price is very important but could you please help me out with when looking threw the paper what would you like to see or have seen that gave you The reason to make that call?Thank you for all your help.

2006-08-14 10:23:00 · 8 answers · asked by ? 2

I have known him for two years. He and I became great friends for the first six-eight months(something like that). He said he was going to leave his wife. After we became intimate. He told me first he was in love with me, then I could not hold back my feelings and told him too. After having an emotional affair with him I see that he is not doing anything to proceed with a divorce. Like he had his cake and ate it too thing. Emotionaly, I am bruised. I feel bad for his wife, I feel bad about falling in love with him. He says that at first, as friends, he never expected such a strong bond to develop between us. We have soooo many things in common as well. He says that he now wants to be my friend and wants to make a decision about his life/marriage that way. I respect that he is making an effort to be adult enough to still want to re-honor his marriage vows, and see realisticly where his happiness is. I am hurt, angry, mostly at myself, and depressed. Do I take his calls?

2006-08-14 10:22:54 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

You know when all you want to do is kiss someone intensly without any attachments or for it to go any further.

2006-08-14 10:20:07 · 8 answers · asked by dori_619 1

ok im a step mom, my son 5yrs old starts school for the first time tomorrow and my youngest stepson goes to the same school and then the oldest goes to a different school... well i took off work so i could take the kids to school, yeah i know my step kids are not mine, but im trying to treat them all the same and learn how to do stuff for them as a family instead of two families livin in one house...well for some reason my husband wants his mom to take the oldest one to school...even though i told him that i could take him but he said i couldnt handle it....HELLO I HAVE A KID OF MY OWN so what the hell....does he not trust me???? well i know they are not my kids...but im trying... we have only been married not even a year... plus there is somethings he says that just make me feel he is talking to me like a lil kid...what should i do....i didnt know it was like this until i got a ring on my finger

2006-08-14 10:14:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-14 10:06:22 · 18 answers · asked by cheli 1

are you usually right. My husband & I have been married for 17 years. They've been rough but I NEVER thought he was cheating. Now I have the sinking feeling he is. At the very least he's hiding something. Am I probably right?

2006-08-14 09:59:33 · 29 answers · asked by amee2you 3

I been through relations, have dum every crazy thing except intercourse, thinking to share "that" fk-movement with the "one" I will spend my life with. However, lately I have started feeling guilty for some reason; I don't know. Is it mean that now it is the time for me to step up and take what already mine or hold myself for the "one"? I need ur thoughts about this, kindly guide me...

2006-08-14 09:58:54 · 24 answers · asked by VJ 1

My wife and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have a beautiful baby boy together. She is in the military and I am a real estate agent in Washington. Things between us have been rocky for the last 2-3 years, and we both have made mistakes in the past. I confess, almost daily, my love for her and my desire to make her happy. She has been restation to Japan with the Air Force, and we had made a commitment to work out our differences within a three month time frame, untill we were together again. It's been about 2 1/2 months, and just recently she has confessed that she has been spending time with someone else. She swears that her developing relationship with this person is not the reason for wanting to end our marriage, but I can't see how it doesn't have something to do with it. How can one save a marriage when the other doesn't wan, t to stay with you? The Lord says that marriage is a covenant, but she says that we argue too much. What should I do?

2006-08-14 09:54:38 · 26 answers · asked by matthewaplummer 1

Is asking a woman to love you with all her heart, to much to ask if the man knows he will be dying with in 5 to 7 years.and will half to say good bye at the end of those years. do you think that this is asking for to much in a woman.

2006-08-14 09:53:46 · 19 answers · asked by Cobra 5

We're not talking about fantasies here because fantasies are personal and can be kept private.

I'm talking about really wanting or needing something sexually and being able to talk to your spouse about it without feeling embarrassed or insecure (that they'll think less or differently about you). Can you do that? And what does it say about one's relationship if they can't? And should we always confront our spouses about our sexual needs, or is it better to accept that we need to keep certain requests to ourselves and just live with the fact that we can't always get what we want?

2006-08-14 09:51:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-14 09:51:09 · 13 answers · asked by melissa2talkwith 1

2006-08-14 09:43:39 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My married lover is in love with me, he does lots for me, he puts up with me, he cares for me, he hurts when ever I do try to break up with him, so why is it so hard to see this from you outsiders, like it's impossible. It happens. They do not have any children, just a dog.

2006-08-14 09:41:39 · 19 answers · asked by tami78731 1

My wife and I fight.

Constantly.

All the time.

She said to me this morning, "I only want happiness for you, and if that means you leaving me and having a happy life for yourself, you should do it".

Now I know that is not what she truely means.

Ladies........what does that mean in "Woman Talk".

Thanks.

2006-08-14 09:38:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently caught my husband cheating on me. We have started marriage counseling. I want to know if anyone has been to a retrouvaille weekend. What was your experience and how much did it cost?

2006-08-14 09:35:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

While I was at tech school my wife ran into her first love. they had sex 6 times in the month and half. Even when she left me at home once I was done with tech school and ****** him. Now I just found out and all of us are staying at a apartment in Spokane Wa. We have no money. Her boyfriend wants to go home. He sleepts in one room and I sleept in another and my wife sleepts in the living room between us. I don't get much sleept and I always check and watch them. My wife told that she didn't feel sorry for what she has done. What do I do? Help

2006-08-14 09:35:45 · 33 answers · asked by sam_davis331 1

My wife and I are separated now and it is mainly because I could not open up to her. I love her dearly but was never ever to overcome my fear of rejection and my insecurities about myself. These fears about her not loving me – the real me – stopped me from ever letting her see the real me. I was always afraid that I was never good enough and that anything I did – from planning surprise vacations to performing in the bedroom - would not be good enough. So instead of trying harder, I tried less. You can’t “fail” if you don’t try. You can’t be “rejected” by your wife if you don’t pursue her. Now that we have talked and I have explained all this to her, the anxiety seems really stupid. Things are less scary once you say them. I needed to realize that there was nothing I could tell her that would make her love me less. Not letting her in is what made her love me less. As much as it kills me, for us it looks like it is too late. Even with me opening up now she seems to be gone.

I have been doing a lot of soul searching since the separation and found a great article that really spoke to me. Here is part of it:

“It feels good when our partners agree with and validate us, but you can't count on it. If you demand it, you can land in the crazy conundrum that creates eternal insecurity: We put a spin on what we reveal about ourselves in order to get the response we want. Then we can never feel secure with those who accept us because we know they don't really know us. When you are willing to validate yourself, you can afford to let your partner know you as you are. You stop presenting yourself the way you want to be seen, and you just disclose with no other goal than being truly known.

Self-validated intimacy sounds like: "I want you to know me before I die. I want to share with you my days, which would otherwise be less meaningful. It would be nice if you agreed with me, wonderful if you liked me. But most of all I want to know that somebody really knew who and what I am. More than I fear your rejection I fear never reaching across my mortality, which separates me from you and others. I will care for my own feelings, Just know me--including my sexuality."

This was me. I never felt comfortable enough to just let my wife know who I am and what my desires were. This put up a wall between us and drove her away. For all of you out there that are doing the same thing – DON”T. Tell you loved one what you feel and share your feelings. This will ultimately make you stronger. Don’t make the same mistake I did and let the best thing you ever had slip away because you were too afraid to show that person the all of you.

Good Luck

2006-08-14 09:33:32 · 15 answers · asked by Steven H 1

2006-08-14 09:30:37 · 1 answers · asked by ? 1

I'm dealing with the aftermath of my husband having a one time thing with someone. I want the opinion of "The other woman" Anyone who's had a one time thing with a married man, do you think the mans marriage is doomed? Having been with him, could you tell if he was thinking about his family? Did you forget all about it afterwards, so is it safe to assume he did too?

2006-08-14 09:28:20 · 11 answers · asked by Cheryl 1

vitale, he's funny as hell" We were watching tv & I didn't even know that my wife knew who the hell he was. She watches ESPN? Are you ever surprised by your significant other?

2006-08-14 09:24:52 · 40 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

Maybe it just SEEMS that more people are getting divorced, with the advent of shows like "Divorce Court", etc. But is it true that more couples are getting divorces nowadays?

Why is this? I mean, specifically, what has changed in society that has caused this phenomenon to increase? Did people just get along better in marriages say 75 years ago?

Does it have to do with more cases of infidelity...or ? What dynamics in relationships and society have changed to spawn so much divorce?

2006-08-14 09:22:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im married and am inlove with a married man......says he loves me.......but dont want to loose his kids...

2006-08-14 09:21:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-08-14 09:16:34 · 18 answers · asked by soollddiieerr 1

I'm a women who loves porn movies and books. I can appreciate beauty when I see it. These women cant pop out of these books and have their way with your men. Its so crazy, these women have to be so insecure with themselves to even think such a thing. I think looking in a book or watching porn is better than cheating any day.

2006-08-14 09:15:08 · 13 answers · asked by adatude4u 2

i dont have a dad,no one knows about it ,i found out yesterday,i am 2 months old,i know becouse my friend got me a test,i am 13,i am in 7th grade,my boy friend left me,( the baby dady)

2006-08-14 09:11:09 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are very sexually active but every time we make love it feels like the first time for me; it hurts like a mother for the first few minutes then its ok but still tight. My husband was my first, we have been together for 5 1/2 years so it shouldn't hurt anymore. He loves it of course (duh) but I am worried there is something wrong with me. Is it normal for it to hurt EACH TIME?

2006-08-14 09:09:07 · 16 answers · asked by lovely butterfly 2