if you knew your friend's husband did something he shouldn't have done, would you tell?

Answer 1

If it is something serious go to her husband and tell him you know and if he doesn't tell her, you will. Give him the chance to be honest with her but tell him he's got 3 days, or whatever you think appropriate. If he doesn't tell her in that amount of time then it's up to you to clue her in. Be very careful that you do it in a loving way. Let her know you're not trying to be a busy body but there are some things a wife has a right to know. I let go of several of my so-called friends because they didn't bother to tell me about something. I felt by NOT telling me they were helping him keep secrets from me.

Answer 2

I am an honest person, I believe in honesty at all costs for myself. But when it comes to friendship I have found that a wife/girlfriend already knows but doesn't/isn't ready to except it yet. If asked a direct question from my friend I would not lie, maybe skim across the truth but not a full confession. I have found out (the hard way) that you will be the interfering "B" in the end and lose a friendship in so doing. Don't leave clues or drop hints either because she will know you know and that just makes it all the more humiliating for her. I don't care who it is or how long it's been going on or how long ago it happened...she has an idea about it and will find out on her own, just be there as her friend when she does, it's all you can do if you want to keep your friendship with her.

Answer 3

It depends on what it is and your motive behind telling the friend. I would tell because I would want to know if my husband was doing something wrong if I was in the same situation. Just be sure that you have your facts straight before telling the friend, rumors aren't enough.

Answer 4

Ever heard that phrase "don't kill the messenger". I would want to tell but it would depend on my friend. Once I told a friend her husband was cheating on her and she didn't believe me EVEN when I showed her a picture of them snuggling in a restaurant. I guess it isn't proved unless the picture shows penetration. BTW, he left her for the woman a few months ago. The divorce should be final any day but she still doesn't believe they were seeing each other before he left her. IDIOT!

Answer 5

Yep, my loyalty is to my friend not her husband and if he didn't want to get caught he shouldn't have been doing it and he certainly should've been bright enough not to let me find out. If you don't and she finds out some other way and finds out you knew and didn't tell her she'll be angry with you. Be prepared though she may not want to deal with whatever you tell her, but at least she'll know and you will have done the right thing. Wouldn't you want someone to tell you?

Answer 6

If your truly a good friend you need to tell her because secrets soon enough come to the light and if she find out that you knew you might as well kiss your friendship goodbye.

Answer 7

Yes but only if you know it first hand. If she is your best friend she will at least listen with an open mind. There is also a good chance she knows there is something wrong withing the relationship anyway.

Answer 8

It depends on d relationship u and this friend shares. If u guys aren't best friend then u shouldn't tell because she will think that u want her man but if u r best friends u should tell her everything

Answer 9

I agree with RM. Go to him and tell him that either he can tell her or you can. Give him a deadline and then make sure you follow up.
Put yourself in her shoes.
Wouldn't you wish someone would have the guts enough to tell you?
Golden rule babe!

Answer 10

Yes ,and be ready for one or both parties to be angry with you if you do. Doing the right thing isn't easy, but needs to be done by somebody .