I'm dealing with the aftermath of my husband having a one time thing with someone. I want the opinion of "The other woman" Anyone who's had a one time thing with a married man, do you think the mans marriage is doomed? Having been with him, could you tell if he was thinking about his family? Did you forget all about it afterwards, so is it safe to assume he did too?
2006-08-14 09:28:20 · 11 answers · asked by Cheryl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this one a one time thing and he did not have feelings for her. This happened in another country so I know it is over.
2006-08-14 09:50:00 · update #1
I've been with married man.. and their marriage weren't doomed.. but then again .. apparently it's normal for caribbean man to have a women on the side.. and that they'll always stay with their wifes...
sometimes that works.. others no.. .
and now.. I think god is punishing me.. because my husband slept with another women.. but to top things.. she's not even a women.. she's a 15 years old teenager !!...
2006-08-14 09:34:04 · answer #1 · answered by Lyne B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have slept with a married man..... More than once... Does he love me? NO, he lusts me..... DO I love him? NO, I lust him. We generally don't discuss his wife, We did before we started having sex. He is looking for excitement. I turned him down for months, and then finally said yes. Absolutely NO REGRETS.... There are no children involved. He is married, I am not.
I can guarantee you that he wasn't thinking of his wife while we were having sex......... I did not forget about it, and neither did he. We talk about it,and plan when we will get together again..
I know this isn't the answer you wanted, but it's my truth.
I also know that there is no future, Just sex..... And he also knows that if his wife finds out, (his words) She will kill him..... And my reply was evidently you have a death wish....... In my opinion, he doesn't care about her, or he would not be doing this to her...... Now before you all go getting holier than thou, We are both adults and have made our decision, and we will have to live with what ever happens. But I'm not telling and neither is he........
2006-08-14 11:05:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A 'one time thing' is usually just sex, not love. Forgive your husband and continue with your life. This happens in 99% of marriages. Yes the 'other woman' forgets about it and the husband never remembers it in the first place.
2006-08-14 09:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a married man at work who wants to sleep with me-- he has been following me around for a year-- looking at me in a way few men have-- all I can think- besides how hot the sex would be--is that if I was married and my husband looked at a woman the way he looks at me-- he would be single fast-- the ultimate betrayal
2006-08-14 12:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are dealing with this issue. I personally have no been with a married man, and wouldnt be. My sister on the other hand did have a fling with a married man. She did not think of his family until after the fact. She felt very guilty after they had sex and told him how she was feeling. He at that time said that he didnt feel guilty that he hadnt felt so alive in a long time. She ended it then and there, yet he kept trying to get her to change her mind saying his wife would never find out and that he cared for her.
Do yourself a huge favor, leave this man.
2006-08-14 09:38:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes and believe me for him it was just sex,nothing more men can do that and not even think about the woman again with no emotional attachment but if he has done it once he might be tempted to do it again and if he does it enough then it could possibly lead to an on going affair.but not always it just depends on the man
2006-08-14 18:46:51 · answer #6 · answered by tarzan's lady again 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have done it...the guy led me to believe that his wife was unbearable to be around ( i am not by anymeans saying that you are...this is just what the guy i was with told me) he made me think that there was a chance for him and i to be together and that he really loved me (which i know was crap)
he didnt talk about his wife much,but not becaue we avaoided the topic...just because she rarely came up...we did however talk about his kids but mostly because we had kids the same age and because he was trying to make me feel like i was in a relationship with him and he didnt want me to think he was just using me for sex...
my advice is to give him this chance...if he says he loves you and wants it to work believe him...i think everyone is entitled to a mistake or 2...the marriage being doomed is up to the 2 of you...if you arent willing to put in the time to forgive him and he isnt willing to put int he time and work to earn your forgivness it wont work...
2006-08-14 09:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A couple of them. One was an actor with whom I was doign charitable work. The other was my dance partner.
2014-09-06 19:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. He's my husband.
2016-04-18 19:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my darling hubby.
2015-01-27 13:47:31 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋