My friend said that we shouldn't talk anymore because of my situation. Me and my husband have been seperated for almost a year. My husband found out I had a friend (relationship started after the seperation) and did some very "not-so-nice" things. During our relationship (5 months)my friend has told me he loves me. He's always known about my seperation. After the "not-so-nice" things my husband did, my friend has pulled away. He stated he's not the one to lead someone on. I don't understand. We've admitted to loving each other. I'm hurting so bad, but I told him I understood, but why didn't I fight for him? Should I try to rekindle the relationship after the divorce is final?
By the way, my husband said he did those things because he was willing to "fight" for me.
Please help. I've never been in-love before I met my friend (a long story). It's wonderful, but it hurts so bad!
2006-08-14 10:28:15 · 7 answers · asked by Oohay L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way, there is NO WAY my husband and I are getting back together.
2006-08-14 10:43:42 · update #1
The reason that he pulled away is because you are married! You are commited to someone else whether you are seperated or not. The chance of you getting back with your husband is still there and I am sure that it scares him. Therefor you should get divorced and hope that he is still single.
2006-08-14 11:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have so much feelings for him, the obvious answer is yes, go after him when your divorce is final. I don't know what your husband did that wasn't "so-nice" to cause your friend to pull away from you, but if you love this man, fight to get him back! And...don't let your (soon to be) ex husband interfere with your lives anymore.
2006-08-14 17:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a web of drama. Your husband had every right to fight for his marriage and his wife and your "friend" should have known better than to get involved with a married woman anyway. Sounds like you need to make your mind up. Either you want your husband or you don't. If you do, then you should talk to him and tell him you want to try to work things out - maybe if you are lucky he will be willing to give things another chance.
2006-08-14 17:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go file for divorce! The change in your friend is due to your ex's involvement. Heaven knows what else he did that you don't know about.
If this friend really cared about you, he would still be around. Don't fight it! Start a new life - with out your husband tagging along.
2006-08-14 18:00:58 · answer #4 · answered by Blond Logic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you haven't said that you love your friend....so maybe that's the reason you don't want to "fight" for him.... You don't love your husband either, so I will tell move on, finalize the divorce, and don't pursue anything with this friend.... the real love is waiting for you some other place.
2006-08-14 17:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by None 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your "friend" really loved you he would never have backed off. Give yourself time to heal you will find love, real love, when the time is right
2006-08-14 17:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by doicu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your "friend" is not worth it
2006-08-14 17:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by gabby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋