Should I leave the guy Iam with he is 38 with 4 kids oldest 16years old youngest 11years old. He is not living with the kids mother he has the kids with him. But he is not divorce and still has lots of problems with the kids mother. I am 29 years old and single never been married or had kids I have a good job that pays good. I was a sunday school teacher. Had my incounter with Jesus but i backslided and commited adultery with him. Now I am trying to decide what should i do. Should i leave or stay. He said he was safe and the more I talk or get to bea around him I see that he is not what he said he was. Everytime we are together he want to have sex he admitts he is weak.He tells me to wait for him that he will get divorce so he can marry me.He wants to be friends with a future. He is so different than me the only thing that makes me stay with him is that he is real good looking. And that I beleive him and I fell in love with him I do care and love him but i know that i am getting hurt.
2006-08-14 20:42:42 · 11 answers · asked by Pretty girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Its too hard to leave someone your in love with. Do what your heart tells you. Just keep in mind, he comes with a whole lot of baggage. If your not going to be able to handle it, let go while you can.
2006-08-14 20:46:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are dating someone, and they look good . . . then cool! But after 15 minutes, you better KNOW SOMETHING. Charm and good looks make a favorable initial impression, but it is your character that will stand the test of time.
If you are 29 and single (no kids) -- you have your whole life ahead of you and do not need the Spanish-laden soap opera drama that your boyfriend seems embroiled in.
You are unencumbered!
He on the other hand is NOT!
1) He is married and you have yet to see any divorce papers (legal documents filed with County Clerk stamp showing movment toward closure).
2) He has a wife.
3) He has FOUR (not 1, not 2, not 3, but 4 kids) which means he has potentially four people he is gonna have to take care of BEFORE he can really take care of you or even commit to you.
4) He has major drama with his baby mama (no surprise that he is coming to YOU for his sexual needs!).
5) He AND YOU will still have to deal with the baby mama drama AFTER the divorce.
If you have committed your life to Jesus, then you already know that Jesus is in the "character" business. Stop looking at your man's drop-dead gorgeous looks and his bedroom acumen and stop listening to his promises of marriage -- look at your man's character!
If he is committing adultery while he is married to another woman, what assurances do you have that you won't be experiencing the same story -- different cast!
Instead of believing in a weak man with baby mama drama, stick to Jesus.
You can do bad by your damn self!
2006-08-15 03:56:22 · answer #2 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you need to leave him, at least untill he IS divorced. Tell him you love him but that untill he offically is divorced the tow of you cannot have more than a friendship. You can sitll be his friend and also this will give you a chance to see what else about is not what you may have thought......a lot of times married men SAY they are going to leave their wives but in all honesty they have no intention of it, they just want thier cake & eat it too. Be carefull you sound sweet & Id hate to see you hurt by him. If he truely loves you he will respect this & will value your friendship untill he can divorce his wife & then truely he can be with you without you having to feel guilty about adultery.....he cant love you & still be w his wife, it doesnt work like that...BEST OF LUCK
2006-08-15 03:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by *♥* ♥* FaeGoddess*♥*♥* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from that man - you will get burned badly. You need to find a nice man who has no kids who will marry you and have a family with you. You do not sound ready to take on all of his problems and you already know deep down inside that you are going to get hurt, so go with your gut and leave him now.
2006-08-15 03:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by kingpusskitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to the alter and ask for forgiveness of your sins, and then ask for guidance as to marry this man. Not sleep or shack up, but marry when he is free. This doesn't sound like it would have God's blessing.........him not divorced, and yous are having sex. This will only lead further away from God and his plans for you. Go back and pray.
2006-08-15 04:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should leave him. Being with him is not worth the heart ache. Not to mention its wrong.
2006-08-15 03:46:21 · answer #6 · answered by T-Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer, Pretty Girl. He is not the man for you.
2006-08-15 03:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Hidden .38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your self this why buy the cow when you are allready getting the milk for free? as long as you listen to his lies he is going to keep telling them
2006-08-15 03:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by bigrigdvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think he will marry you? answer one question for--- would you buy the cow when you get the milk free?
2006-08-15 03:48:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave
2006-08-15 03:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋