Well, falling in love is always beautiful.And more beautiful is the moment when the one you love asks you to marry. Most men pamper their girls and put their heart in front. Others put their heart and say what all they desire in a relationship. I have question what if a man tells you he loves you, and wants to marry you. And after the marriage his total loyalty will be with you but if incase he has some intimate encounter or one night stand with some one which he is not desiring but intuitive of, you should not take it in negative spirits.For, he has always loved you, you and only you. He will take care that he never hurts you for you are the only woman he loves. And this might just happen and he is saying it so that you are prepared and understand the situation. He repeats I don’t want this to happen & I will always see to avoid this but if any such situation hovers me for long I might fail to stop it. 8 out of 10 times he will not do this but 2 times he might fail.
2006-08-14 22:11:25 · 7 answers · asked by Aster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What the hell? Who does he think he is? Tell him the same "if you're not sure you could resist the temptations, I also doubt I can resist to any man I see around me. Does it sound fair to you cause it sounds to me...Then why did you marry if you consider yourself so weak?"...I don't think girls can live with this incertitude, "what if he is cheating on me right now, cause he ended his work 2 hrs ago, where he might be?"...Set some rules, otherwise he will have the impression "ok, I told her it's possible to cheat on her some day in our life, she should be prepared" and if you accept such thing as an understing wife, it will be a "you're ready to go for it" for him, like he has your permission to do it. Don't be stupid.
2006-08-14 22:20:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like saying, "just incase" - hes trying to cover all bases by saying this - so in the future when this chance encounter/one night stand does (and will) arrive, he will have already secured your forgivness and an excuse. This tells me that he is unfaithful and not to be trusted. Intimate encounters/one night stands are things that can be avoided and shouldnt even be considered as part of your marital future.
2006-08-14 22:22:34 · answer #2 · answered by kingpusskitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got to be kidding. What a jerk. Sounds like he's got something cooked up. Sweetheart,,,,looks pretty much....failure city to me. I would dump him. He says total loyalty??? Does he know what that word means? I think he's got it mixed up with infidelity. This guy is a real TRIP! ( but if any situation hovers me, I might fail to stop it.) can't stop laughing! I hope you're smarter than that to actually spend your life with him. But hey.......if it doesn't bother you, then more power to ya. Some couples might say it's fine with them. But they are probably swingers. Good Luck Sweetheart.
2006-08-14 22:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by sonny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he can't (and won't) promise that he'll be 100% faithful to you. He's already telling you upfront whether you realize this or not. Bottom line: He's a potential cheater (assuming he hasn't cheated on you already). You need to take this matter seriously if you are planning on marrying him. On the other hand, consider yourself lucky that you saw the warning signs before it was too late.
2006-08-14 22:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry the jerk! He's already telling you he's going to cheat on you!
Respect yourself enough to say " NO, I WON'T PUT UP WITH THAT ! "
Would he put up with you having a one-night stand with someone? NO!
Don't let him disrespect you or your vows like that!
Drop him like a bad habit, sister!
Even if falling in love is beautiful, You deserve better than him.
2006-08-14 22:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Mary* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame this guy has already in a cunny way shown his weakness so its upto you to decide if you can live with it . because if he claims he loves you such an idea is not supposed to even cross his mind at tha moment.
2006-08-14 22:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by pretoria_fish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doll, I think your guy has already set himself up for failure.
If he says he isn't going to do it, he should put a period there and not a statistic...
2 out of 10 is simply too much...
He's out to cheat on you even if it is subconsciously...
Do not trust him...
2006-08-14 22:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by sedatedeyes209 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋