Ok, if you were in a relationship and you and your man were together a year or so and you knew he had an exgirlfriend that he really liked before and you CANNOT stand this woman. and you think she may have broke up with him and then she starts texting him and inviting him to partys a year later out of no where and says to him i thought youwerent supposed to talk to me b/c of your girlfriend....then you find out that she is coming to your mans college in the fall out of all the colleges in your state she comes to this one where your man is attending... And your man still wants to be friend with her and you have very strong feelings about this woman (DISLIKE/Hatred) how would you feel??????? would it bother you if she was talking to him & your man wouldnt tell you right away because he doesnt want you to be mad????
2006-08-14 20:20:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are not married - and Hell Yes I want to beat the **** out of her but i dont want him to be mad at me !?!?
2006-08-14 20:26:27 · update #1
He doesnt go and see her either, just used to talk on instant messenger and sometimes on the phone, i trust him i just dont trust the *****, ya know
2006-08-14 20:27:45 · update #2
I love this man and i know he loves me it just pisses me off that he didnt tell me upfront, because he didnt want me to "get mad" cause he knows i cant stand the tramp
2006-08-14 20:31:13 · update #3
Thank You Ladies, I see I am not alone and wrong for being pissed off.
2006-08-14 20:32:28 · update #4
Why are you mad at this girl? Why do you want to kick her butt? It seems to me that if your guy loves you and you trust him completely then you have nothing to worry about.
You can not say that you trust HIM it is just that you don't trust HER. It takes TWO to screw around. And if he is in love with you then it will not happen. If it does happen then he did not love you in the first place.
Part of love is honor and respect.........and if he screws around then he neither honors or respects you and you would be better off without him.
And him not telling you because he did not want you to get mad is just an excuse for him. I don't know about the rest of you women but I get more mad if I am not told right off because then it makes you wonder what is going on. Had he told you when it first started happening then you would be less pissed about the situation and you would feel more like he respects you enough to be honest with you up front.
2006-08-21 15:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be bothered definately! My boyfriend has an Ex in cali. They were in a long distance realtionship for like 5 years but they still were seeing other people.. She was supposed to move out here and he told her not to because he wanted to see where things were going with me. So afterward she was sending him texts saying **** like "Where are you why aren't you talking to me I miss my husband" that was after we were living together a month already.. than she says **** on his myspace like what do your parents think about you not marrying me.. pretty much anything she can do to get him back.. anyway what I am saying is watch your back girl females are scandolous and will do whatever they can to get what they want.
2006-08-14 21:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by ashez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have every right to be pissed off. he should not even be talking to her esspecially if she is his ex girlfriend. If you really love some one you look to the future and let go of the past and everything else that will jeperdize your relationship. you need to tell him to cut her off or your gone. what else doent he tell you about? i think talking to other people especially an ex just causes problems. he needs to tell her to back off. tell him you dont want him talking to her any more its not right and it bothers you. if he gets mad and doesnt not want to then sumthing is up. how would he like it if you were talking to an ex boyfriend. i know for a fact it would piss him off. maybe thats what you should do. that is the way men are. good luck girl.
2006-08-14 20:52:40 · answer #3 · answered by girlfriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes...most definitely! You have every right to be angry on that one! The texting and inviting him to parties would have really bothered me. The whole thing about the college..well, I guess that COULD BE a coincidence, but I seriously doubt it. Your boyfriend should have been upfront with you from the beginning. Now that he has chosen to be secretive...it's going to be hard for you to trust him...hope he realizes that. Good luck!
2006-08-14 20:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you girls want to beat eachother up!!
If your man loves you or really cares about you then you should talk to him and tell you how much the situation bothers you and that you think he should respesct you and stop leading her on and not talk to her again, to avoid her etc.
Open and honest communication is key in a relationship, If he is not willing to stop hi "friendship" with this girl then I would reconsider staying with him!
2006-08-21 15:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by davecz4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never stand in the situation like you!!!!!!!, if he doesn't want you to get mad he shouldn't be chatting with his ex-any longer,if they have a child together that's an exception :-), otherwise no excuses.
Your man may wants to be friends with her, but she may not, and I tell you what....in my entire life, I have never seen any ex-boyfriend or girlfriend could actually stay good friends!!!!!!* unless they are such a nice and wonderful people, BUT BUT BUT BUT BUT still cannot be GOOD FRIENDS....only be FRIENDS :-)
2006-08-19 22:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by SERENE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i where you i would tell him how i feel about this girl and that he should take inconsideration your feeling about this situation and if he could understand and not have anything to do with her just like you don't have anything to do with your ex's. hoping he doesn't get mad and saying she a friend because she not she is an ex you really cant ever have a friendship after you been sexual.
2006-08-22 15:34:38 · answer #7 · answered by pink a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This concerns me because this question is under Marriage adn Divorce.
He is going to cheat on you. NO ONE THAT LOVES YOU would get themselves PURPOSELY into a situation where CHEATING can occur. A man who love you WILL NOT associate with an ex, he WILL NOT go to a bar alone with bachelor buddies, he WILL NOT hide weird occurances that have happend with another woman.
He is up to no good.
2006-08-14 20:24:31 · answer #8 · answered by Poestalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would bother me and i think someone let her in on yalls going out thats why out of no where all those things started happening but that dont even matter you already know he still wanna be with her just as she does( only because she see hes moved on and happy )it's just time for you to move on or you finna have alot of drama i your life witch im sure you can do without your better than that good luck
2006-08-14 20:29:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having the same problem with my husband and it is very hard to control your emotions about the ex but if you don't it will cause friction in the relationship. Save the animosity for when and if either one of them screws up.
2006-08-22 15:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by Missy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋