I lived with somebody for ten years, before I married him. Four years later we were divorced. We are now good friends, that go out occasionally, and even 'stay in' occasionally. I think marriage ain't all it's cracked to be. Sometimes when people get married, they discover they shouldn't have. That causes pressure and stress in all aspects of the marriage. They each start doing their own thing...going their own way, and they end up being nothing more than roommates. I've found, that when people live together, they seem to be more commited to that relationship. Maybe it's because they are there because they WANT to be, not because they are legally or morally bound. They can leave when they want to. I have friends that have been married and divorced over and over, and I have friends who have happily lived together for years. Makes you wonder...
2006-08-15 05:42:11
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answered by persnickety1022 7
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No, I don't think marriage put a damper on things. Marriage actually improved things a bit. I think him dragging his a$$ for 8 years before he married me was messing the sex life up. Five years together was when things started to slow down a bit. I was kinda bitter about him getting a new Mustang and I didn't get an engagement ring. I almost ended up leaving him b/c he took for granted that I would always be there. That's what most married people do once they've said their vows, the hubby and I just reached that stage before marriage because we were together for so dang long before it was official. People take their partners for granted. You have work, kids, life, etc. to focus on, that your significant other kind of becomes not as high a priority. At first it's because they're understanding, then we just assume they are, then feelings get hurt and sex isn't as frequent. You can't have sexual intimacy (not to be confused with just sex) without emotional intimacy. If couples put their marriages and their partners first in their list of priorities, their sex lives would improve.
2006-08-15 06:03:06
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answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4
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I think there are bad attitudes about sex.
I have a female friend who uses it for leverage to get what she wants, which I think is completely bit***. I have a male friend who just wants his wife to take care of herself if he's not in the mood, which I think is selfish on his part. I have another female friend whose husband got so desperate to have sex with her he paid her $100. No, she doesn't feel like a prostitute, the feels entitled.
Pre-marital counseling should include something about COMPLETELY giving yourself to your spouse. Not being "in the mood" for either spouse is not anything more than an excuse. If you have the opportunity to make your spouse happy in a way no one else can and you don't, shame on you.
Now, I mean when both people are healthy...not when a parent is sick or has been up all night with sick kids...I mean under normal circumstances.
Sorry, off my soap box now.
2006-08-16 07:12:00
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answered by kojak0527 4
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no, I don't think marriage messes anything up. If you are in love with your spouse, you can keep the passion alive. To me, sex is the best way to express how you feel about the other person. If you love them, how can it not show? I think the problem comes in when people take each other for granted or they don't love each other enough to begin with. When you truly, truly love the other person, everything else will happen the way it is supposed to. You will dedicate yourself to making them feel good and wanted and important, they will do the same for you. As long as neither one of you are selfish, it will be wonderful. If either one of you are selfish, it would never have been wonderful to begin with.
2006-08-15 14:39:14
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answered by sexychik1977 6
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Passion tends to decline the longer the relationship lasts, but sex doesn't have to.
Both parties in the relationship have to work together to keep the "home fires burning"
It's not about blame, it's about working together..
2006-08-15 05:44:21
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answered by Anonymous
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No marriage gave me a really great sex life.
2006-08-15 05:44:33
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answered by boo 5
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no a relationship consist of more than sex. It takes two to make a marriage work....
2006-08-15 05:52:28
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answered by pepenbuffy 2
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yes..my husband is a wham-bum-thank-you-mam type..had i married someone else maybe it would have been different and definitely, i wouldn't be here answering your question!sex for my husband is for making babies only.now that we have 2, it's no longer useful.i'm still young and good looking but my husband would rather bang a prostitute than do it me..sad....
2006-08-15 06:19:32
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answered by kizmizz 1
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hell yeah !!! people get too comfortable.. for example feeling that he/she doesnt have to dress up when you go out because they are married and someone loves them. i used to have great sex all the time but when we got married it changed for the worse!!!! i ended up cheating on my wife because she didnt feel like giving up the goods!!!well she just found out and almost divorced me behind it. ladies please satisfy your man because believe me if you dont another woman will gladly relieve you of your "duties"!!!
2006-08-15 19:50:49
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answered by Mr Confused 2
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My wife, she hardly wants it anymore.
2006-08-15 05:43:48
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answered by Anonymous
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