We were married 30 years. He has been seeing other women...younger women. He's changed so much. And I know I'm a fool to still love him. But for 30 years...he's been my life. I go over to our house everyday. Sometimes we'll even go to dinner together.But, usually have a disagreement by the end of the nite. I need to move on... It's so hard.
2006-08-14 22:19:15 · 8 answers · asked by sonny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you can't move on be'coz you feared losing that connection,of having things fade away.Try to let go from your past...be'coz letting go doesn't mean losing ties from your past....no matter how sad or happy it may be,it will always be there.So change your lifestyle and try to let go from your past.Remember this..."letting go would mean helping yourself to recover from the wounds of your past and using it as an instrument to make you a stronger and wiser person".
2006-08-14 22:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by mich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For guys, it's called a mid-life crisis, and usually involves seeing other young women and buying a sports car! He probably does still love you, but he may not be getting physically satisfied by you anymore, and women have no idea how much that means to us, and as women age, they usually become less attractive to guys who have known them inside and out for years and in turn search out something new. It's like job hunting but not quiting your day job, or traveling 90% of the year and still owning a home somewhere. Does your dayjob get jealous if you are looking into other jobs? Or does your house hate you if you've benn staying at hotels more than the bedroom? No.
2006-08-14 22:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by zelgadiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 yrs? That is tough! Since you have been with him for this long, it's also going to take a lot of time to move on. Instead of trying to fight the emotions that naturally comes with this situation, why don't you just allow yourself to feel them and let time do the rest? There's nothing wrong in loving him still. Allow yourself to grieve.
2006-08-14 22:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to move on. You just have to move TO.
Do something different, see someone else. Without thinking. Not about the past, not about the future, and certainly not about consequences.
All I can say is when you do that, you will take the focus off that thing which you claim you cannot move on from.
Good luck. Inertia is conquered by the first movement.
2006-08-14 22:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tuna-San 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you keep holding on to your past.free him.don't look back.30 years is 30 years.but u have a life ahead.who knows it's a good life or yet, a better life for you even with out him.sometimes we need to be strong to explore the world.and remember, you can always rely on God.move on, dear.get a life
2006-08-14 23:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i konw it hard you need some one to spice up your life you need a friend some one that well get your mind off of him go out and find a new friend get laid you feel better
2006-08-14 22:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by little ace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a younger man or men. Let go of this loser.
2006-08-15 02:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go on out and date others... stay away from your house unless you got kids, in which case, let the kids come to you
2006-08-14 22:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by sedatedeyes209 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋