i am dating a woman who i believe is a compatible partner but lately i have asked her to bring me out of the shadows and not to hide our relationship from her family and work ( we work in the same firm). i understand her wish for discrecion but it is becoming in the way of our happiness. we are both divorcees and both single parents so there is much common ground but she is scared of the things we talk about. buying a house, more children, the full 9 yards ect.........
my patience is wearing thin. what to do?
2006-08-18 03:02:00 · 12 answers · asked by viikos 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm in much the same boat as you right now. Been dating a man for two years, spend vacations with his family, he practically lives with me....... problem is that although I've seen his two children before, they are the only ones in his family who don't know me as being his girlfriend. I feel as though I am his "dark secret" at times and it doesn't set really easy with me yet I love him very much.
What makes it worse is that I don't forsee anything changing in the future. He purposefully keeps his children away from his nieces and nephews (who are regular guests in my home) for fear that one of them might slip up and "spill the beans". Marriage has been discussed but right now I'm having trouble with today and tomorrow, much less the rest of my life.
Hope you find some solution and/or peace with your delima.
Good Luck and Bless You
2006-08-18 05:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be prepared for such things as the whole 9 yards it may be the fact that she has been a single mom for such a long time that she is concerned about money, room space and whether the kids will get on and all types of other issues
2006-08-18 10:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by pieinthesky76 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that the two of you are not getting any younger and that the both of you deserve to be happy. Ask her if she sees these things in the near future? If not then you need to find someone who is looking for the same things as you. Good luck.
2006-08-18 10:09:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her a little more time, but if you are ready to take a bigger step and shes not, you have to move on. Sometimes when woman dont want to move forward with a guy they really dont want to be with him, she could just be using you because she has no one else, or using you to pass time. Sit down and have a serious talk with her and find out what she wants now,next year, 5 years from now, and if its not what you want or close to what you want you need to let her know and move on, dont waste your life for someone elses.
2006-08-18 10:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by pretty_brown68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time, she may not be ready for full commitment. People fall in love at different times, be patient.
Good luck
2006-08-18 10:33:32 · answer #5 · answered by A Good Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to grow up. Either you guys are going to be a couple and move forward or you are going to have to discontinue this relationship.
2006-08-18 10:11:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, lucky girl. she better get her head out of the clouds and realize what she has...Good luck
2006-08-18 10:11:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta let her have her space...she might be feeling claustrophobic.
2006-08-18 10:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by azaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont rush or presure her,, time can w8t
2006-08-18 10:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by zheo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i wish i had that prob-
2006-08-18 10:07:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋