Mi dad was ment to have me today and now im upset! mi mum and dad split up when i woz onli a day old?

Question

im realy upset because i dont live with my dad and i only ever see him once evry term. he hjas just let me down sayyin i cant see him and because he lives in wales i hardley eva c him!!! i can't stop crying but im glad because all this mornin i have been cryin coz i didnt want to go but now im upset because i cant go!!!! i need help to stop crying any idears

Answer 1

Thank your mother for this mess. She is the one that picked him to be your father. It doesn't look like you have learned anything from her mistake. (by reading your other question, since you are having unprotected sex with a jerk) He says he can't see you because he lives in Wales, did he just move there? What do you think they invented airplanes for?

Answer 2

I am so sorry, sweetheart. Parents who split up when they have children have an imperative duty to work that much harder to be with their kids. I don't know your parents' situation, but since I am a parent I can at least reassure you of this: Both of your parents love you very much and if they could be with you every day, they would be. Only the very most impossible circumstances would keep a parent away from a child.

So, cry if you need to, it relieves your stress and helps you to remember that you are a tender-hearted, loving person, and cry if it is because you miss your dad. But don't cry if you are doing so because you feel rejected. Because you are not rejected by your dad. If he didn't live far away, he would see you all the time. He is just as cut up about this as you are. Call him on the phone if you can and at least hear his voice. Get an instant messenger and have him get the same one so you can "talk" that way.

Always remember that no matter how far away he is, he is your father, and he loves you very much. When you are older, you can go live with or near him. Those grown-up times can be very wonderful and meaningful.

Answer 3

You didn't mention how old you are....rejection from anyone is hurtful, but from a parent it just seems worse....You were not looking forward to the visit, and then because eh cancelled you were upset...this tells me you may be young...Get Over It!!...Read a book, chat with friends, don't let this man hurt you in any way again...be strong...if you see him, take advantage of the situation!....if you don't...it gives you that much more time to enjoy doing something you really want to do.

Answer 4

Your Dad Loves you! You need to remember this no matter what! and to try helping you to stop crying, try your best to think of the happy times and thoughts you have, like places you may have went or things you have done, remember happy thoughts help to bring happy feelings!

I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 5

I have kids that don't live with me, but that will never affect the love that I have. It is a very trying time for both of you. remember allot of men hide their true feeling and find comfort in seclusion--it don't mean they don't care.. stay strong baby!!!!!!good luck and try too be understanding it's hard on all enfolded

Answer 6

take a deep breath count to 10 and call up some friends to get your mind off of him. Have a good weekend with all your buddies.

Answer 7

Please do me a favor and stop being a baby about the whole thing.......... oh and while you are maturing stop the random spelling of things...... mum is correctly spelled mom. Not mum..... do I need to correct your whole question so others can understand you.

Answer 8

Do you have a family friend that you can talk to on this??? Or can you get some counselling somewhere???

Answer 9

welcome 2 life...............................enjoy.