2006-08-18 03:36:35 · 24 answers · asked by Angela 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Several reasons...
1. Family time isn't as valued anymore.
2. Divorce isn't considered taboo anymore.
3. Women aren't surrendering to a lifestyle of many previous generations of stay-at-home moms.
4. A lot of women want more from their lives than to just be their "husband's wife".
5. The internet is discrete and for in most cases, anonymous. This allows people the freedom to go to dating sites... look at other singles, and decide whether or not their relationship was actually worth it.
Bottom line is this... we have too many temptations that help our eyes wander. I've also noticed that people are constantly changing. I wonder how anyone ever stays married for their entire lives. I read a great book...and whammo, I've changed from that moment on. While it may not be an earth shattering change, it might be a political belief, it might be a spiritual belief... but some relationships are based on common beliefs. When a change happens now...and you dont feel the same way about your spouse as you use to... there isn't a social taboo that forces you to stay together like there use to be.
2006-08-18 03:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because people won't be themselves, they rush into a marriage ignoring all the little red flags, and they mis-manage the marriage.
People who feel like they can't be loved for who they are will often put on a front that they see working for other people. They'll be someone else to make you fall in love with them, then once they get comfortable, they'll go back to being themselves- which is often a person that you would NOT be attracted to.... So how do you tell if a person is really being themselves- you have to have PATIENCE. Give dating a nice long time... their true colors will come out if you give them some time. People don't take enough time to learn every little perk about someone else, and those little perks become even bigger when you LIVE with that person. The other thing is that people mis-manage the marriage. They don't have their finances lined up before they get married, and/or they have kids WAYYYYYY too early. You need like 3-5 years atleast before you even talk about having kids, the marriage needs that kind of time to grow strong, because kids are like a little wedge, they drive the marriage further and further apart..
2006-08-18 10:45:50 · answer #2 · answered by Matt B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because couples follow the adage that a relationship is 50/50. Any relationship that you want to last takes 100/100. If you are only giving 50 % where is the other 50% going? This is the number one reason people who once loved each other drift appart, fall out of love and - yes - find someone else with the other 50% only to doom that relationship as well until they decide to devote all to it.
2006-08-18 10:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by iuud2noitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages don't last as people view them casually. People seem to stop working at them and think that things will be find.
When people realize that marriages take a life time to build and work at understanding, respecting and communicating....marriages will last.
2006-08-18 10:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by on2try 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miscommunication, Money, Friendship, Trust, Romance, Partnership
2006-08-18 11:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Issues?
Money, Compatibility, Freedom, Boredom, Family, Society based?
Well... marriage is only for people who really wants to commit and start a family.
2006-08-18 10:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extremely bad sex.Couples these days dont care how they do it,yet sex is a very important marriage binder.
To all the divorcees out there,remember to spice it up next time.
2006-08-18 10:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Mrknowitall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is funny, because this is the only relation we choose. In case of all other relations, we do not have a choice. We cannot choose our parents or children or siblings. You do not divorce your parents or children, do you?
Although we have made the choice, if we want a divorce, then I guess we should not have choice bcos that proves that you cannot make correct choices. :)
2006-08-18 10:54:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sumi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRUST plays a big part and they sometimes decieded to get married when there just not ready and grown up , and couples dont talk , they hold everything in they need to talk.
2006-08-18 10:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by lmcm1975 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so many reasons. some people have a fantacy as to what marrage is. other times its stress, often money. and then there are the time times when one spoice does something real stupid.
2006-08-18 10:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋