2006-08-18 02:57:48 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Looked at all the answers&everyone is right,you ought to bin that insensitive plonker-if you were my wife your weight would not be an issue,my prime consideration would be your happiness&well-being-if your happy,then i'me happy-if you have a problem,then we sort it togeather:)
2006-08-18 03:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man.. I hate to hear that when a guy, especially a husband, say that his wife is fat and should lose weight! And then to top it off, honey, you're asking us how much is enough?
You can only make that determination if you truly are over-weight. At 120 lbs, you must be pretty short to require some weight loss. You sound just fine to all that you've posed your question to!
And your husband has, what, 3% body fat? He probably doesn't have to lose any either, right?
If I were you, I'd flaunt your 120 lbs around the neighborhood and show it off!
Prrrrrrr! You're just fine! Don't lose it!
2006-08-18 03:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Height? Your Age, Your frame size are all important.
Do you have stomach? A butt that's expanding? If so, try avoiding sugar totally, for a month, and also dairy.
Then remember carbohydrates love to hang on the body. Only eat a snadwhich once a week, no pasta, no potatoes, no rice, no cake or cookies.
That will help lose weight of necessary.
The important thing is do you like yourslef that way? If not, try the South Beach Diet. It works and is short term.
If you are hppy with yourslef, why is he being critica? Is he that masculine and trim? If not, ask him to join you in the weight loss program as a partner.
2006-08-18 03:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how tall you are, not just your weight. If your husband was trying to be kind about you losing weight and you need to, then don't take it offensively, just ask for his support. Losing weight can be as difficult as trying to quit smoking, at least that is what my doctor told me. If he was just trying to be possessive and rude, then say,"Look, I don't say anything about you or your less than perfect features, be supportive, not rude. Help me to lose weight, not a stumbling block." If he doesn't get the point then be confident and walk out the door, there are plenty of men out there who would be more than happy to have a women like you, and deep inside your husband knows it. By your leaving he will realize that he can't treat you like that because you are not going to lay down like a doormat. If he doesn't come crawling back, you saved yourself years of torment. P.S. All men can be rude at times, I love my husband dearly and he has said some real doosies. Plus the stories I have heard from my mother when my parents were first married..... All men have a habit of putting their foot in their mouths.
2006-08-18 03:10:21 · answer #4 · answered by faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not fat,you are so beautiful with that weight.I have no idea how you will look if you have 20 pounds less or 10.I think you are okay.But if you want, you can check some books about weight,or you can go to the Internet.You will see the table which show you the weight you need to have according if you are short or taller.
2006-08-18 03:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are about 3 ft. tall, I'd say your weight is not the issue here. Your husband is an as*hole for telling you something like that to make you feel so insecure. And that's exactly what he's doing. Next time you see his pecker, tell him how small it is and it's just not big enough for you. Then he'll stop his harrassment and unloving words about your weight. You could never be good enough for him no matter what you do. But still...shatter his ego with the "pecker" thing just to show him how it feels. This man doesn't love you enough, honey. He loves himself.
2006-08-18 03:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't loose any weight at all. i would love to be 120 poinds and i'm 13. he should love you for you and not how much you weigh. but if you really want to maybe jest 5 pounds. by the way i weigh 135 and i still look good. (cuz most of it is in the booty and i also have a 4 pack)
2006-08-18 03:03:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is VERY insecure! 120 lbs. is very small. I do not for the life of me understand why guys have to belittle women. It's like they want a picture perfect trophy by their side and they will say or do whatever it taks to make a women into what he wants. I don't know what you look like, but I'm sure you are beautiful. He knows that and still is putting you down so you will have alittle insecurity! Maybe he does it cause he feels it puts a hold on you, and if your insecure, you won't leave him ever. Stay strong and be happy for who you are and what you look like!
2006-08-18 03:09:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nugget21 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never lose weight for anyone else, but only if YOU want to. I can't believe that with you weighing 120, that weight is really your husband's issue here. Find out from him what's really going on.
2006-08-18 03:09:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's weird .
I went out with a guy 1 time and he kept saying I was fat and should work on my tummy thighs and butt.I also have a friend who is over weight and he wouldn't drop her off because he said she would break his shocks and he was so serous!
by the way I am 5 ft 9 inch and 124lbs!!!
Needless to say I never went out with the freak again
I would take him to see a doctor he needs help.
2006-08-18 03:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by Lilly K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋