Marriage & Divorce - 15 July 2006

During this separation he has basically "tortured" me (verbally). (I was seeking love outside of my marriage.... yes.. i know.. wrong... very wrong). However, during this time he has told me how much he still loves me in 1 breath, but in the next what a misreable person i am. A week ago he threatened suicide, but pulled himself up, and now he's putting the full court press on me on being my "best friend" again. I have told him several times over the past year that i don't feel the same way for him that i once felt and that all the abuse i have received from him has pushed me away further. But he won't give up. I hate hurting him more, over and over again, but he's pushing me too much and right now, i'm not interested. (p.s... i don't see anyone socially anymore). how do i handle this?

2006-07-15 13:59:13 · 10 answers · asked by pinebarrons1 2

2006-07-15 13:55:07 · 22 answers · asked by tacoman2084 1

my friend is married to this guy that is unhappy with the way she acts or how she talks, he says she makes a fool of herself and him when shes around people cause she doesnt know " how to talk right" what should she do,she cannot even have a opinion,if she tries to he cusses her out. he always right but she never is.

2006-07-15 13:50:09 · 12 answers · asked by renee s 1

I'm 45 years old and i've been married for about 24 years.I've been seperated for about 10 or more years.I've had several girlfriend during my separation and every time i mention to my wife about us getting a divorce,she says the only way she'll sign the papers is if i pay for some of her wants with a large sum of money.One time she wanted me to pay for a tummy tuck for $5000.I don't have that kind of money,so i usually just stop thinking about the divorce.But every time i get into another relationship with a woman that i like i have to deal with the fact that i have to tell them that i am still married.This causes me a lot of stress and causes me to deal with trifling types of women who don't care who they are with.I would like to get a divorce as soon as possible,because i recently just start talking to a nice young lady that don't seem like she's going to put up with this kind of drama.What should i tell my wife about these wants,knowing I don't have the money?

2006-07-15 13:48:16 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-15 13:43:22 · 36 answers · asked by dragoon 1

Although that is the established "Tradition" how did it come to be? There is no traditional band for a man to wear until he is Married.

2006-07-15 13:37:41 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

He was married once before, but she cheated on him shortly into the marriage, so, I think he's a little gun shy. I've been hurt badly in the past too, and I never thought I'd want to get married let alone be the one to ask. This is the longest relationship we've both had and it's a strong as it was when we first were together. I know he's the one. Plus, if I do it, should I get a ring for him? I'm open to any ideas.

2006-07-15 13:36:41 · 8 answers · asked by butterflygirl419 1

2006-07-15 13:34:44 · 10 answers · asked by tacoman2084 1

i just don't know the difference. when you aren't married but in a serious relationship why bother getting married when both have the same thing. commitment, living together, sharing, etc.....
i know marriage you have to get a licence.
so what's the difference between marriage and a non married couple but as serous as the married one?
thank you.

2006-07-15 13:01:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok..now my husband is in here putting his 2 cents in. He wants to know what everyone else considers "kinky"? and what kind of things does kinky include? We are trying to come to an agreement in the bedroom of what we expect and want.

2006-07-15 12:59:33 · 6 answers · asked by justinsgirl 2

My children reside with my ex-husband, but my son has recently gained majority as he turned 18 in March and graduated H.S. He had an MRI on his knee and my ex has withheld my equity payment as 1/2 of the insuance deducable. I was not given the opportunity to agree or disaree, he just did it. Can he do this? Am I still responsible for 1/2 of the deductible on my ex's insurance?

2006-07-15 12:57:35 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

here in canada they are but our government now wants to ban it again. What do you guys think???

2006-07-15 12:57:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is 15 yrs older than me and she has had a.....lets say a colorful past.She is a different person now and has never done me any wrong that im aware of.Should her past matter?

2006-07-15 12:52:01 · 12 answers · asked by Dale D 2

I am a woman who recently experimented 3 times with 2 different women. I didn't tell my husband but he found out and was upset. But he says it is because I hid it from him and didn't tell him. He says he would like to watch. Should I? Also, this experiment was pretty much one sided, as I don't really like the thought of having to reciprocate and "give" that back to another woman, not even with my hand. Does this make me selfish? I don't really care for it but did admit to the husband that sometimes seeing 2 women turns me on. I'm dazed and confused....

2006-07-15 12:38:55 · 19 answers · asked by Tony_Stewart_Is_Hot 2

my husband and I are seprated, but he is seeing a woman that is married and says she loves him and she might be pg with his child. After only three weeks of seeing each other he ,is in love with her and told me to let him go. So what would you do. I still love him and we were togather for 13 years.

2006-07-15 12:30:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you're legally separated from your spouse and approaching divorce...is it okay to have a "physical" relationship with someone else?

2006-07-15 12:25:15 · 6 answers · asked by ? 4

My ex husband has not seen our son in like 8 yrs and wants to come and take John out of state . He was hitting our son thats why I left and got the divorce. My ex husband didn't take his classes for parenting classes or do any of his supervised visits..my ex lives in N.C and wants to take JJ my son now ...I was wondering what rights my ex has ? I am in N.H .

2006-07-15 12:15:44 · 25 answers · asked by monicanaaron 1

2006-07-15 12:03:52 · 41 answers · asked by kelley l 2

Hi, My divorce should be finalize soon I was married for 5 years. I know that divorce was the best thing. But I feel so anxious, I still want a family a husband and kids( have no kids with him). I'm 29 and feel that by the time I meet someone else, I will be too old to have the family that I want. is 29 too old to start again? and I mean get to know somebody wait to see if things will end up in marriage and then have kids.

2006-07-15 11:57:37 · 23 answers · asked by 4thebest 2

Your relationship had no communication or intimacy and when it does have communication, it isn't in reference to the relationship but more worldy conversation. When arguements happened they are bad. I mean bad. Throwing things, breakdowns, leaving someone stranded, etc.
You tried to escape but since the other person has nothing, they are dependent on you (totally.) You have no money to afford a babysitter since this person is watching your children during the day while you work,( they work too).
Everytime a small fight occurs you end up in a breakdown. Your soul is exhausted and no one will listen or be there for you, you are afraid of talking to this person b/c you are afraid of how emotionally uncontrollable you become, you don't recognize yourself anymore.
Everytime you express how something affects you in the relationship, the other person tells you how you treat them, as if they only see how they are being affected.
Therapy not working.

2006-07-15 11:39:43 · 13 answers · asked by fiestygirl 3

i am 45 years old been married 7 years and the older i get the more i want sex and my wife hates it..she is 10 years older than me..when we first got together she loved it done it 5-6 times a week then it all stopped ..i have a good marriage other than sex..my question is can you still have a marriage and have an affair too? can it go on for a long time ? feelings you have after you do it?

2006-07-15 11:38:01 · 14 answers · asked by jay s 1

Iam going to go crazy thinking of this. The guys in the fire house tell me that when I go over to Iraq fight fires my wife is going to cheat on me. All my life I have seen nothing but my fokes and my sister until she go married. Cheat on their other half. But I trust my wife, I think it is my head. She has done nothing but be a good wife and mother. This has worred me everyday of my life. I'll be gone for one year, And be home every 240 days. I'll get 10days home with my wife and three kids that I love so much. I don't know what I would do without my wife. I do love her.

2006-07-15 11:26:16 · 9 answers · asked by firecoolerman 2

If he sees a pic he doesn't like he gets mad. He normally looks at them after I go out with friends. Should I feel like he doesn't trust me? Shoud he be going into my phone without asking, I mean I have nothing to hide I just feel intruded upon. We've been together for almost 9 years.

2006-07-15 11:25:31 · 18 answers · asked by lillisa 2

My hubby told me today well for the last 10 yrs. that he wants a divorce! well we bought a house i don't want to give it up cuz of the kids. And i am going to school to better myself and make more money. Is there any financial help out there???

2006-07-15 11:17:39 · 8 answers · asked by Karen 1

Last I heard, the divorce rates in America is around 50%, which is amongst the highest in the world. Do you think it is a good trend, because more people feel reassured and comfortable with the fact that they have a way out of abusive marriages? Or, do you think it is a bad trend, because of the decline in morals and marital values over the last several decades, meaning too much adultery or too much abuse of the marriage?

2006-07-15 11:17:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-15 11:16:13 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

before we got married he cheated on me and now that he has gone for further studies he has continued to sleep around. what do i do?

2006-07-15 11:09:31 · 9 answers · asked by rosepetal 1

Saturday night my wife told me that she had cheated on me with another guy. She told me that she was sorry and that she would never do it again or contact him again. At that point I was shocked and over-whelmed with emotions, but I had two options in my head--make the marriage work or divorce.

Monday night I stayed at a friend's house and Tuesday night she said she stayed at a friend's. Wednesday night, while she was sleeping, I checked her phone. She had been talking and text messaging this guy each day since she told me about cheating.

Then I checked her voicemail. She had two messages from this guy. One of them said that he loved their time together Tuesday night! She wasn't at her friend's. By the way, she had this guy's phone number saved in her phone under her friend Stephanie's name.

I confronted her and she came clean.

I am more destroyed now more than the first time. How do I move forward from here?

2006-07-15 11:07:37 · 25 answers · asked by John J 1

Mine just told me I was sad, hid the gin and has given me 30 mins till I go to bed.

2006-07-15 10:52:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Wife's been spending more time in front of TV, putting on weight (again, after by-pass surgery), and has lost all authority (respect and control) with the kids. She shows not interest in trying to 'better' herself or the kids. I work 40hrs/week, she's a stay at home mom. I come home to messy house and kids in front of TV. She expects me to make dinner (it seems), kitchen/house usually a mess. I'm worried about the example she's setting for the kids (8yo-boy, 6yo twin girls). It makes it hard for 'me' to get motivated after a hard day at work knowing she's not trying. What can I do? (short of seeing a counselor/pastor)

2006-07-15 10:41:43 · 26 answers · asked by dokter_fill 1