my husband and I are seprated, but he is seeing a woman that is married and says she loves him and she might be pg with his child. After only three weeks of seeing each other he ,is in love with her and told me to let him go. So what would you do. I still love him and we were togather for 13 years.
2006-07-15 12:30:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hello Asker of a VERY difficult (painful), yet 'common' question -
In your heart, you already know the best answer (for yourself)-
Soap operas - dramas - real life situations - aren't they all quite alike? until they are happening in your own domain?
Whatever you choose to do with THIS reality in your life, I wish you minimal heartache and maximum speed - in deciding and implementing what seems best for you. . . all the well-meaning advice in the world is just that - suggestions.
YOU choose your own path . . . and sooner is better.
2006-07-15 12:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy tests are really quick, aren't they! I would be as gracious as possible, tell him that I still love him and want him back, but that if he's that unhappy with me, he has my blessing and please leave now!
Then I would get all pain out of my system by screaming, ranting, raving and kicking stuff around. Take a relaxing bath, have a few stiff drinks and plan my future.
Do not call him except an emergency, it's hard, but keep up your appearance and try to go out with friends. He might just decide you are what he wants, and if he doesn't, you are already getting back on your feet!
If you run to her husband it'll push your man further away!!
Good luck, friend.
2006-07-15 19:39:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him, sue him for everything you are entitled to, and move on. A scourned woman just might make a neighborly phone call to other husband to let him know of worldly events. You are better then this idiot whether you still love him or not and time has come to move on and get a better life, because if hes cheated once, chances are he will do it again and guys like that arent worth your time. good luck
2006-07-15 19:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's willing to come back to you and commit to you and the both of you are willing to go through the hard work required to rebuild the trust in your relationship, consider it over. You have to get on with your life, and start by butting out of his. Whether or not he's fooling around with a married woman and may have gotten her pregnant has nothing to do with you. Leave that alone. There is nothing you can do, he's gone. You should not take any action that may interfere with his getting on with his life.
I'm sorry, and good luck.
2006-07-15 19:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally id call the chics husband and fill him in on whats going on between ur estranged husband and his wife .. especially if she might be pg with a baby thats not his.. Id let him go he obviously has zero morals and zero respect for marriage vows not only his own but others.. so he's not worth the trouble of getting him back, but id definately let her husband know whats up so he's not looking like a fool, i think one of my biggest hangups when i found out my x husband was cheating on me was what a fool i was to be so dumb to not see it.. and how dumb i felt knowing others did but i didnt.. So id definately let him know what a p.o.s he's married to ...and dont worry if they end up together one of them will eventually end up cheating on each other , they did with their spouses now, they'll do it again.. good luck.. and be thankful ur rid of such a loser..
2006-07-15 19:41:04 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, first of my sympathies. I know it's hard but let him get on with it, he'll have to accept the consequences for his actions. He'll find out grass isn't greener. Sorry to say been there done that (without the pregnancy though thankfully) I am single now, and blaming nobody but myself and my brains which at the time were lower down than my head.
2006-07-15 19:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by waftycrank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to step up the divorce. You used to love the 'old' husband, but the new one isn't very improved. I am sure you can do much better. You deserve a good husband that won't cheat.
2006-07-15 19:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by girlonline64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would inform her husband of the situation and see what he does. He may convince her to dump your hubby. He may also kick her butt out and she ends up with hubby. Either way, he has the right to know what is going on.
2006-07-15 19:35:39 · answer #8 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Gidget.
It's tough but you gotta' let him go. It will hurt for awhile but you will eventually get over it. Trust me on this. You will probably meet someone better than him down the road.
2006-07-15 19:34:19 · answer #9 · answered by GregW 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're seperated, be seperated and on your way to divorce. Its apparent that he's moved on, as hard as it is for you to accept, its the healthier alternative. *hugs* Sucks man, but in the end you'll be better when you have someone who cares for you.
2006-07-15 19:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by sinfulldd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋