2006-07-15 13:43:22 · 36 answers · asked by dragoon 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find out why she did it. I have found that as unfair as it sounds, most women have affairs because they feel unloved, or unwanted by their spouses. Do you work too much? Is the romance gone from the relationship? Not that this would make it your fault, it is never okay to be unfaithful, but this can be worked out and corrected as long as you are both willing to seek the help you need and rededicate yourselves to each other. If you love each other, please don't give up.
2006-07-15 14:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by flowerandkevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is a human and u have every right to be upset.. Find the reasons why she did that.. Let her share her feelings unless she made her points of why she did that ... if she wont do it again then u can think about working out your marriage.. if she couldnt give you good reasons why she did that. then it is possibloe that u may want to think about leaving her and start a new life with someone new or else... or be a humble husband to show the wife should be gulity for her silly mistakes . So?? U can judge which directions onthe facts she explained... It is lot to sweat for her to tell you abt her affairs... Decide from there leave or stay to work out the marriage .. of course things wont be the same as it was before.. Whos fauly, HER and ur trust will be a tough one for her .. it may drive her crazy but too bad .. u are STILL the husband ..
2006-07-15 13:49:05 · answer #2 · answered by sunnya4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have here all kinds of answer everyone here and it can be confusing. At the end of the day, it would be your own decision.
Counselling can help but still you would have to decide it yourself at some point. Should you decide to carry on, you would need to ask yourself if you are able to get rid of the feeling that she cheated you. This would be the hardest part. Just to be fair to her (afterall she is human and makes mistake i.e. she really is), you cannot bring out the subject of the incident, should you decide to forgive and carry on. It's either going forward or not at all.
Last but not least, both of you have to sit down and have a good and open talk. What went wrong, what leads to it and what would you guys do to correct it.
AS mentioned by many here, she would have to do much to regain your trust.
2006-07-15 14:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jack T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that sucks. Sorry.
Well, do you both still want to work it out? If you do, you both need to sit down and really talk about it. If she wants you back, she'll have to do whatever is necessary and for as long as necessary to earn your trust back.
If you want her back, you'll have to know and want in your heart to forgive her some day. If you don't think you could ever trust her again, divorce would be the only way to go; otherwise, her affair would just eat at your relationship until you are both miserable.
Good luck!
2006-07-15 13:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by S&S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good marriage counselor and find out what the problems are. For one to have an affair there are problems that need to be taken care of.
2006-07-15 13:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow Your Heart
2006-07-15 13:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lesley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the first thing you do is sit down & think hard because it is VERY hard to forgive & forget you may try. you may stay together you may forgive her BUT its very rare to forget. when ever she goes out you will be wondering. if shes late back. you will be thinking. if the phone rings even if its a wrong number. its in your head. you get to the point that you think its not worth carrying on with the marriage. it haunts you too much. but sit down & weigh it all up first then if you decide to end it remember it was her that caused it all in the first place. so you can walk away with a clear head. good luck in what ever you decide.
2006-07-15 14:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on what you want to do about it. If you love her and she love's you then try to get help moving past her affair. The only thing is you need to make sure that she wont continue to do it to you.
2006-07-15 13:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANYTHING YOU WANT!!!!!!!!
go fishing
go for a hike
go biking
get a beer and burger
watch the sun set
take a 2 day drive and visit friends, family
start jogging
go too library and read a book
maybe she will want to be part of your life, maybe not but keep living regardless.
2006-07-15 13:49:13 · answer #9 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must feel awful. The important thing is to deal with all of your feelings directly. Don't act out. Just tell her how you feel about it.
See a marriage counselor. Try reading the article at the link.
2006-07-15 14:07:25 · answer #10 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋