Iam going to go crazy thinking of this. The guys in the fire house tell me that when I go over to Iraq fight fires my wife is going to cheat on me. All my life I have seen nothing but my fokes and my sister until she go married. Cheat on their other half. But I trust my wife, I think it is my head. She has done nothing but be a good wife and mother. This has worred me everyday of my life. I'll be gone for one year, And be home every 240 days. I'll get 10days home with my wife and three kids that I love so much. I don't know what I would do without my wife. I do love her.
2006-07-15 11:26:16 · 9 answers · asked by firecoolerman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
U just answered your own question "She has done nothing but be a good wife and mother" Your married to her not the guys at the firehouse.. YOU know her and YOU married her for a reason, and if you saw alot of infidelity going on while growing up then id pretty much bet u made sure that you'd marry a woman who doesnt have those types of tendency's.. Shes never given u a reason to make you think she'd ever do such a thing, and you have 3 children that you both love very much and i doubt from the way u've described her that she'd ever want to do anything that would hurt your children like that.. and from what ive seen its alot better then years ago like when my father was in Viet Nam where all u had as far as communication with loved ones was written letters.. and i think as much communication as possible while your gone is important.. Email will be a huge thing to u and her so i hope your on your computer at home .. my x husband is in Iraq and he emails our boys often and he calls his new wife and girls often so u will have ways of communication with her and that is whats going to keep u both sane.. Dont fret about what the guys at the fire house say i use to be with a firefighter and i know most of the guys he worked with were alot of big egos that loved to harass each other.. Love your wife.. tell her every chance u get.. realize while ur gone that although it sucks for you , it sucks for her and there will be times that shes missing u so much that she may get depressed.. support each other from a far.. love each other every day.. and dont think that the thought of u cheating hasnt crossed her mind as well.. and in her mind she'd think its alot easier for u to do so then her, since u could cheat and she'd probably never find out about it.. if she were to 1. she'd have to find babysitters which i have 3 kids so i know thats a pain at times.. and 2. u'd probably find out from some body if she was someone u know would eventually see her.. so realize ur both in the same boat, but from the way it sounds to me, u both love each other and your family and i hope that when your year is up and you and your wife are still happily married with out problem that u laugh in every guys face that harassed u...Good luck.. stay safe.. and dont worry , she loves u..
2006-07-15 11:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't let the negativity get to you it could hurt your relationship with your wife. DO continue to trust her. If she has never given you a reason why you might not be able to trust her in a situation like this, then you have nothing to worry about at all. Trust in God to take care of your family while you're gone and trust in Him to take care of you while you're over there in the "sandbox". My husband will be there in about 5-6 months killing terrorists and I know that he's hearing alot of stuff from people at work about what their wives have done in the past while they were over there. The difference is that my husband and I have a strong connection and we completely trust eachother so all we worry about is getting him there and home again. If your wife loves you, and it sounds like she does very much, then there's no need for concern. From what you've said your marriage is solid and nothing can break that, not even time apart.
Good luck & may God keep you safe for your family!!!
2006-07-15 12:36:24 · answer #2 · answered by gorf79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, don't let the guys at the fire house talk sh!t to you. Discuss with your wife what your fears are and I am willing to bet that you will have nothing to worry about...
2006-07-15 11:33:54 · answer #3 · answered by ladysteelersince1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know for a fact that your wife will not cheat on you and that you tick her off with this crap. She loves you a lot and wish that you will get over it.
2006-07-15 13:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Krystall T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust her, and don't think on it to much. Good Luck and Be Careful over there!!
2006-07-15 11:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by ~Redneck*Woman~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust her then you have nothing to worry about. If you don't trust her then it wouldn't work if you stayed or left.
The choice is up to you.
2006-07-15 11:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah we are gonna party with the chip n dales
2006-07-15 11:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, and be careful.
- Danny
2006-07-15 11:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont go
2006-07-15 12:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by Champ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋