Last I heard, the divorce rates in America is around 50%, which is amongst the highest in the world. Do you think it is a good trend, because more people feel reassured and comfortable with the fact that they have a way out of abusive marriages? Or, do you think it is a bad trend, because of the decline in morals and marital values over the last several decades, meaning too much adultery or too much abuse of the marriage?
2006-07-15 11:17:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The "50% divorce rate" statistic is one of those that gets endlessly repeated, but has been shown to be completely bogus.
In 2002, it was estimated that 31% of U.S. marriages end in divorce. For college graduates, the rate is about 20%; for non-college graduates, about 40%.
Nearly half of all divorces are due in part to adultery.
2006-07-17 10:31:19 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Both getting married and getting divorced has become too quick and easy. People don't put much thought or effort into either.
They put more money and effort into the details of a wedding event than they do in making their marriages work.
People today also are more selfish than ever before. How to make a marriage work? Put your spouse's happiness above your own.
Of course, an abusive situation should not be endured. But most marriages do not end because of abuse. They end out of intolerance and selfishness.
Divorce should remain an option available. But in the US, it is often the first choice not the last.
Regardless of the divorce rate, there are 50 percent of marriages that survive. Plenty of great examples. Plenty of reasons to take a chance on being happy with the love of your life.
Focus on the positive. :)
There's always hope.
2006-07-15 18:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by hope03 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only in America. Leave it to us and we will destroy everything on this planet. Isnt that quite impressive in todays society; find whom you think migt be Mr. Right, fall in love, decide to get married and realize you have a 50-50 chance of the marriage and everything you put into it of lasting. The only good thing is yes, like you said you can get out of an abusive marriage, but society has also made it way too easy to get married in the first place when the majority of couples are not mature nor responsible enough to handle the everyday challenges of marriage, with an easy way out. Unlike our parents and their parents that married for life and fought tooth and nail to make it work, todays couples divorce at the slightest sign of trouble whatever that may be and there are some really stupid excuses out there, Ive heard them. So marital and family values are headed downhill and the divorce attys are getting richer in assisting their decline and we wonder whats happening in America today and other nations refuse to be like us. Its a no brainer!
2006-07-15 18:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a bad trend. It not only reflects getting out of bad marriages but getting out of marriages that should never have happened.
We seem to be all to much in a hurry to marry in this country and it may be because we know that if it doesn't work out we can get out.
Why are there so many bad marriages? Because we do not take the time to get to know each other before we jump. The desire to be a family overrides our common sense and we are willing to over look things that may not be right or we don't even pay attention.
Our society promotes this because we are such a free wheeling society. It use to be that families were centered around the belief in the Lord and the willingness to be flexible to make a marriage work. This has deteriated in this country to a point it is the exception rather than the rule.
2006-07-15 18:29:45 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think divorce is just more available and acceptable, so if things don't work out that option is there and is taken( 50% of the time apparently). I don't think it's good or bad, I think it's just business as usual with more paperwork. There were just as many bad marriages 20 or 40 years ago. People just stayed together for appearances and cheated if they wanted to. There have been alot of DNA tests lately proving that people who thought they were related actually aren't - worldwide.
How many Kings and Ministers have had affairs while remaining married? How many children did the various Popes father over the decades? It's just a meaningless statistic, unrelated to public morals - unless of course you are a divorce lawyer.
2006-07-19 17:04:31 · answer #5 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing to a degree. I'm sure a lot of bible thumpers will respond to this because marriage is supposed to be sacred but divorce is not something you should be afraid of or not consider if you're in a bad relationship. If you aren't happy, you aren't happy. You shouldn't stick around because it is a marriage. Most of the time, adultery and abuse don't start until AFTER the marriage. People are just getting smarter and getting out of it.
2006-07-15 18:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Milo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with you. But I think that most people now a days don't want to try, it is easier to give up on a marriage than to try to make it work. Not all relationships are abusive. I have been in one and you only stay because you hope you can change them, make them see you are trying to help them not hurt them.
2006-07-15 18:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by deanaclk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the glass half emptry or half full? It's all a matter of opinion. I say it's good for the 50% who can make it work, and it says that there are 50% of people who just couldn't make it work
2006-07-15 18:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋