Marriage & Divorce - 15 July 2006

My partner and I have been together for 10 years and for the last 5 months have been trying to start a family. Lately he's been withdrawn and when I asked what's wrong he's very hesitant to tell me what's on his mind. This isn't the first time he's been withdrawn, it's just his way - whenever he's down he goes quiet. I on the other hand start to freak out (inwardly) and wonder whether it's because he's not satisfied with our relationship. When I ask him, he says he's just down and then starts to put on a happy front to not make me worried but he continues to be emotianally withdrawn. It really kills me to understand what's going on, because I feel like I'm living with a stranger, and my self esteem takes a nose dive. I really love him and I trust his love for me, but I'm starting to question whether we're growing apart and too scared to acknowledge it. I don't know how to cope with this.

2006-07-15 17:03:18 · 7 answers · asked by kishapadi 1

Re: My hubby & the 2 kids he had w/ ex-wife. We are in Oregon, she & the kids in Missouri. Divorce & custody / visitation finalized over 3 yrs. ago when everyone lived in the same state. Since then, haven't had much visitation since it was assumed we would always live nearby. Dad wants to see the kids. Ex-wife won't allow children to fly out here, and won't let dad see them when he is visiting MO for (unreasonable) fear he would "kidnap" them. Ex-wife is unstable & immature, dad & new wife (me) are successful professionals in our respective carreers & have a home. Dad is currently working against a modification for increased child support, requested by ex-wife. Because the custody/visitation can't be negotiated at the same time, what is the best/easiest/cheapest way to modify visitation order to work w/ a dad who lives out of state? Is there a form to start proccess? Can a phone hearing be requested (like the $ support), or does dad have to fly to MO & sue ex-wife there?

2006-07-15 16:54:58 · 3 answers · asked by chrystalgypsey 2

( what happen in your cause that cause you to be a single
father and what if any kind of surport do you have????

2006-07-15 16:45:03 · 5 answers · asked by little ace 4

I am single myself and like to look nice everywhere I go. I"m a quiet person and dont bother anybody. I never show too much, kind of a conservative type. Sometimes when I see a couple walking towards my way , I've always notice that the female starts to grab on and hold on to her man real tight like she thinks that I'm gonna steal her man away from her. What's up with that? Does she feel threatened by me?

2006-07-15 16:34:20 · 16 answers · asked by Dreamyeyes 1

We have been married for 12 years.

2006-07-15 16:33:33 · 36 answers · asked by 38C 6

I have two children ages 7 and 12 and am seeking joint custody with a shared schedule (split school week and alternating weekends). If he fights me on this will it lessen my position if I move without a legal "temporary" order in place. He's not moving and it is difficult to say the least to share the same living quarters.

2006-07-15 16:32:15 · 8 answers · asked by Gadfly 1

2006-07-15 16:26:09 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i once was very wild/outgoing but now i dont want to have sex at all my hubby try alot but im not interested,and im not cheating on him i have b/4 but thats a long time ago like months ago.
and the person i cheated with i dont even want him it was a big mistake what i done ,so how can i change my feelings towards my husband to make him happy cause he truly loves me.
and im sorry for the past but i have repented for my sins ,so now i want my hubby to b totally happy with our marriage.
please only serious response r welcome
i dont want no negative remarks already got enough ofthat already

2006-07-15 15:59:54 · 22 answers · asked by divapluss1 2

Yes, my ex has made it clear to me she wants nothing more to do with me but I can't get her out of my head. My wife accepts I do and always will love the "other" woman but wants to stay with me to make it work (My wife has had 2 moments of infidelity in our relationship, so although I love her, I'm not sure where our relationship is going). I just miss my ex so much, some days are better than others but generally I just wish she was still part of my life, as a friend, there must be something I can do to get back our friendship.

2006-07-15 15:58:48 · 10 answers · asked by TheViking 1

my husband and i have been together for 10 years we have two children one 8 and the other one 6. we have been married for two years in May and he now asked me for a divorce. me tells me that i am a lazy b, a fing c and words like that he just started that two months ago and in front of the kids. i love him alot but just cant stand to be around him. today he asked to move out with the kids. i own a house with my 2 brothers and sister but the elictric has not been on there in two years. that is the only place i have to go. i have to have that turned on and a phone. he wants me to move in there with no elictric and phone. he hasn't been nice to me sense i quit my job, i had to quit because i was being harassed by a couple of people and and have not found another job sense then. i don't know what to do everyone is telling me to get cusody of the kids and get as much out of him that i can. in the past two month i have been called every name in the book. how do i tell the kids and help them.

2006-07-15 15:53:53 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

What do I do, he lost his job and is so stubborn to get a new one cause he "doesn't want a boss" I mean he is working but starting his own business.. and so am I but he hasn't made any money yet and our funds are running out. I am taking care of our baby and running a business it is so hard. Because he doesn't even try to get a job... then he is so rude to me too.. I think cause of our financial situation things are falling apart... I want to scream any advice?

2006-07-15 15:49:29 · 13 answers · asked by star 1

My husbands drinking has made me lose interest in sex. Without pissing him off what can I do. My body just has given up, I am going nuts and am out of ideas. I do not want to get it anywhere else so that is not am option.

2006-07-15 15:44:41 · 13 answers · asked by jess b 1

my husband got upset with me and came to the conclusion that he didn't want to be married to me. told me to go back to my moms in ut (we're in mt) i waited for him to calm down and work it out and when he didn't. i had to call my mom and tell her i needed to come home. he came back home after 2 days and a night of drinking, aplogized and begged me to just love him. when i talked to my mom the next day, she said it was still best for me to move back and let him work for getting us (i have a 17 mo old daughter) back. i've asked everyone in my life for help in making this decision because i don't feel that it is right for me to leave but am scared the same things will happen if i stay. he is now looking at it like i am letting my mom decide this for me. i'm not letting her decide it, shes been through it and is just looking out for me. what led up 2it was him going out drinking all night, not coming home, strip clubs. 4 him it's my sarcastic comments & him not feeling loved. what do i do?

2006-07-15 15:42:55 · 14 answers · asked by smtiede 1

I am 20 and he is 27 we hadn't even been married a year and we have a 17 month old son, and he cheated on me. When he was @ home he never did anything he was always home and at work. Then he joined the Army. He went overseas in December, then he came home for 2 weeks and went back a week later i found pictures of them two. i asked him about them and he said no and first then he said yes i asked if they had went all the way and he said no then yes. he talked to me for 2 weeks like almost 10 hrs everyday then he hasnt really talked to me for a week now. he says the reason he cheated on me was because he thought i was and she put stuff in his head that i was cheating on him. i know that he loves me when he was home he put my name on him and our son and my step daughter. so i am really lost because i keep thinking he is cheating still and i dont know how to deal with this? if anyone could help i would really thank you.

2006-07-15 15:41:00 · 16 answers · asked by Hun 1

my wife came home with alot of new thongs and recently she has been wearing them to work and wearing alot of skirts to work as well what does this mean.
what things does one look for if a wife is cheating or what signs do i look for how would she come home from work , what signs should i see in her clothes anyone who is good in this area i would appriciate your help thanks.

2006-07-15 15:35:06 · 26 answers · asked by couple1975 1

Her father and I divorced 2 years ago, but she is just now "acting" out about it. She cries for her dad every night, even though she sees him every other weekend and calls him daily. Her behavior is deteriorating as well...she is constantly pushing my buttons and defies authority. She gets worse when we are in the company of others. Does anyone have any suggestions? (and yes, I do spank when needed).

2006-07-15 15:31:47 · 7 answers · asked by Amanda 3

2006-07-15 15:25:06 · 18 answers · asked by Hun 1

2006-07-15 15:24:59 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-07-15 15:20:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

in making it as hard as possible for the man to apologise ? sorry if that is too much of a generalisation but just speaking from experiance of my past experiances and those of my close friends

2006-07-15 15:19:48 · 5 answers · asked by PARADOX 4

it pertains to a personality test i took.

2006-07-15 15:14:22 · 3 answers · asked by brother_casius1 1

Ive been married now for 30 + years i go out or hang out with many female friends , married , single all types , my wife does not like to socilaize much i have friends my wife dont with( either sex ) , and the ones she has she does not socialize with at all , so is it wrong to being with these women , even though they trust me 100 % ??

2006-07-15 15:00:38 · 14 answers · asked by stephen_shaffer2001 2

I am married to a woman I love very much but I can't get my ex-best friend out of my mind. My ex best-friend and I have known each other for some time and she lives abroad, so we started our virtual romance, over the Internet (we never consummated it), I fell heavily in love (I love her) and old me it was mutual. She asked me to make a choice between my wife and her (she is also married) but I didn't have the guts to go one way or the other, so she said she'd make the choice for me and cut contact with me completely. It's been one year and I've not heard one word from her. I've sent her several emails but she refuses to respond. My wife (who has cheated on me before but says she still loves me and wants us to be together) knows about us as I told my wife hoping my friend would be happy with that and let me back into her life but my ex-best friend said too little too late and she's making it work with her husband. I'm desperate to get her back in my life even as a friend, what can I do

2006-07-15 14:59:23 · 6 answers · asked by TheViking 1

my husband has this female friend at work (no prob) but she wont stop flirting with him she is even telling him new sex positions do do with me and says she does it good she even says omg i love you like all the time she will tex him and email him always asking if im home befor she talks to him yesterday she said her car broke down and wanted my hubby to pick her up well he came home asked me i said yea but im comming along well he called her and said i was comming she said she was just playing i need to know what to do please help

2006-07-15 14:50:04 · 15 answers · asked by pookie 2

My husband has started drinking more and more these days. I have tried to talk to him about and so have his kids but he just does not care what we say. He does not think that his drinking is the cause of any of our problems but it is to blame for all of them. I love him and do not want to leave him but I do not want to live like this. He drinks everyday, and after I put my 9 month old to bed I have to do the same for him. All aspects of out relationship is going down hill and he thinks it is all me. What do I do?

2006-07-15 14:44:24 · 4 answers · asked by jess b 1

2006-07-15 14:23:35 · 12 answers · asked by purpledog 2

2006-07-15 14:18:30 · 21 answers · asked by purpledog 2

I was married fir going on 8 years, we still are, but we're going through a divorce now and he's already moved on and is having sex. It seems too hard for me and I would feel wrong, like Im cheating if I have sex with someone else. Mind you thoughI havent been looking for sex or another man, Im just trying to cope. But if another guy came along would it still be alright?

2006-07-15 14:15:19 · 14 answers · asked by josielove455 2

I got married to this woman to help her get her kids back but i think it's the worse mistke i made in my life and i'm living to tell my ordeal. every thing is a problem for her where i'm concerned. she wants me to love her kid as mine but they are very disrespectful,lired,rude. they are all over 18 yrs. do you think i'm doing thje right thing by wanting to get out of this situation.

for my family it's a problem when i'm with them but it's ok for her when she is with her family. I ask the question last week about when a wife lies to protect her children so this is a litlle more details.

2006-07-15 14:13:58 · 14 answers · asked by waynegray490 1

The divorce was a shock and I was very much in love.

2006-07-15 14:00:51 · 9 answers · asked by Chad H 1