Yes, my ex has made it clear to me she wants nothing more to do with me but I can't get her out of my head. My wife accepts I do and always will love the "other" woman but wants to stay with me to make it work (My wife has had 2 moments of infidelity in our relationship, so although I love her, I'm not sure where our relationship is going). I just miss my ex so much, some days are better than others but generally I just wish she was still part of my life, as a friend, there must be something I can do to get back our friendship.
2006-07-15 15:58:48 · 10 answers · asked by TheViking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wanting your ex to be part of your life as a friend is not right. If you forgive your wife for her infidelities then strife to strengthen your relationship with her. Don't even think about your ex. She's your ex for a reason or reasons-keep it that way. If you don't forgive your wife, divorce her and then hopefully you can pursue a relationship with your ex. Do not hope to have anything to do with your ex as long as you are still married to your wife. Don't be greedy. Do not covet what's not yours. Not even in the form of a "friendship" cos it is not as simple as that.
2006-07-15 23:25:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all why is she an ex if you still love her? It must not of been your choice and if that was the case and you were still in love with her why did you marry this other woman? Your wife now must feel bad about knowing you still love the ex, that has to be the worst nightmare for a woman knowing the man she is married to loves someone else. Not sure how to get the friendship back because if you two parted on good terms it would be there so your ex has a reason not to be in your life again. Sorry if this sounds harsh but realize she doesn't want to be in your life and just maybe you can move on and start feeling for your wife.
2006-07-15 23:05:38 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You just need to decide what (not who) you want. Time to accept the difficult reality that your ex does not want you back. Maybe it is time to ask yourself why that is. As far as you always thinking about her...I've been told that men always think more about the one who got away. It sounds like your present wife is not handling you loving the other woman too well if she has been unfaithful. I have known only one couple who were able to remain friends after their divorce, and they did not begin that process by making it clear to the other one that they wanted nothing to do with each other. Sorry. But I feel you need to get your head on straight, figure out if you want to stay with your present wife, and if you do, you need to start putting all of your energy into your relationship with her. Stop wishing for something you do not have. If you are sure you don't love your present wife, do the right thing--move out.
2006-07-15 23:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by magnoliasandjazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXX first of all, your wife needs a reality check. How dare she let you get away with such conduct. If you were my husband you would have been kicked to the curb a long time ago. Love makes some people except the infidelity in others because they are insecure about themselves and maybe think they can't do better. Look in the mirror hun. Ol wifey is not letting you go just yet but look harder, you'll start to fade. She's not happy, she's just afraid to be alone. XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-15 23:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you keep thinking about her because you choose to...if you really wanted to be faithful to your wife you would give it all you have. if you are thinking about another woman, your mind is not on your marriage, you are obviously not taking care of things at home and I am not just talking about sex. Are you there for your wife emotionally, is that why she wandered...make up your mind, be a man not a double minded dog
2006-07-15 23:22:09 · answer #5 · answered by snowcrablegs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are looking to the first wife because the second one isn't quite what you had hoped for. you are with the second one and not the first one. the first one doesn't want you the second one does (at least most of the time). there is a reason you married the second wife, right?
2006-07-15 23:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not fair to your wife an ex is an ex all your what ifs or feelings should have been resolved before you remarried.Being your ex's friend will only hurt your marriage.
2006-07-15 23:09:21 · answer #7 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone.You are asking or trouble.If you still having feelings for her then you will try to rekindle that relationship.Just be happy with your wife and try to forgive her and move on,
2006-07-15 23:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no,dont even bother with it.who is it affecting most.you, right!!!!!! it's not bothering me, or your mail man or the police down the street.only you and just maybe the wife---wife.say that back to yourself a few times. dont be stupid or unrealistic, you will end up alone.with no one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-16 18:50:07 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CUZ UR AN ***
2006-07-15 23:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♫♪♥PUSSaY FART♫♪♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋