How do I rebound after a divorce?

Question

The divorce was a shock and I was very much in love.

Answer 1

Sorry to tell you honey but there is no rebound. Just take it one day at a time. You can't fix what's broken so badly so don't try. Just allow yourself time to heal from a wound so deep. Do your best to look for positives in life even though it seems like there are none right now. Do not start dating again until you are completely over the divorce. Trying to date now would be a huge mistake, and could run off a good mate and you not even know it. Allow yourself time to rediscover yourself then try again.

Answer 2

I am going through a divorce too. It starts as a shock, then grief, anger, all that is going on. You cannot unfortunately control anyone else. You need to think of all the goodness you have to share and pray you find someone that appreciates it. It is good to feel the loss, necessary. Now you have to think of it as a mixed blessing and think about the future ahead for yourself and how much happier you will be. I too loved my ex, but he chose a a different path, I have come to accept it and realize I am going to be a lot better off. Think this...a year from now you will be a lot happier!

Answer 3

I have been there... The best thing you can do is totally forget about the person who left you. The worst thing you can do is dwell on it, because that is bad for your health and is exactly what you former partner wants you to do. Get rid of any pics or momentos you had together and go forward with your life. The only thing you want to take with you from your failed marriage is what you learned as far as your mistakes and try to do better the next time around. Date casually for awhile, be very positive and something good will come along when the time is right.

Answer 4

Hey
Well how long were you married? It is best when you breakup/divorce to reflect and not to jump into anything right away. Spend time really getting to know yourself over again. Marriage and relationships bring out all of your "stuff" the good the bad and the UGLY! So its best to just spend that time really getting back to You, do things you like to do, do things that you were not able to do, while married, date with no strings attached, GO TO VEGAS!!!, Enjoy your life, and then after you feel like you have gotten back to yourself and healed from this, maybe get serious about someone new who loves YOU!
SMOOCHES
Rayjenne

Answer 5

I went through it a few years ago myself. I started hanging with friends and family and doing things that I wanted to do. When you start dating don't get too involved with any one person for awhile....date around some before you get tied down again. I waited for 2 years before I got seriously involved with someone and waiting has definetly helped. We have been together for 9 years now and I have no desire to be with anyone else since I got that all out of my system the 2 years that I was single. It was a great 2 years but after that I was ready to settle down again. Within no time you will wonder what you ever seen in your ex. especially if she left you for another person.

Answer 6

Take your time, give yourself a break. Just chill out and allow yourself time to work thru it. It's difficult and takes quite some time. Be yourself, know that it'll be alrite and work thru it. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 7

that is hard question to answer and is one that depnds if you have kids or not you need to move ahead and to know that the right thing will happen stay positive and think pf tomorrow not last week

Answer 8

Do something good for yourself, like take a college class.

Answer 9

Give it time....Good Luck & Best Wishes...!!